Joys of a blow job ... or not ;)

15 Oct 2008

Here is one for you hedonistic lot. wink

Are there guys who do not enjoy blow jobs?
Personally, I do enjoy them for a short while. However, I don't consider it particularly sexy to see a girl in such a submissive position, regardless if she enjoys doing it or just feels she should. So after a short while, I no longer enjoy it. Trust me, this doesn't exactly boost confidence of the girl-at-work and that sucks. Excuse the pun. biggrin

Anybody else who feels similar?
Disclaimer: This is not a challenge!

15 Oct 2008

mmmmmmm
watching this one with interest!!!!!!
kiss

15 Oct 2008

I love them.
Infact, when it's to completion I go absolutely bananas. lol I mean, seriously, when harry met sally has *nothing* on me!

15 Oct 2008

mmmmmmm... do you!!!!!
??????
kiss

15 Oct 2008

Quote by ayoke71
Here is one for you hedonistic lot.
Are there guys who do not enjoy blow jobs?
Personally, I do enjoy them for a short while. However, I don't consider it particularly sexy to see a girl in such a submissive position, regardless if she enjoys doing it or just feels she should. So after a short while, I no longer enjoy it. Trust me, this doesn't exactly boost confidence of the girl-at-work and that sucks. Excuse the pun. Anybody else who feels similar?
Disclaimer: This is not a challenge!

Hehe - I don't know where to start.
First of all - welcome to the Forum you unhedonistic soul you!
If you don't enjoy a girl being in such a submissive position then why allow it to happen at all as opposed to allowing it for a short while before no longer enjoying it?
If she enjoys it then aren't you being 'abusive' (wrong word but can't think of the right one just now) by stopping her?
Don't quite understand the bit about the girl in work. Care to elucidate?
As fer me - I say ya can't beat a good blow job but then I say that about most consensual sex.
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15 Oct 2008

I love giving but the guy has gotta be comfortable with it if hes not i dont enjoy it as much
and im possibly at my least submissive while doing it loon

15 Oct 2008

@tune
Hehe thanks for the welcome. silly

Didn't think the girl-at-work was too ambiguous. By that I mean the girl that is giving you the blow job.
As for stopping or not stopping, just like guys, girls notice if you are getting more excited or not. So if they notice that, after al the effort and pleasure they put in, that you don't actually get more excited or closer to orgasm, they aren't impressed. I don't think many of us perform oral sex without the aim to make the other person cum or get them close to that point. It isn't like the olympic thought accounts for much or such. wink

@whips
It isn't that I totally dislike it. I do enjoy it but just for a short period of time.

15 Oct 2008

I am not a guy so I can not answer for them.
I would like to say maybe you haven’t yet received a great BJ or you mind is telling you it is a girl in a sub position.
I personally think I am in a dom position when doing it, I see it as taking control over a man. Maybe I am strange here, but if you had said anal then I would agree to it being sub.
What I was wondering in your statement you said “Trust me, this doesn't exactly boost confidence of the girl-at-work and that sucks.” Not a great way of wording this, but if it means you loss your erection, maybe you see it as being not the right thing to be doing so you are not totally relaxed to enjoy it. These are just my opinions other may have a different opinion.

15 Oct 2008

Minxy i feel a bit dom doing it as well lol

15 Oct 2008

Quote by Theladyisaminx
What I was wondering in your statement you said “Trust me, this doesn't exactly boost confidence of the girl-at-work and that sucks.” Not a great way of wording this, but if it means you loss your erection, maybe you see it as being not the right thing to be doing so you are not totally relaxed to enjoy it. These are just my opinions other may have a different opinion.

Sorry if that came 'round the wrong way. Usually, when the girls realise it isn't going anywhere, they tend to feel like they aren't particularly good at giving blow jobs ... when it clearly isn't their fault. So what I am saying is that I don't exactly try to make them feel bad, as it is to me more important that they are having fun than I. Hmm, doesn't sound right either, nvm. biggrin

15 Oct 2008

Quote by Theladyisaminx
I am not a guy so I can not answer for them.
I would like to say maybe you haven’t yet received a great BJ or you mind is telling you it is a girl in a sub position.
I personally think I am in a dom position when doing it, I see it as taking control over a man. Maybe I am strange here, but if you had said anal then I would agree to it being sub.
What I was wondering in your statement you said “Trust me, this doesn't exactly boost confidence of the girl-at-work and that sucks.” Not a great way of wording this, but if it means you loss your erection, maybe you see it as being not the right thing to be doing so you are not totally relaxed to enjoy it. These are just my opinions other may have a different opinion.

yeah, woman is totally in control, as long as you're aroused she's in control of whether you're going to orgasm or not, teasing can make such a difference!
I'd also say that if you're "so so" about it, you just haven't had a great one yet!

