I wouldn't read too much into the number of views if I were you - I've had over 150 views & no emails - and there's people complaining about 1000s of views & no emails. It just seems to be the way of things.
I wouldn't worry too much. Anybody worth it wouldn't care one way or the other.
My wife is disabled and she is so sexy!! Just wait and maybe your ship will cum in.
Fuck did I really say that?
The internet can be a great leveler, and hopefully take away a lot of the judgemental side of initially meeting people.
If you are talking to someone in a chatroom or in a forum, people are only (hopefully) judging you on your personality and your humour and how you relate and interact with others.
If you do not plan to meet people in person then I guess it could be left at that, but people will respect your honesty I think in talking about it before a meeting.
Anyone who then judges you on that should not be someone you will miss.
I'm not a lady but....
Honesty is a paramount consideration for me. If I meet someone and they're not as they have portrayed themselves then my initial reaction is "this person lied to me".
It doesn't really matter what it is they've misled me about, just the fact that they have kills the situation.
If the person I'm expecting to turn up comes through the door then I'm delighted. Irrespective of age, colour, creed, disability or anything.
Just my 2p worth, and it's a guys opinion, but I hope you can give it due consideration.
Steve
I'm not a lady but.....oh, never mind :doh:
I'm no Lady, but the truth is better than the lies you get from some VVWH guys with less than an inch or the VGL guy who look as if they have just had a fight with the back of a bus.
With me WYCIWYGLW i.e. What you see is what you get looks wise, of course with a little bit extra.
TS
Blue's quite right (no surprises there!). If there's anything about you that might turn people away, it's better that they know it sooner than later. They'll find out eventually, after all.
I would hope that the people here are mature and intelligent enough to not mind if you're disabled or not. Instead of regarding it as a potential negative, turn it around. You're in a minority, which is a good thing. Exploit it. Wheelchair? There must be some sexual advantage to strong arms (my life has been too sheltered to think of it though). Do it with humour, and you're miles ahead.
Hiya Dean,
I have not seen your ad, so I do not know what your disability consists of. The thought did occur to me as I was about to write something like "Don't worry, everyone is treated the same in here, it makes no difference to us".
Then I remembered something said in a post some time ago, it was "It is swinging that brings us together, but our differences are what are really important to us"
How do you feel about it, would it make a difference to you? Perhaps understanding how you view the issues would help us to learn.
lhk
Kat
First of all i'd like to thank you all for you're contributions and comments, they were all gracefully welcomed and recieved, I must admit that if the boot were on the other foot, I personally wouldn't know what to say to myself, so i'm no bloody help!!!! ho hum!!!!!!!!!
Kat, I thought the swinging scene would be more of a better place to "cum" because you lot are so used to meeting so called "strangers" and it would probably be just for 1 night depending on whether you get on of course, basically you can see me once and if we are not compatble then you can just look on the site again and again........
"Shit I talk bollocks!!!"
Dean
Dean,
I would say, as many others have already said, be honest.
If you see it as important then treat it importantly if you see it with humour then treat it that way. ie. give the viewer some idea how you feel in the situation being the disabled person so that they have an idea how to act.
What is your ad number? Just so we can see that. maybe we can give a few other tips on the rest of the ad.
;-)
All the best
Tik.
I've just checked out your ad, and one thing I would suggest is to say a bit more about yourself, you know, what you like, what your hobbies are etc etc. At the moment your disability is the main focus of the ad but there isn't much else. You need to put across that you are a genuine nice guy who leads a full life, who just happens to be in a wheel chair - make that part "matter of fact", if that makes any sense (probably doesn't!)
Yeah it makes perfect sense, thanks for the advice...
Hi there
Yes, i agree, honesty is best. I think I chatted to you briefly in the chatroom sometime yesterday and you seem really nice. If you werent so far away from me, Id be happy to meet you and would respect you for being so honest whereas if u didnt tell about your disability and I came to meet you I would probably run a mile.
Shelly XXX
cheers Shelly, we did speak yesterday
Id be happy to meet you and would respect you for being so honest whereas if u didnt tell about your disability and I came to meet you I would probably run a mile.
Shelly XXX
Totaly agree with shelly, just be honest having a chat to people in here helps as then they really get to know your personality.
i had a good response from my ad but it has certainly picked up since i've been chatting in here
I responed to you Mark. Appreciated your honesty and gave an honest reply to your message but got a very brief (8 words) and enigmatic reply which told me nothing. The others are right. You need to open up about more than your disability.
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. I am just here to make friends and if i get any thing else out of it then its just a bonus. 