Judged....

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Phuckers

i walk into a lift and a woman clutches her bag tightly by her...am i stereotyped or judge?

Paranoid. Maybe she just changed position or something.
paranoid....excatly its not being judged
Rant over!
Paranoid? Possibly.
Stereotyped? Probably.
But for you to have noticed something that subtle, I get the impression you sort of half expected it. So to a degree you possibly stereotyped her too.
now what did you base your assuption on?
what are you
You stereotyped the woman by assuming she was clutching her bag tightly to her because you entered the lift.

2 Aug 2008

I agree with the last two posts.
anyone who says / believes "i am not judgmental" are really kidding themselves, although probably unknowingly. I'm sure most of us would resist the tag of 'judgmentalist' << peteword rolleyes

We use our judgment all the time, we hear things and have an opinion, that opinion is a judgment,.
we meet people and form a view of them, that view is a judgment.
we are told stuff about people and form a picture, that picture is a judgment.
The sad thing is that 9 times out of ten, the judgments we make about others are so very wrong...
as some famous git once said, spend an hour in my shoes, walk a mile down my street, spend 10 minute in my mind, then judge me.
or words to that effect, i may actually have just made that up but it works :roll:
happy holidays passionkiss

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Freckledbird

i walk into a lift and a woman clutches her bag tightly by her...am i stereotyped or judge?

Paranoid. Maybe she just changed position or something.
paranoid....excatly its not being judged
Rant over!
Paranoid? Possibly.
Stereotyped? Probably.
But for you to have noticed something that subtle, I get the impression you sort of half expected it. So to a degree you possibly stereotyped her too.
now what did you base your assuption on?
what are you
You stereotyped the woman by assuming she was clutching her bag tightly to her because you entered the lift.
am sorry i dont get your point,we seem to go on the same circle!

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Phuckers

You stereotyped the woman by assuming she was clutching her bag tightly to her because you entered the lift.

am sorry i dont get your point,we seem to go on the same circle!
You stereotyped her by saying she clutched her bag tightly to her when you got in the lift. You're assuming that she would find your presence threatening in some way.

2 Aug 2008

Phuckers, you made an assumption about the woman's reasons for doing what she did.
For example; seconds before you entered that lift, said woman may have been admiring the cum-soaked panties she'd just stashed in her handbag after a night of torrid sex with her lover. She may have hurriedly clutched the bag toward her so you didn't see it's contents.
I've done things before that could be misconstrued as something they weren't, if that's what someone was inclined to assume.
:thumbup:

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Phuckers

i walk into a lift and a woman clutches her bag tightly by her...am i stereotyped or judge?

Paranoid. Maybe she just changed position or something.
paranoid....excatly its not being judged
Rant over!
Paranoid? Possibly.
Stereotyped? Probably.
But for you to have noticed something that subtle, I get the impression you sort of half expected it. So to a degree you possibly stereotyped her too.
now what did you base your assumption on?
It wasn't an assumption, it was a possibility.
The word "possibly" was a bit of a giveaway on that one! rolleyes

2 Aug 2008

Miss; I think everyone gets judged both here and in the real world,
for me here...for sometime i feel tho i have been judged, lol; it is so true that we all have an inner me, this is what makes us what we are, The real you or me.. is something special, you can as the saying goes "lead a horse to water ..but can't make it drink.." - if people can't or wont take time to find the real person in someone, they are the poorer, well in most cases...
some humans are so cynical.....
jw

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Freckledbird

You stereotyped the woman by assuming she was clutching her bag tightly to her because you entered the lift.

am sorry i dont get your point,we seem to go on the same circle!
You stereotyped her by saying she clutched her bag tightly to her when you got in the lift. You're assuming that she would find your presence threatening in some way.
you've just answered my intial question its worst to be stereotyped for your appearance or background!

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Phuckers

You stereotyped the woman by assuming she was clutching her bag tightly to her because you entered the lift.

am sorry i dont get your point,we seem to go on the same circle!
You stereotyped her by saying she clutched her bag tightly to her when you got in the lift. You're assuming that she would find your presence threatening in some way.
you've just answered my intial question its worst to be stereotyped for your appearance or background!
No I haven't. I made no assumptions about you and your background, or the woman and her background. You were suggesting that she would clutch her bag to her when you got in the lift. Hence you stereotyped her.

