... I think, seems to be the lessons learned from this court case:
Now, apologies if this has already come up on here as the article is about a week old, but I didn't find a thread about it and I was pretty disturbed when I read it, so I want to see what some other people think. I suppose I don't know the, um, ins and outs of the case, but I think it must have come down to one of three possible situations -
1 (which is I guess what the court and the journalist believed) She went there, had consensual sex with all six men, having a whale of a time, and then subsequently decided she wanted to have them all tried and convicted for , presumably because she's some kind of fruitloop.
2 she was "entertaining the prospect of group sex" with all five guys but when she got there and experienced the reality of the situation, she decided she didn't fancy it. But they did, so they all her.
3 (as she said) she had never intended to have sex with any more than one of the guys; she had fantasies about group sex but that's all they were, fantasies; she had let slip to one of the guys that she had fantasies involving group sex when she was chatting on the instant messenger; he had persuaded her to come and meet him, and he then conspired with his five mates to her.
Now, to be honest I have no way of knowing, and nor does anyone other than the seven people involved, which of these three situations pertains in this case and it would be interesting to know why the prosecutor dropped the case - maybe she hadn't admitted, or had denied, these chats, and so that's why her credibility was "shot to pieces".
But there is an undertone in here that the mere fact that she fantasised about group sex tainted her. And although there is an implication in the article that she had (in advance of the situation, over MSN) agreed to have group sex, it doesn't actually say this; her lawyer said "It is right to say that there is material in the chatlogs from the complainant, who is prepared to entertain ideas of group sex with strangers". There's a big difference between entertaining ideas and consenting to something. I routinely entertain ideas about all manner of things I have no desire at all to actually really do.
But actually her fantasies in advance of the situation aren't really relevant. There is a profound difference between fantasy and reality. The fact of the matter is, whatever you say in advance, if you don't agree to people having sex with you at the actual time it's happening, and they do it anyway, it's . Whatever fantasies you have. It shouldn't make a difference whether or not she had had and enjoyed group sex before, or whether she had actually agreed to have sex with all the men; if when she got there she didn't want to do it, that should be the end of things.
But the law evidently doesn't see things that way. is, of course, often hard to prove, and often comes down to whether the jury believe consent was given, and if the lawyers decided the jury were going to view her negatively because of her fantasies... it would have been hard to get a conviction. So where does that leave things? I guess if you are going to meet people for whatever reason, and you've been talking about your fantasies over the internet beforehand... be very careful where you meet them? Because writing down your fantasies can be interpreted in court as written consent. Even if you're only entertaining ideas.
T
(oh also - hello! I haven't been on here for some time but this article made me want to come on the forum.)
If 1 is tue - she has committed a criminal offence.
If 2 or 3 - the men have committed criminal offences.
Every human being on the planet has the right to refuse sex AT ANY POINT.
Sadly people are often 'tainted' in the eyes of the court if their preferences/fantasies don't conform with social 'norms'. (yeh right - no judge has ever been tied up and whipped - much).
Also, there does come a point where responding to a demand to stop becomes difficult if not impossible to comply with. But that could only possibly count for 1 guy. Not the other 5.
This is a very hard case to answer - even in court where the facts are brought out. In this forum - impossible.
What it does show is how important it is to be ulta-careful who and where we meet.
Well - that does kind of seem to be the line they took in this case - "think like a slut - get what you deserve".
Perhaps if she had been upfront about the whole setup from the outset her credibility might have fared better than the chat logs suddenly coming out. I'm not really sure though.
I think it's possibly wise to assume that when you venture into these kind of situations... you're pretty much on your own if it goes wrong, so be careful.
I suspect that the six men saying they didn't her outweighed her saying they did.
After that her fantasies were just the final straw.
It is not ok to anyone, NO means NO!
Not much to it is there?
Makes me cross when judges and lawyers decide that a jury is incapable of making an informed decision. In fact its a disgrace that anybody's conduct before an incident whether fantasy or consensual is considered consent at the time. As far as I am concerned consent can be given or withdrawn at any time. Let the jury decide is my firm, possibly entrenched and maybe even bigoted view.
I think it's right to reiterate a couple of the points that one or two previous posters have made.
1. The judge did NOT throw the case out or fail to give the jury a chance to decide for themselves. The prosecution decided to 'offer no evidence'. Bearing in mind the principle of 'presumed innocent until proven guilty' and that, in order to secure a conviction, the prosecution must prove their case 'beyond all reasonable doubt', if the prosecution offers no evidence then the case cannot be proven and the judge had no option but to 'direct the jury to return a verdict of not guilty'. Legally, there was nothing else that could be done.
2. Max777 makes the point that we are NOT in full possession of the facts. Michael Leeming is a hugely experienced (and usually pretty successful) QC. If he felt that there was something in those logs which compromised his case to the point where it was useless to proceed then I believe it. He is certainly not one to 'bottle it' lightly.
I don't think anything that either the prosecutor or the judge said implies that if a woman fantasises about goup sex then she has already expressed her consent. IF the defence had tried to argue that then it would have been worth discussing here. Whether they would have done so we shall never know.
I am clear that NO MEANS NO. It is, of course, right to say that anyone has a right to change their mind at any point. I for one would always respect that, and I feel sure that the vast majority of people on this site would also.
I regard as one of the most heinous of crimes (perhaps second only to murder, whether attempted or actual). Whilst this means that all allegations of should be taken extremely seriously it also means that before convicting a man, or a group of men, of such a serious crime, the court needs to be absolutely convinced of their guilt.
There are a very small number (and I want to emphasise that) of alleged rapes which come about as the result of someone changing their mind after the event. Even though that is extremely rare, the thought of indulging in what I genuinely believed at the time to be consensual sex, only to find myself on a charge after the event brings me out in a cold sweat. Even if it doesn't proceed to court, imagine being hauled into a police station and interrogated as a suspected . Nightmare scenario.
The usual advice aplies. Before meeting up for sex, make sure that everyone is clear about what is permitted and where everyone's boundaries lie. Even then, if someone changes their mind then that is it - no questions asked.
Will
inexperienced woman + evil bastards = not a good combination
On the other hand if the prosecution had been successful, then it opens doors to a bigger debate.
Yeah - I absolutely agree with pretty much everything everyone has said on this thread. I totally agree that we're not in possession of all the facts and therefore this is all speculative. I didn't know anything about the prosecutor in question and if he is an experienced lawyer with a strong record in this sort of case (and possession of many of the facts), then his judgement that the case is very likely to fail is obviously valid.
What probably/seems to have/could well have happened here is that she didn't mention the chats or the fantasies earlier in the case, and therefore as a result of a changing story becomes compromised as a witness. And yes, this doesn't have to be because of any prejudice on their part, just because by not mentioning something that later became part of the case she was shown to have been less than 100% honest.
This in itself is worthy of note. In this scenario she might have not mentioned that stuff originally because she was embarrassed or ashamed or thought it would put her in a bad light, or didn't want her family to know. All of which are understandable. So the point is here that if you get involved in this kind of situation you have to be prepared that if the legal profession becomes involved, from that point on you have to be totally open about everything because otherwise if/when it does come out, your credibility will immediately go to shit.
Now all of this is again entirely conjecture, and you might say irresponsible given the lack of any real knowledge of the case. But nevertheless the hypothetical situation is thought-provoking.
Have people been watching what they say on the site recently?
Or indeed delving back into old threads where they have divulged their wildest desires and attempted to remove old things said in threads; just in case?
I mean if ever the circumstances arose, the 'evidence' would be plain for all to see.
Hmmmmm..................
Why if these people have been cleared have their names and addresses been printed.