I had replied to a forum ad requesting a meet for new years eve with a couple... I was and am genuine about meeting, they were not to far to travel and had a good profile. I didnt drink until I heard from them so I could drive and meet.
Upon gettin a txt I called.. spoke to the gentleman of the couple.. spoke for a few minutes about what they wanted and I said thats sounds good to me...
When I asked to speak to the lady of the couple I was told... 'She doesnt speak on the phone its not her cup of tea to be honest'...
Now call me cynical, but without speaking to the female part of the couple I wasnt to keen to meet... So going through my mind was... well shes ok with me, a stranger, coming round her house to have sex for the evening and then leave... but not ok to speak and prove that they were genuine over the phone...
what do others think about this.. should I of took the plunge and met.. or better safe then sorry...
happy new year!
daz
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Is this weird in the swinging scene?
Sex God
Does sound a bit iffy to me Daz!
Can understand that it's a bit nervewracking for people to speak to someone on the phone first time, but I'm sure a quick hi wouldn't have gone a-miss!
Everyone is nervous in that situation, but I think you're right, if you're nervous about talking on the phone, then how nervous are you going to be by the time you actually meet?!
We would be suspicious if we didn't get to speak to both parties!!!
M xx
Can understand that it's a bit nervewracking for people to speak to someone on the phone first time, but I'm sure a quick hi wouldn't have gone a-miss!
Everyone is nervous in that situation, but I think you're right, if you're nervous about talking on the phone, then how nervous are you going to be by the time you actually meet?!
We would be suspicious if we didn't get to speak to both parties!!!
M xx
Sex God
Well I wouldn't have risked it but it's slightly different (in terms of safety) for a female.
Orgasminator
A lot of strange people out there you did the right thing.
Sex God
sorry for the hyjack daz, but am i the only person to find Tools avatar scarey, it looks like the bastard child of a shagfest between Darkfire and Markz :scared:
I too would be sceptical and just give it a miss as there is just too much doubt as to whether she is really willing, knows what has been planned or even exists… however…
I was having a chat with a couple at the club a few weeks back and the wifey was explaining that she never had anything to do with any of the arrangements when they wanted to have a guy around (in fact it was just the same at the club – she went into a private room and he went off to pick the guy) it was all part of the excitement for her and it spoilt it if she had to talk to the guys before hand. They did say it had caused problems but it was an important part of ‘their thing’ that the hubby arranged everything.
I was having a chat with a couple at the club a few weeks back and the wifey was explaining that she never had anything to do with any of the arrangements when they wanted to have a guy around (in fact it was just the same at the club – she went into a private room and he went off to pick the guy) it was all part of the excitement for her and it spoilt it if she had to talk to the guys before hand. They did say it had caused problems but it was an important part of ‘their thing’ that the hubby arranged everything.
Sex God
thats a cruel thing to say about H'red 
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
I was having a chat with a couple at the club a few weeks back and the wifey was explaining that she never had anything to do with any of the arrangements when they wanted to have a guy around (in fact it was just the same at the club – she went into a private room and he went off to pick the guy) it was all part of the excitement for her and it spoilt it if she had to talk to the guys before hand. They did say it had caused problems but it was an important part of ‘their thing’ that the hubby arranged everything.
That's fair enough, but if that was the case, the man he spoke to could have explained that.
Quote by Scandal
it spoilt it if she had to talk to the guys before hand.
I arranged to see a woman whose fantasy it was to never actually see the guy.
She wanted to be blindfolded and just have me come round ...
She had a very large plasma tele, top of the range DVD recorder and her car keys were hanging up in the kitchen.
As she was single at the time I suggested to her that it wasn't a good idea to answer the door blindfolded.
True story!!
I could actually see under it you know
:lol: :lol: Quote by Scandal
it spoilt it if she had to talk to the guys before hand.
I arranged to see a woman whose fantasy it was to never actually see the guy.
She wanted to be blindfolded and just have me come round ...
She had a very large plasma tele, top of the range DVD recorder and her car keys were hanging up in the kitchen.
As she was single at the time I suggested to her that it wasn't a good idea to answer the door blindfolded.
True story!!
She answered the door blindfolded???
You could've been the vicar!
Sex God
Quote by Scandal
it spoilt it if she had to talk to the guys before hand.
I arranged to see a woman whose fantasy it was to never actually see the guy.
She wanted to be blindfolded and just have me come round ...
She had a very large plasma tele, top of the range DVD recorder and her car keys were hanging up in the kitchen.