2 Aug 2008

Phuckers, I think the lady clutched her bag to her only cause she was trying to descretly check inside to see if she had any condoms (obviously she had been perving your pics on SH before getting into the lift with you so yes, she was stereotyping you on your appearance) wink

However, I have to say that when I am in a lift with anyone I always clutch my bag to me. Not that I think anyone would want to nick it, I just know if I dont keep it close to me, I will probably knock the person out with it lol

Quote by Joewally
.....you can as the saying goes "lead a horse to water ..but can't make it drink.." - if people can't or wont take time to find the real person in someone, they are the poorer, well in most cases...
some humans are so cynical.....
jw

Not going to write anything philosophical as I think this bit above says it all. We all judge (intentionally or otherwise) and we all make stereotypical judgements of people (again, intentionally or otherwise) but only a trully decent person will take the time to get to know the real person rather than the persona they sometimes see, or think they see.

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Phuckers

You stereotyped the woman by assuming she was clutching her bag tightly to her because you entered the lift.

am sorry i dont get your point,we seem to go on the same circle!
You stereotyped her by saying she clutched her bag tightly to her when you got in the lift. You're assuming that she would find your presence threatening in some way.
you've just answered my intial question its worst to be stereotyped for your appearance or background!
Stereotyping itself is inherently harmless. It's what one does with the categorisation that makes the difference.

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Freckledbird

You stereotyped the woman by assuming she was clutching her bag tightly to her because you entered the lift.

am sorry i dont get your point,we seem to go on the same circle!
You stereotyped her by saying she clutched her bag tightly to her when you got in the lift. You're assuming that she would find your presence threatening in some way.
you've just answered my intial question its worst to be stereotyped for your appearance or background!
No I haven't. I made no assumptions about you and your background, or the woman and her background. You were suggesting that she would clutch her bag to her when you got in the lift. Hence you stereotyped her.
you've lost me am afraid my english is so limited to get what you are on about!

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Phuckers, I think the lady clutched her bag to her only cause she was trying to descretly check inside to see if she had any condoms (obviously she had been perving your pics on SH before getting into the lift with you so yes, she was stereotyping you on your appearance)
However, I have to say that when I am in a lift with anyone I always clutch my bag to me. Not that I think anyone would want to nick it, I just know if I dont keep it close to me, I will probably knock the person out with it
.....you can as the saying goes "lead a horse to water ..but can't make it drink.." - if people can't or wont take time to find the real person in someone, they are the poorer, well in most cases...
some humans are so cynical.....
jw

Not going to write anything philosophical as I think this bit above says it all. We all judge (intentionally or otherwise) and we all make stereotypical judgements of people (again, intentionally or otherwise) but only a trully decent person will take the time to get to know the real person rather than the persona they sometimes see, or think they see.
:rotflmao:

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Phuckers

You stereotyped the woman by assuming she was clutching her bag tightly to her because you entered the lift.

am sorry i dont get your point,we seem to go on the same circle!
You stereotyped her by saying she clutched her bag tightly to her when you got in the lift. You're assuming that she would find your presence threatening in some way.
you've just answered my intial question its worst to be stereotyped for your appearance or background!
No I haven't. I made no assumptions about you and your background, or the woman and her background. You were suggesting that she would clutch her bag to her when you got in the lift. Hence you stereotyped her.
you've lost me am afraid my english is so limited to get what you are on about!
Yeah, I know. confused

2 Aug 2008

Quote by flower411

You stereotyped the woman by assuming she was clutching her bag tightly to her because you entered the lift.

am sorry i dont get your point,we seem to go on the same circle!
You stereotyped her by saying she clutched her bag tightly to her when you got in the lift. You're assuming that she would find your presence threatening in some way.
you've just answered my intial question its worst to be stereotyped for your appearance or background!
No I haven't. I made no assumptions about you and your background, or the woman and her background. You were suggesting that she would clutch her bag to her when you got in the lift. Hence you stereotyped her.
OOOO surely not !!! He just made an assumption that she had stereotyped him !!
Now you're just assuming that he made the assumption that she had stereotyped him rolleyes

2 Aug 2008

Bleedin' nutters, you lot! lol

2 Aug 2008

Quote by winchwench

:thumbup:

2 Aug 2008

I would be lying if I said I had never judged someone.
I live on a council estate in a council owned home, do people judge me? maybe, but I think they would be more likely to stereotype me as a single mother on benefits than judge me.

