Its worth considering your own ability to trust and the consequences of it. Restructuring the website may still not help you.
I say this because, you will always need to be adventurous and trust new people. Which is why you have developed an interest in this lifestyle.
The problem is that it is never actually goign to stop it - short of the administrators personally interviewing it's members before they are given acess to the full site... you are not going to stop it - this is the unfortunate aspect to the internet.
You can however generally tell by the way that people post as to whether they ar egenuine or not - however you must also consider that yes this is a swingers site and you may find couple members logging on on the same log on ....
Hi Firelizard,
sorry you've been having problems.
I've only recently started using the chatrooms and have noticed quite a few idiots spoiling things for everyone else, and upsetting some of the ladies. And some really abusive comments and arguments sometimes. I saw you last night and you are obviously very popular, so I would go along with starting your own room and giving the password to whoever you choose, if someone still gets through the net you can always kick them.
As for guys pretending to be women, you get them on all sites, so not sure what to do about that, except be careful what you say and do unless they have a cam.
Hope it doesn't spoil your way of thinking, there are a lot of genuine people on here.
Hiya
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The problem's not unknown in swinging either - where only the guy turns up and says his 'partner can't make it.' You can make sure a couple is 'genuine' there by suggesting the two ladies chat by phone first (or cam). A couple of times I have suggested this and the 'couple' has dried up!
My own thoughts, for what they're worth, on getting into swinging, is for you maybe to try and meet a couple who has at least some experience. Newbies will (I believe, in spite of opinions to the contrary) tend to have sex at least at the front of their minds because it is a big deal, a new thing, and this reaction is quite understandable. Slightly more experienced swingers know they can have sex with other people more or less any time they want, so when you say you are looking for a degree of friendship they are more likely to be able to respect that. They will also have ideas about how to 'move things on to the next stage' in a non-pushy way, rather than four of you looking at each other and not knowing how and when to say what you all might be thinking lol.
Making friends and networking through the swinging scene is IMHO the least painful way of meeting people. Getting to know people, whether on the forum, MSN-ing or at munches, getting to know people through other people (especially), is better than solitary posts/replies that lead directly to a meet. For most of the people I know on this forum, or through the swinging network (and I still wouldn't say I'm that experienced), the great fun thing is getting together with wonderful people. Whether it involves sex between us on that particular occasion is largely secondary.
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Hi Firelizard
Sorry you have had a bad experience. Unfortunately there are some real pricks out there.
Believe it or not I have had two couples cancel on me at very short notice after booking the hotel and getting there too. I understand this can happen but doesn't make your day does it?
Hope you get better luck soon and that it doesn't put you off.
Cheers
The plan boys and girls is to have a room that anyone of you can open(you have the password) anytime you want and know that if it works properly only the people you know will be able to get in. If the room is not there just create it. Keep the name as Forum users and keep the same password then of you go.
Hmm feel a new thread is on its way.
Although we have only been active on the forum and really enjoyed the experience it is just a pity that a few ruin it for the many.
Can some of these idiots be banned for making fools out of us!!!!!!!!!
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The problem is that it's happened about 3 times to me now because I'm a naturally trusting person and I'm pig sick of it 
It was particularly bad yesterday as I was really explicit whilst talking on MSN to someone I had seen on cam before and told me they were at work in their own office etc etc. (I was'nt camming thank god). I felt such an idiot 
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