15 Oct 2008

Quote by Sixfootsix
I am not a guy so I can not answer for them.
I would like to say maybe you haven’t yet received a great BJ or you mind is telling you it is a girl in a sub position.
I personally think I am in a dom position when doing it, I see it as taking control over a man. Maybe I am strange here, but if you had said anal then I would agree to it being sub.
What I was wondering in your statement you said “Trust me, this doesn't exactly boost confidence of the girl-at-work and that sucks.” Not a great way of wording this, but if it means you loss your erection, maybe you see it as being not the right thing to be doing so you are not totally relaxed to enjoy it. These are just my opinions other may have a different opinion.

yeah, woman is totally in control, as long as you're aroused she's in control of whether you're going to orgasm or not, teasing can make such a difference!
I'd also say that if you're "so so" about it, you just haven't had a great one yet!
Have you? :rascal: lol

15 Oct 2008

Quote by Theladyisaminx
I am not a guy so I can not answer for them.
I would like to say maybe you haven’t yet received a great BJ or you mind is telling you it is a girl in a sub position.
I personally think I am in a dom position when doing it, I see it as taking control over a man. Maybe I am strange here, but if you had said anal then I would agree to it being sub.
What I was wondering in your statement you said “Trust me, this doesn't exactly boost confidence of the girl-at-work and that sucks.” Not a great way of wording this, but if it means you loss your erection, maybe you see it as being not the right thing to be doing so you are not totally relaxed to enjoy it. These are just my opinions other may have a different opinion.

yeah, woman is totally in control, as long as you're aroused she's in control of whether you're going to orgasm or not, teasing can make such a difference!
I'd also say that if you're "so so" about it, you just haven't had a great one yet!
Have you? :rascal: lol

Oh yes!!!!!! YES!!! YES!!! YEEEESSSSSSS!!!!

15 Oct 2008

Quote by ayoke71
What I was wondering in your statement you said “Trust me, this doesn't exactly boost confidence of the girl-at-work and that sucks.” Not a great way of wording this, but if it means you loss your erection, maybe you see it as being not the right thing to be doing so you are not totally relaxed to enjoy it. These are just my opinions other may have a different opinion.

Sorry if that came 'round the wrong way. Usually, when the girls realise it isn't going anywhere, they tend to feel like they aren't particularly good at giving blow jobs ... when it clearly isn't their fault. So what I am saying is that I don't exactly try to make them feel bad, as it is to me more important that they are having fun than I. Hmm, doesn't sound right either, nvm. biggrin

The girl has the control on where it is going I would agree with six, but you can try all night with a guy but if you see it is wrong it isnt going to work your mind has to be right.
Also i don't see I have failed if a guy doesn't cum this way. But I haven't had many problems to be honest.

15 Oct 2008

Welcome to the forums Ayoke, and as the female of this couple, I have to say that LOVE giving oral sex, whether it be to completion or otherwise.
I definately do not feel submissive when doing it, and as Minxy said, I do feel somewhat dominant and in control. I love the licking, sucking, teasing, nibbling and knowing that I am actually giving pleasure from something I totally enjoy doing myself.
Personally, I would rather give than receive, but then again, Ive always been a bit odd wink

15 Oct 2008

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Welcome to the forums Ayoke, and as the female of this couple, I have to say that LOVE giving oral sex, whether it be to completion or otherwise.
I definately do not feel submissive when doing it, and as Minxy said, I do feel somewhat dominant and in control. I love the licking, sucking, teasing, nibbling and knowing that I am actually giving pleasure from something I totally enjoy doing myself.
Personally, I would rather give than receive, but then again, Ive always been a bit odd

Oh Jeeez - fight fair woman :legscrossedhandspressedfirmlyintocrotch:
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15 Oct 2008

I really like it, its the way she lets me know that she is ready for some bedroom fun. I really do like it to completion, doesn't happen that often. When it does... oh my wink

15 Oct 2008

Quote by westerross
Oh Jeeez - fight fair woman :legscrossedhandspressedfirmlyintocrotch:
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:rotflmao: :rotflmao:
... and you have room to talk, flaunting your body in the shower to all us hot blooded women :twisted:

15 Oct 2008

Hi Ayoke....try having a look at this
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/153311.html
Something I posted a looong time ago when I met a guy who didn't like receiving.
Oh, btw........someone changed his mind :angel:
And :welcome:

15 Oct 2008

Welcome!
I enjoy giving oral sex as much as sex itself, and don't feel in any way that I am submissive to the male. I know many women who are the same and find it rather delicious whether the man cums or not.
I guess it's just about communicating gently to the woman who you are with before she gets jaw ache!!