2 Aug 2008

Quote by winchwench

Nah. More like....

2 Aug 2008

Was that a photo of the lady in the lift clutching her handbag?

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Freckledbird
Bleedin' nutters, you lot!

Thats the most sensible comment so far. :lol:

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Aristophanes
Was that a photo of the lady in the lift clutching her handbag?

no she is the bag!............. smackbottom

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Aristophanes
Was that a photo of the lady in the lift clutching her handbag?

Yes, she's hiding it under her robes just to be extra sure lol

2 Aug 2008

I make first impressions all the time, before I've even spoken to someone. I've learned that my first impressions are totally crap and my feelings in my water are worse than my gut instinct :undecided:
And my Stereo is so old it doesn't have a keyboard :undecided:

2 Aug 2008

Quote by Missy
I make first impressions all the time, before I've even spoken to someone. I've learned that my first impressions are totally crap and my feelings in my water are worse than my gut instinct :undecided:

I believe drinking lots of milk or water can help with those feelings :shock:

And my Stereo is so old it doesn't have a keyboard :undecided:

Think yourself lucky. I have to get up out of the chair to turn mine off :P

3 Aug 2008

Quote by Lilmiss
Do you ever feel you are judged? Not always in the swinging world, sometimes in "normal" lifestyle?
I do. I feel a lot of people judge me for being BBW. They look at the outside and don't actually get to know the inner person.
What do u think? About you of course and what some may judge you of?
Lil x

morning all,
as i mentioned before judging others is complusory in day to day life and its indeed very essential in a swinging environment ,have chosen not to bore you with the S word today but please take a look at the extract below which have taken from the OP ad...judging others is an opinion and you have every right to,so its a good thing!
lil wrote
liI do have my preferances so i would appreciate it if you would take notice of this because if you do not fit my requirements then you will not get a reply. Safe sex ALWAYS!!!
Aged between 30-42
Stocky
Unattatched... that means no wife/gf
Minimum hair
Contact Information
Name(s):Lilmiss
Location:FY5, Cleveleys
Email:contact this user
Posted / Updated:22:11 - 24/07/2008
please note have only picked up the lines necessary to this debate
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3 Aug 2008

Quote by Phuckers
Do you ever feel you are judged? Not always in the swinging world, sometimes in "normal" lifestyle?
I do. I feel a lot of people judge me for being BBW. They look at the outside and don't actually get to know the inner person.
What do u think? About you of course and what some may judge you of?
Lil x

morning all,
as i mentioned before judging others is complusory in day to day life and its indeed very essential in a swinging environment ,have chosen not to bore you with the S word today but please take a look at the extract below which have taken from the OP ad...judging others is an opinion and you have every right to,so its a good thing!
lil wrote
liI do have my preferances so i would appreciate it if you would take notice of this because if you do not fit my requirements then you will not get a reply. Safe sex ALWAYS!!!
Aged between 30-42
Stocky
Unattatched... that means no wife/gf
Minimum hair
Contact Information
Name(s):Lilmiss
Location:FY5, Cleveleys
Email:contact this user
Posted / Updated:22:11 - 24/07/2008
please note have only picked up the lines necessary to this debate
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I don't see what the OPs add has to do with judging anyone or being judged confused

. She is stating a preference in her add not a judgement...!.

3 Aug 2008

how do you reach your preference without judging what your likes/dislikes

3 Aug 2008

Quote by Phuckers
how do you reach your preference without judging what your likes/dislikes

I see what you are saying but im not convinced its the same sort of being judged... confused

. Makes sense in my head but don't have time to explain what I mean have to get to work.