As she was single at the time I suggested to her that it wasn't a good idea to answer the door blindfolded.
True story!!
I could actually see under it you know
:lol: :lol:Yes but standing at the bar blindfolded just so you don't have to buy a drink is pushing it!!
What did the neighbours say about the naked man knocking on your door? :lol:
Apparantly they said "It must be cold out"
Sex God
I too had phone contact with the male of a 'couple' where when I asked if I could have a word with the lady of the pair he said she was "too shy" to come to the phone.
I said how do I know she exsists until she has a word with me?I really got the feeling 'she' didn't and politely declined the offer of a 'threesome' with 'them'.
A couple of days later the guy rang me again on a Satuday afternoon and told me it was 'her' birthday and proposed I turn up as a 'suprise' for her that night.I said maybe it wasn't a good idea to spring me on her like that, and that she might not fancy me as her 'suprise' anyway lol!
He then asked me if I'd ever had fantasies about kissing a guy and I said no not really, nothing against guys doing that if they so wish but its just not my thing that he then kept saying surely I'd wondered about kissing a guy and would I like to try it with him?I then made my excuses and cut the call short.
In this case I don't think this fellow had a willing female partner,or a female full stop, there at all.
I said how do I know she exsists until she has a word with me?I really got the feeling 'she' didn't and politely declined the offer of a 'threesome' with 'them'.
A couple of days later the guy rang me again on a Satuday afternoon and told me it was 'her' birthday and proposed I turn up as a 'suprise' for her that night.I said maybe it wasn't a good idea to spring me on her like that, and that she might not fancy me as her 'suprise' anyway lol!
He then asked me if I'd ever had fantasies about kissing a guy and I said no not really, nothing against guys doing that if they so wish but its just not my thing that he then kept saying surely I'd wondered about kissing a guy and would I like to try it with him?I then made my excuses and cut the call short.
In this case I don't think this fellow had a willing female partner,or a female full stop, there at all.
Quote by markz
sorry for the hyjack daz, but am i the only person to finf Tools avatar scarey, it looks like the bastard child of a shagfest between Darkfire and Markz :scared:
but the dogs nearly bald and ginger...............er who's ginger and nearly bald that I know
I've tried so hard for so long not to laugh but I can't actually hold it in anymore
Sorry Meaty - but for markz it was a good come-back.
Quote by PoloLady
sorry for the hyjack daz, but am i the only person to finf Tools avatar scarey, it looks like the bastard child of a shagfest between Darkfire and Markz :scared:
but the dogs nearly bald and ginger...............er who's ginger and nearly bald that I know
I've tried so hard for so long not to laugh but I can't actually hold it in anymore
Sorry Meaty - but for markz it was a good come-back.
two hearts beat as one :roll:
Casanova
I would feel uncomfortable not speaking to other person{s} by phone.
It has been known for a guy to arrange a "surprise" for his partner {female knowing nothing about it}
Wouldnt matter how local the meet was, I would decline the offer.
dee
It has been known for a guy to arrange a "surprise" for his partner {female knowing nothing about it}
Wouldnt matter how local the meet was, I would decline the offer.
dee
Sex God
Quote by Rich_and_dee
I would feel uncomfortable not speaking to other person{s} by phone.
It has been known for a guy to arrange a "surprise" for his partner {female knowing nothing about it}
Wouldnt matter how local the meet was, I would decline the offer.
dee
As I posted earlier the so-called 'birthday suprise' that guy wanted to spring on his 'wife' (if she exsisted at all that is!) was a recipe for disaster, me just turning up on their doorstep over 100 miles away from here to 'join them' in a proposed threesome 'she' knew nothing about - mad!
Sex God
Quote by doubleyourfun69
We wouldn't meet until both fems chat - there are too many single "couples" around.
The first chat is always a little embarassing to start with - but can sometimes turn into a marathon event!
Ali x
The phone chat makes or breaks it but when it goes well it can lead to that all important in-person meet and can be a major factor in that meet leading to all agreeing to play together!
I'm more suprised about the lady refusing to talk, being a lady myself I always chat on phone, MSN, text or whatever and get to know the people before meets, a meet would never take place upon my other half's pure say so, unless (and I'm sure this has been said before.) she is simply 'going along' with this all for her hubby's benefit
Sex God
I suppose one option is to meet in a pub locally first - it can make it a bit 'organised' but great for getting relaxed about it. Also gives you the chance to see the lady exists - or doesn't. If he comes up with - she had to look after the dog - or some such excuse you haven't wasted too much time - and at least you have a drink 
