Ker-Ching!! I've Hit The Jackpot! Not Sure I Want It!!!

11 Jun 2005

Ok, this is the story (not too much grief please people!)
Been a member here for a couple of months now and only 48 hours ago i decided
to get myself an ad!
Whilst doing this i decided to look at the others.
I e-mailed a lass and she mailed me back within the hour and we got talking!
Tonight she gives me her telephone number and address and tells me to
come round anytime next week!
Thing is (don't laugh) i'm scared to death!
I don't know which way to run first!
All this time i have longed for a meet, now i have one, i'm panicking!
I have only had one meet before with a bbw black girl 2 years ago
and it went fine, but i'm out of touch with it now and this girl makes me feel
like it's my first day at school!
The other thing is that this lady makes herself sound like a real man-eater
and i am like a rabbit in the headlights!
The worst thing is i am a single parent with 3 daughters and for some reason i feel as
guilty as hell, although i have done nowt!
There is no reason not to meet her as she only lives 3 miles away, i'm single, she's
single.
In the words of the Clash, should i stay or should i go now?

11 Jun 2005

Go on go on go on.. you know you want to.. just if you dont want to.. be honest and up front with her.. so as not to sour it for the rest of us. cuz if you bolt

she might just do the same from here.
Its sorta like first day at school... nerves and what not.. just be yourself and if it is meant to be, it will be. dunno

:dunno: :dunno:

11 Jun 2005

You gotta go now Trapper, if only to found out if you can overcome your nerves lol

:lol: and as for being a man-eater, the lady is probably just as nervous about the first meet as you are.
I bet you will be like two 12yo on their first date :lol: , just don't spill your drink over the carpet or settee (that never goes down well ) :lol:

11 Jun 2005

I think you should go too mate, once you get chatting you`ll feel better and more relaxed im sure, then just go with the flow, dont try too hard, be yourself and be honest. Most of all mate ,,,,,,,,,,, enjoy yourself wink

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11 Jun 2005

With three kids you sure ain't no virgin m8..... give it a blast you never know where it might lead...
Think on this ........ the first date (and all the nerves associated with it) are a part of courtship and romance.. how would you feel if you turned up for a meet and DIDN'T feel those things...... it would be pretty sour wouldn't it.

11 Jun 2005

Quote by Trapper
Ok, this is the story (not too much grief please people!)
Been a member here for a couple of months now and only 48 hours ago i decided
to get myself an ad!
Whilst doing this i decided to look at the others.
I e-mailed a lass and she mailed me back within the hour and we got talking!
Tonight she gives me her telephone number and address and tells me to
come round anytime next week!
Thing is (don't laugh) i'm scared to death!
I don't know which way to run first!
All this time i have longed for a meet, now i have one, i'm panicking!
I have only had one meet before with a bbw black girl 2 years ago
and it went fine, but i'm out of touch with it now and this girl makes me feel
like it's my first day at school!
The other thing is that this lady makes herself sound like a real man-eater
and i am like a rabbit in the headlights!
The worst thing is i am a single parent with 3 daughters and for some reason i feel as
guilty as hell, although i have done nowt!
There is no reason not to meet her as she only lives 3 miles away, i'm single, she's
single.
In the words of the Clash, should i stay or should i go now?

ok some women on here may well be man eaters but i also think a lot make out they are cause thats what they think men want us to be, she's prob just as nervous as u, i have been swinging for about 5 years now and still get that sick feeling every time i meet someone new on a personal level, by that i mean apposed to at a munch or party/club, maybe it may be best to suggest just meeting for a drink fist that way the pressures off and u can just relax and have a drink, personally i only ever meet for a drink first cause i find it really hard to say to someones face they not my type and if ur meeting with the view of playing if all goes well u may well find yourself in the possition where u have to tell her that, i just find it easier to meet for a drink then tell them on messenger......u was nice but.........but thats a personal choice of how u swing
As for you children, i have 3 kids and know full well what hard work it is so we all need some time to ourselves and u are doing nothing wrong smile

11 Jun 2005

I would cancel it now. One of a number if things is going to happen â€“
1. You will meet and wont fancy her and end up disappointed
2. She wont fancy you and you will be suicidal
3. You get down to it but are so overcome with nerves you wont be able to get it up
4. You will fall in love and end up heartbroken
5. She will stalk you and tell all your friends that you are a swinger
6. She is really a man.
Hope this helps
wink

11 Jun 2005

Go for it Trapper, it might turn out to be good or not so good, but you'll never know unless you check each other out. And I hope that she hasn't been reading your post. lol

Mike.

11 Jun 2005

Whatever you do mate make sure ur safe!!!! could be an axe murderer stood behind the door biggrin

11 Jun 2005

Quote by bartfarst
Whatever you do mate make sure ur safe!!!! could be an axe murderer stood behind the door

Now am sure thats what he needed to hear......Not lol

Go have fun, am sure shes just as nervous as you, and when u get there you will be wandering what you was worried about in the first place.
Good luck and have fun!!!!
Lindaxxx

11 Jun 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
... maybe it may be best to suggest just meeting for a drink fist that way the pressures off and u can just relax and have a drink,

Naughtynymphos1.... remind me not to go on a date with you if you think a way to relax on a first date is FISTING.... :shock: ffs... the fella is nervous enough without asking for that!
Personally I'd leave that to the 3rd or 4th date....
lol

Oh and Trapper, can we have a report back please on how it went... full and lurid details please...

