Its just something that we were chatting about earlier..
Has anyone else come accross jealousy with another couple.. Where they sort of go a bit odd when you mention another couple your friends with or a meet your going on etc?
Seems a strange thing to us when its happened as we sort of think thats why were all here to start with..
We realise people can get jealous but wondered if its common place.. Should we not mention we meet others? We like being open and honest though.. but don't want people getting upset either.. Ooerr. Whats best guys.. Its happened a few times now and we value peoples friendship but can't be exclusive as such.. Opinions truly welcome.. Thanks x
Mike and Julie xx
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Jealousy Other couples?
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
Yes it happens
and not just with couples.
We have met our fair share of people and we have had the odd one think that because we have met them we shouldn't need to meet any others.
We are swingers and enjoy multiple sexual partners but try explaining that to some :shock:
Tony
We just find it hard to swallow that another couple could sort of expect us to be exclusive.. Were talking about other swingers lol. Surely they see others too... We don't get miffed by that so why should they, just plain odd! takes all sorts we know..
Mike and Julie x
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Quote by mdr2000
Yes it happens
and not just with couples.
We have met our fair share of people and we have had the odd one think that because we have met them we shouldn't need to meet any others.
We are swingers and enjoy multiple sexual partners but try explaining that to some :shock:
Tony
We just find it hard to swallow that another couple could sort of expect us to be exclusive.. Were talking about other swingers lol. Surely they see others too... We don't get miffed by that so why should they, just plain odd! takes all sorts we know..
Mike and Julie x
So definately with you guys on this!
We CHATTED to a cpl a few times on msn and exchanged a fem/fem call etc, pic swap and set about trying to find a suitable time to meet up as they lived a fair distance from us, and with me being on call occasionally it transpired that it would have to be about 5 weeks away........
During this time we kept chatting online and Miss srne mentioned one evening that we were meeting a couple from close by us for a drink etc and to see how it went.
This caused so much grief we couldn't believe it and in the end we blocked them from our msn. We got emails, texts and PM's on here about why we were "messing them about and arranging sneaky meetings with other people" we were pretty taken aback. I thought swingers were supposed to be liberated
PS Go on Sam tell us as you have us intrigued now!!
During this time we kept chatting online and Miss srne mentioned one evening that we were meeting a couple from close by us for a drink etc and to see how it went.
This caused so much grief we couldn't believe it and in the end we blocked them from our msn. We got emails, texts and PM's on here about why we were "messing them about and arranging sneaky meetings with other people" we were pretty taken aback. I thought swingers were supposed to be liberated
PS Go on Sam tell us as you have us intrigued now!!
We are the ox_cple , we agree totally with wot you and others are saying , maybe its something to make clear on approach so to speak ..then if they dont like the idea they can look elsewhere , I think eventually they would realise that this happens on a scene like this. I personally think it goes without saying doesntit?
unless stated in an ad.
regards L & M (the oxys)
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regards L & M (the oxys)
I've heard of this. friends of friends who met a couple for drinks and they said "Don't let on to 'xx-cpl' as we play with them and they might not like this" ... or something similiar.
How sad.
I've had single males get jealous and possessive over me but it seems more odd for couples to be that way, somehow.
How sad.
I've had single males get jealous and possessive over me but it seems more odd for couples to be that way, somehow.
Quote by Marya_Northeast
I've heard of this. friends of friends who met a couple for drinks and they said "Don't let on to 'xx-cpl' as we play with them and they might not like this" ... or something similiar.
How sad.
I've had single males get jealous and possessive over me but it seems more odd for couples to be that way, somehow.
yep me too on both counts
also know of single fems who dont like males who play with them to play with anyone else although its ok for them to do so
Omg it must be something in the water, as we have had this happen to us to. 
And it was only our third meet on the scene and this couple got really funny about us meeting up with another couple just for a drink and a chat. :cheers:
Found it all rather strange even so we had told them that we was looking for half a dozen couples for long term fun.
So now we just don’t say anything.
And it was only our third meet on the scene and this couple got really funny about us meeting up with another couple just for a drink and a chat. :cheers:
Found it all rather strange even so we had told them that we was looking for half a dozen couples for long term fun.
So now we just don’t say anything.
We were actually a bit naive when we started swinging and yes hands up we were one of those couples that attached ourselves to another couple, purely on the basis of uncertainty. By that I mean we relied on this couple to show us the ropes and I think maybe a bit too heavily. There was never any 'jealousy' about them playing with other couples but there was a bit friction in the early days in that I personally felt I needed to be talking to them all the time.
Of course now we're no longer swinging virgins so to speak we're great pals with them and have remained so throughout them playing with other people and us doing so.
One rule of thumb we have is we won't mention the names of those we have played with and that's now mentioned to new couples we meet from the onset.
Of course now we're no longer swinging virgins so to speak we're great pals with them and have remained so throughout them playing with other people and us doing so.
One rule of thumb we have is we won't mention the names of those we have played with and that's now mentioned to new couples we meet from the onset.
Quote by jaymar
One rule of thumb we have is we won't mention the names of those we have played with and that's now mentioned to new couples we meet from the onset.