15 Oct 2008

Quote by winchwench
Hi Ayoke....try having a look at this
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/153311.html
Something I posted a looong time ago when I met a guy who didn't like receiving.
Oh, btw........someone changed his mind :angel:
And :welcome:

Ooh I've been feeling a bit iffy about BJs lately....
innocent

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15 Oct 2008

Quote by ayoke71
Sorry if that came 'round the wrong way. Usually, when the girls realise it isn't going anywhere, they tend to feel like they aren't particularly good at giving blow jobs ... when it clearly isn't their fault. So what I am saying is that I don't exactly try to make them feel bad, as it is to me more important that they are having fun than I. Hmm, doesn't sound right either, nvm.

Why would you want to make them feel bad at all?
I'm sorry my friend - maybe it is just your language but I'm detecting a chauvinistic undertone to your position on this. Prove me wrong. I'm not having a dig - just want to understand your position better.
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15 Oct 2008

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Welcome to the forums Ayoke, and as the female of this couple, I have to say that LOVE giving oral sex, whether it be to completion or otherwise.
I definately do not feel submissive when doing it, and as Minxy said, I do feel somewhat dominant and in control. I love the licking, sucking, teasing, nibbling and knowing that I am actually giving pleasure from something I totally enjoy doing myself.
Personally, I would rather give than receive, but then again, Ive always been a bit odd

Sound like my kinda gal. redface

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15 Oct 2008

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Welcome to the forums Ayoke, and as the female of this couple, I have to say that LOVE giving oral sex, whether it be to completion or otherwise.
I definately do not feel submissive when doing it, and as Minxy said, I do feel somewhat dominant and in control. I love the licking, sucking, teasing, nibbling and knowing that I am actually giving pleasure from something I totally enjoy doing myself.
Personally, I would rather give than receive, but then again, Ive always been a bit odd

Same here. I don't feel in the least bit submisive when I'm giving - rather the opposite! I do get so turned on when a guy is enjoying a bj from me :wink:

15 Oct 2008

Quote by westerross

Sorry if that came 'round the wrong way. Usually, when the girls realise it isn't going anywhere, they tend to feel like they aren't particularly good at giving blow jobs ... when it clearly isn't their fault. So what I am saying is that I don't exactly try to make them feel bad, as it is to me more important that they are having fun than I. Hmm, doesn't sound right either, nvm.

Why would you want to make them feel bad at all?
I'm sorry my friend - maybe it is just your language but I'm detecting a chauvinistic undertone to your position on this. Prove me wrong. I'm not having a dig - just want to understand your position better.
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Hehe don't worry. I am not easily offended. Your guess was right, it is in the language. I am probably as far from chauvinistic as one can be, if I may say so for myself. In simple English it would have been: It is/was not my intention to make a girl feel bad.
Thanks for the link, winch, at least I am not the only one ... ever. :D Something you wrote in that topic pretty much also applies to me, though I did not mention it. I also am a bit ambivalent about the sensation. -> feels pleasant and unpleasant at the same time, if that makes sense.

15 Oct 2008

Hell yes :rascal:

15 Oct 2008

Hiya ayoke wave

welcome to forums biggrin

As to you thinking of a fem being a little on the submissive side thats easy remedied have a BJ with cuffs and a blindfold on you! :lol2:
I do get your point though, that if you as a man are not into that blow job your receiving at that point in time, the girl who is 'putting in the work' on you (i take work to mean effort :D) may note by the state of your hard-on that it ain't doing you no favours and take that as a possible affront to her oral abilities.
Maybe I can see this clearly as I'm not a lover of BJ's personally, though to be fair I do enjoy it more since posting last apon another topic regarding BJ's. I think thats because the discussion J and I had after that post enlightened us both.
I found out that it was OK not to be able to 'complete' from a BJ and that I could just enjoy the sensation of mouth on cock without the pressure to cum which is I guess what turned me off the idea. That and the fact that it wouldn't 'disappoint/piss off the person giving the BJ to realise that.
Please someone tell me this makes some sense? I'm serious here does it?