11 Jun 2005

Quote by Lindaxxx
Whatever you do mate make sure ur safe!!!! could be an axe murderer stood behind the door

Now am sure thats what he needed to hear......Not lol

Go have fun, am sure shes just as nervous as you, and when u get there you will be wandering what you was worried about in the first place.
Good luck and have fun!!!!
Lindaxxx
GOD.. that brought back SO many lovely memories of a lovely bloke I met from here. He turned up at my door - we were both so nervous - and almost his first coherent sentence was 'there's not a mad axe murderer hiding behind the door is there'??
I miss him too :cry: :cry:
But good memories never fade away.
:giggle: :giggle: :giggle:

11 Jun 2005

Quote by Wishmaster

Think on this ........ the first date (and all the nerves associated with it) are a part of courtship and romance.. how would you feel if you turned up for a meet and DIDN'T feel those things...... it would be pretty sour wouldn't it.

Is it still called a 'date' even in swinging land?
I think u should go, some people say you regret the things you DON'T do more than the ones you do.... if you hate it, you can always just stay 10 mins and then say you don't feel right about it. But what you frightened of anyway?

11 Jun 2005

Quote by Trapper
In the words of the Clash, should i stay or should i go now?

The only person who can answer that question is you. I know what *I* would do, but I'm not you, am I?

11 Jun 2005

we say go for it you may not get another chance for a while but then again you never no lol

11 Jun 2005

Quote by Jags
GOD.. that brought back SO many lovely memories of a lovely bloke I met from here. He turned up at my door - we were both so nervous - and almost his first coherent sentence was 'there's not a mad axe murderer hiding behind the door is there'??

Well ............ was there??? confused

:? :? :? :? wink

11 Jun 2005

Go for it mate, after all you aint got nothing to lose.

11 Jun 2005

Quote by jack_daniels72
I can understand your concern sir - given the risks involved I'll be happy to visit the lady first for tea and biscuits to verify she's genuine

:lol2: :lol2:

11 Jun 2005

:crazy: your gonna go soft :crazy:
:crazy: your gonna go soft :crazy:
:crazy: she's gonna be butt ugly :crazy:
:crazy: she's gonna be butt ugly :crazy:
:crazy: you'll cum in three minutes :crazy:
:crazy: you'll cum in three minutes :crazy:
:crazy: your gonna go soft :crazy:
:crazy: your gonna go soft :crazy:
what!. dunno

.....what!. :dunno:

11 Jun 2005

Quote by davej
:crazy: your gonna go soft :crazy:
:crazy: your gonna go soft :crazy:
:crazy: she's gonna be butt ugly :crazy:
:crazy: she's gonna be butt ugly :crazy:
:crazy: you'll cum in three minutes :crazy:
:crazy: you'll cum in three minutes :crazy:
:crazy: your gonna go soft :crazy:
:crazy: your gonna go soft :crazy:
what!. .....what!. :dunno:

BASTARD!!!!!!

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Listen mate
We have only had three 'personal' meets, so are no experts here, but can tell you that we felt just what you are feeling to various degrees on each occasion.
Ask yourself this, "What have I got to loose, and what have I got to gain if I go, and if I dont go?"
All three of our meets turned out great and we are all still the best of mates wink

even though one did not work out in the sex department as there was no physical attraction we have sill become good friends and still chat, have a meal and a drink out and get on like a house on fire. So really, what have you got to loose?
GO FOR IT, LIFES TOO SHORT :twisted: ............. anyway, be rude not to :wink:

11 Jun 2005

Definitely go for it Trapper and hope that she hasn't been reading this thread. If you don't go now, we might all sign in tomorrow to a message on the cafe about non-genuine people who don't turn up for meets. confused

11 Jun 2005

Quote by freckledbird
Definitely go mfor it Trapper and hope that she hasn't been reading this thread. If you don't go now, we might all sign in tomorrow to a message on the cafe about non-genuine people who don't turn up for meets.

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11 Jun 2005

Quote by Katien_n_John
Definitely go mfor it Trapper and hope that she hasn't been reading this thread. If you don't go now, we might all sign in tomorrow to a message on the cafe about non-genuine people who don't turn up for meets.

:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:

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OI John - you bloody quoted my typo

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11 Jun 2005

The pressure will be building all evening.
The anticipation, you fancy her, she fancies you, and all you will worry about is " am I good enough? Will I satisfy her?"
Then Mr Floppy will visit and you will be devastated.
Dont do it I tell you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

11 Jun 2005

Quote by freckledbird
Definitely go mfor it Trapper and hope that she hasn't been reading this thread. If you don't go now, we might all sign in tomorrow to a message on the cafe about non-genuine people who don't turn up for meets.

:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
OI John - you bloody quoted my typo

:smackbottom: :smackbottom: :smackbottom: :smackbottom: :smackbottom:
ooooooh, remind me to quote you more often wink

11 Jun 2005

Quote by jack_daniels72
I can understand your concern sir - given the risks involved I'll be happy to visit the lady first for tea and biscuits to verify she's genuine

Trust you. :evil2: :evil2: :evil2: :evil2:
Trapper honey, just go for it, you'll regret it if you don't. When I had my first meet I was cacking myself (not literally you realise) I was so nervous. At the end of the day I had no need to be, he was, and still is, wonderful company and I don't regret it for a minute.

11 Jun 2005

Go for it Trapper relax and most of all enjoy yourself. Best of luck I hope it all goes well for you :cheers:

11 Jun 2005

Thanks people for all your suggestions and support!
I have decided to go through with it.
It is all set for tomorrow night (Sunday)
I suppose i better have a bath?
I'm going to have a few ales now to calm me nerves! wink

11 Jun 2005

have you gone yet ?

11 Jun 2005

Glad to see your going...don't forget to take your own axe with you lol