Yeah us too, we get asked by lots of people "who have you met/played with from the site" but think thats a bit personal as others might not want it broadcast!
Quote by Marya_Northeast
I've had single males get jealous and possessive over me but it seems more odd for couples to be that way, somehow.
Sharon has also, one even turned up at her work :shock:
Must add though, we have found 99.9% of who we have met are great people that fully understand what swinging is about... but like all things, you will always get 1 bad apple in the basket
Tony
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
I've had single males get jealous and possessive over me but it seems more odd for couples to be that way, somehow.
Sharon has also, one even turned up at her work:shock:
Must add though, we have found 99.9% of who we have met are great people that fully understand what swinging is about... but like all things, you will always get 1 bad apple in the basket
Tony
My God :shock: ... reminds us of when we started.. met a local couple (12 miles away) just for a drink etc in a nearby pub, had a really good night chatting what we didn't realise was we were letting on about all kinds of personal stuff.. The next day the guy from the couple turned up at our work place
.. He was just passing as he said and thought he would pop in for coffee as we were not at home!!! Seriously, he had travelled 12 miles to just pass our house it seems then as we were not in came to work lol.. Ok lucky it was our own business but holy cow it made us think sharper next time lol.. Needless to say we didn't see them again and they seemed soo nice!Its a funny lifestyle lol.. We have learned so much and still try so hard to be open and honest.
Sometimes the little niggles at the back of your mind plays tricks though lol... makes us a tad sceptical at times.
Mike x
We've met one or two ppl that just wouldn't accept that we never ever discuss who we have or haven't met.
And that we don't discuss who may or may not be planning to meet.
FFS - we have met that perons(s) for some great all out fun - ok and maybe some recreational sex too
- they don't need to know more than that and we don't need to know any more about them.
Even those people we have met during the course of our swinging exploits that have also become great friends don't know who we do or don't meet - and for us that's exactly how it should be.
We can't and won't be having anything to do with all this jealousy business - this is all about fun to excess not silly little rivalrys (spelling???)
And that we don't discuss who may or may not be planning to meet.
FFS - we have met that perons(s) for some great all out fun - ok and maybe some recreational sex too
- they don't need to know more than that and we don't need to know any more about them.Even those people we have met during the course of our swinging exploits that have also become great friends don't know who we do or don't meet - and for us that's exactly how it should be.
We can't and won't be having anything to do with all this jealousy business - this is all about fun to excess not silly little rivalrys (spelling???)
just had to reply tho this thread
being very young and naive when we first started this, we wanted to meet up with someone who we felt comfy with, and who we had spoken to a lot ... when it came down to meeting a cpl we had talked to for ages, we just didnt hit it off sexually, from mine and my husbands side, we were happy to be friends but that was all.
we stayed in touch and still spoke, i even had them to my house for drinks etc just as friends.
anyway to cut a long story short the female from the cpl started bad mouthing me to other new couples who joined the site, saying we were timewasters etc, which in a lot of ways can be very damaging as a lot of this is based on trust.
i was very upset as i trusted these people, but the top and bottom of it was that they were peeved we didnt wanna have sex with them.
we now please ourselves totally, and have surprised some people in the fact that we are quite nice peeps.
the way i look at it is, if ya gonna get jealous and there be bad feeling .. it makes this whole swinging thing into a relationship with another cpl... thats not what we want i have enough with my husband lol
we just wanna have fun, have sex with nice people, go home and be with each other, not be worrying if we have upset someone by mentioning another meet.
we have learned from mistakes and we always now let people know we are not exclusive to them, if they dont like it .. tuff titty !! lol
being very young and naive when we first started this, we wanted to meet up with someone who we felt comfy with, and who we had spoken to a lot ... when it came down to meeting a cpl we had talked to for ages, we just didnt hit it off sexually, from mine and my husbands side, we were happy to be friends but that was all.
we stayed in touch and still spoke, i even had them to my house for drinks etc just as friends.
anyway to cut a long story short the female from the cpl started bad mouthing me to other new couples who joined the site, saying we were timewasters etc, which in a lot of ways can be very damaging as a lot of this is based on trust.
i was very upset as i trusted these people, but the top and bottom of it was that they were peeved we didnt wanna have sex with them.
we now please ourselves totally, and have surprised some people in the fact that we are quite nice peeps.
the way i look at it is, if ya gonna get jealous and there be bad feeling .. it makes this whole swinging thing into a relationship with another cpl... thats not what we want i have enough with my husband lol
we just wanna have fun, have sex with nice people, go home and be with each other, not be worrying if we have upset someone by mentioning another meet.
we have learned from mistakes and we always now let people know we are not exclusive to them, if they dont like it .. tuff titty !! lol
Sexlightened
Quote by smithscpl
and have surprised some people in the fact that we are quite nice peeps.
:laughabove:
who you trying to kid? you're fookin awful people :P
just messin....we loves ya really
Sexlightened
Its odd but it does happen, even though it should not.
PS fancy a shagg MDR :shock: :shock:
PS fancy a shagg MDR :shock: :shock:
:lol: but worth finding out if you do lol... Sexlightened
we are not jealous type lol
Sexlightened
lol yours you pervs lol
Sexlightened
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