One thing that gets up our nose are friends requests from people we have never spoken with.
We are led to believe that some similar sites allow automatic access to private galleries to friends, and maybe this might be the motivation for some people. However as far as we have ever known the only benefit, for want of a better word, offered by SH is being able to see when each other are online.
So what's the point in claiming to be friends with someone who you never interact with?
The profiles/ads that make me smile are the ones which say "only looking for local meets", but they don't share their location details! :doh: :lol2:
For most of us who are put off by people who have themselves described as "Professional" it is not all about thier qualifications, it is about thier need to tell everyone, I am sure there are many professionals in swinging who never mention it, in conversation or on thier profiles, they are what they are at work and they are what they are in thier swinging lifestyle.
Those that do feel the need to tell everyone about thier qualifications fall into 3 main categories ....
Some are seeking thier peers, other professionals, people with a similar background and education level with whom they believe they will be more compatible and enjoy the same vanilla leisure time activities.
Some are up thier own arses and are not qualified in the ways of the professional but do what they consider to be a job above others and feel a need to call themselves professional, like I said my window cleaner does a very professional job of my windows, the guy who collects my bin does a very professional job of it, most Asda staff are excellent at thier jobs, they do them in a very professional way, some people use a lot of skill to do the work they do, skill, experience and dedication but it does not make them professionals in the achedemic sense of the word.
Some think that putting professional on thier profiles will get them more meets because many others put the same thing.
So it's not really about the word or the qualifications it is about the people who use it and why that puts some others off meeting them, in the same way that our very long profile puts off others.
i know lords, ladies, knights of the realm, brickies, roofers, you name it. a tosser will always be a tosser. sorry to be blunt but never judge any one till you have met them. and i don't mean in our way. we can write anything on here, it doesn't mean thats what we are or who we are. or even our pics are real. meet people, thats when you find out
When it comes to pictures we understand totally that some people cannot put identifiable pictures in thier public profile, I wonder why some don't put non-identifiable pics in there, faces/tattoos etc blotted out, full body shots from the rear, but each to thier own. for us pics are important, we do need to find people sexually attractive to make us feel we want to have sex with them, we understand that for many this kind of attraction is not important whatsoever, for others it is the penis size, or the age and so on.
If there are no pictures we move on, if people with no pics contact us we explain our preference to them and wish them lots of fun, no pictures or pictures of close up body parts does nothing, the only time we find it annoying is when we do explain but they come back to us saying "we do have pictures" we check again only to find they are group fun pictures and you don't know who is who or which man and woman you would actually be meeting or they are just close up pussies n cocks.
Can I ask ? does any man on here arrange a meet JUST BECAUSE he likes the look of a womans pussy whne she has a close up picture with her legs open ? or do there need to be other factors involved, (yes I know the size of some willies does attract some women which is why I ask the men only).
I tend not to bother attempting to meet people who show photos with their heads missing. more often than not there is an ugly scar on the scalp, where the brain was removed.
Where you only see body parts, these have been arranged in a mortuary. missing feet? its been a long time since WW1 but apparently Trench Foot is still around.
I would like to add I the 'professional' aspect of this debate.
On our profile we have used the word 'professional' an stated that we would like to meet like minded people. This term has not been used to describe our educational/employment status or lack of! We have used the terms a a polite way to say - no chavs.
I (Mr Z) am happy to admit that I have working class root and do not associate education/employment status with class. There are plenty of rich chavs where I live. We used the 'professional' term or this reason and see it as the most appropriate and polite way to filter out chavs - regardless of background.
When we have met with other couples, they seemed to have appreciated using the professional term as it gives them confidence that we are not likely to be morons. I am therefore surprised it irks some people when our feedback for it has been positive.