We hi to you all, a little about me. I'm 28yrs old living in Nottingham I am a Police Officer but i'm here to make new friends so no slagging off please, jokes i can take abuse i can't. Looking to find new friends due to the job i find it hard to make friends and i'm a little shy too.
So enough of me, hope to chat to you all soon. Anyone wanting to give me tips and hints please feel free to do so.
Craig
Hi Craig
I am a single male who is now established & been accepted by couples and singles. Here’s the best advice I can give to single males trying to get established in the swinging scene…….
1. Always be open & honest about what you are looking for. No-one likes making the effort to meet someone only to find out that they are looking for different things.
2. Never say you are gonna meet someone & then not turn up. People hate timewasters.
3. Meet people just for socials if that is all they are offering. If they are impressed with you then the sex will come naturally. As I community isn’t just about sex, it’s about people just meeting up as friends too & having a relaxed meet with no pressure.
4. Be willing to go out of your way to meet people. Don’t forget……you are the one who is wanting to meet people who are already established on the swinging scene & therefore, they will not go out of their way to meet you as they already have a circle of friends who they know are genuine & easy going.
5. And probably most important DON’T EVER SEEM DESPERATE TO MEET PEOPLE. Don’t push someone to meet & if someone says no then that’s what they mean. A lot of people get put off by someone being overkeen & see it as a kind of stalking.
6. Have a look in the message boards & see what people have put into those. This will give you some sort of idea as to the kind of ad to post. And always post in every board that applies to you as this will give you more chance. (Don’t forget to keep checking them regularly too as a lot of people forget to check & miss out)
7. If you can manage a weekend off work, try going to one of the various clubs that are available all over the country or go to a open party invitation thats been posted in here. This will show people that you are genuine.
8. When filling in a section on your ad to what your looking for more information you give about your self the more your profile will stand out more people will read it and take you more seriously as you have taken more time & effort over what your looking for .
Not a lot else that I can add really apart from BE PATIENT If you keep trying and are patient then it will happen eventually. Don’t be put off by a few negative replies. I must have had hundreds of negative replies before I got my first meet. But once I got my first meet I have found it a lot easier to meet people.
I really hope this has helped.
If you need to know anything else or need more advice, then you can PM me
Marcuso
Thanks for that, Like i said firstly i'm here to make new friends with open minded people, Don't get me wrong meeting people for some fun as well is alway a good thing but like you said this may come in time.
Thanks for your time in replying and maybe we'll chat again soon
Craig
Hi Craig :welcome: ,hope you meet lots of people you can call friends,thats whats soo great about it here.
Hello Craig
And a very big welcome from me too.
Join in the conversations in the Cafe and you will find that the SH community contains people from every walk of life. Not all are swingers, many are here for the social side which takes some beating I can tell you. There are some very warm and caring and honest human beings on here. They will take you for who you are and not what job you do - the majority will have no preconceptions!
So kick off your shoes, draw up a chair, get yourself a long drink - beacuse once you get chatting on here you will find it so hard to tear yourself away!
Hugs, Alex x x x x
Hello Craig
Love a man in a uniform xxxxx