i have noticed recently that even though we are a bunch of swingers that are meant to be able to enjoy the freedom to shag who we want when we want without feeling judged for our loose morals as everyone here is doing the same or supposedly so, yet there seem to be a very high number whoose morals are much tighter and they judge openly those that are just plain enjoying themselves
it just plain confuses me
i have not been on the recieving end of any open judgements but i do know of friends that have basically been called slags for swinging ffs i mean whats that all about?
what i love about swinging is it gives myself and my husband the opportunity to fullfill fantasies with as many others as we desire and to be as dirty as we want to be and luckily for me the only person i worry about judging me is my husband and i am an incredibly lucky wife in the fact he doesn't have a judgemental bone in his body and he enjoys the freedom swinging gives us to be proper mucky sluts as much as i do
so this is my question
are you someone that believes that even if you are a swinger you should not shag anything in sight that takes ya fancy and if you do believe that then why? enlighten me as to why there should be some sort of limit
and is there still double standards even here are guys forgiven for shagging anything with a pulse yet women need to be more reserved in their numbers or is it as it should be a free for all shag as many as ya wanna no matter what ya gender?
I was talking about this just yesterday because it disappoints me when I notice people living this lifestyle still judging others.
We all like different things and in this lifestyle, we should be accepeting of others choices even in it doesnt flick our switch!!
Just becuase I dont fancy S&M doesnt make it wrong so who am I to judge them. As long as everyone involved is happy with what is going on and no one is going to get seiously hurt then each to their own. I must admit though that I had concerns about the drinking engine oil fetish but only as I think it is possibly very hazzardous to health.
I have heard many comments, in the chatrooms and in the forum about dogging (Some comments made to me, some not). Now we don't go often, but when we do we have such a laugh and of course I (Mrs) have lots of fun. The comments include how it is dangerous and that my hubby is irresponsible to take me dogging!! What a fooking cheek!!
If you dont fancy it yourself then dont try it, if you are intrigued or concerned then speak to people who have done it, but dont knock it till you've tried it!!
So should we be able to shag anything that takes our fancy?? I reckon so, as long as all concerned are consenting adults then why the hell not, no matter what your gender, orientation or fetish!!
Have fun!!
Interestingly I just wrote half a page of reply, then erased it all. Actually says something about the original post. I do this a few times here actually as its often just not worth the debate a point of view will cause.
The issue here is differences.
Everyone is different; they have different looks, ideas, beliefs etc.
Generally in human society people try to group together, and it is the difference that brings them together.
The problem then is that they see people that are not in their group as wrong.
Religon is a prime example.. People with the same beliefs group together and then often shun the others.
Basically if I am right you have to be wrong
Andy
You all disgust me with your lose morals and fornicating ways....what on earth do you think God made sheep for
What i find interesting is the way people are discussing their ability to choose here is quite different to how it is presented in other threads about choice. Noticeably about race or age or disability etc.
now do you have a different set of choice muscles at work for each type of decision? because it seems there are very different approaches to making a choice in the threads.
Which to me means that 'judgements' are far more sophisitcated than people want to believe. they may well be more disguised in the 'hotter' topics and restrained by pc language. but in this thread people are revealing themselves more openly. probably because they don't want to be unfairly or incorrectly judged.
judgement is relentless I'm afraid. It probably forms a large part of your brain activities whilst you sleep. unbeknownst to your concsious self you could well be revelling in making life and death decisions on the merest whim as you slumber through the night.
ya see its not judgements on a whole i am the first to say we cannot help making judgements it is human nature in fact you can find me saying as much a quite a few threads on here over the years my whole point was and still is surely as a swinging site we should be more open minded to the fact that shock horror people are having lots n lots of sex
ok example a couple contacted us recently that when i read their profile it said they only play bareback now my initial judgement was eewwww but yet i did not say as much in my reply as it is their choice and obviously they find enough peeps that wish to join in with them so good luck to um i say
you'll most likely say i'm wrong and i should of told um that they are disgusting for doing such things but how is that my right to do so is it not their right do make their own decissions of how they wish to swing just as it is my right to say thankyou for showing an interest in us but no thankyou its just not our bag
there is no need to be rude about such things we all make our own choices
i guess i always thought that being swingers we would all be much more open minded about it all but then i also guess you live n learn
we spent years trying for women to have the right even in the vanilla world to have more than one shag before marraige without bein called a slag yet here where we should be able to openly enjoy the fact we can shag like rabbits if we so desire to we are still gettin called slags
and may i just add that the friend i was talking about initially was not just fucking everything in sight she is in fact very fussy and choosey just being a hottie and a single gal she gets a lot to be fussy n choosey over and i say more power to her you go girlfriend
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