having read threads of late of gen peeps fake adds pic sending cammimg was just wondering how many have met up with contacts and found they are not what you either looking for ,no spark no attraction what so ever how di you tell them ,how did they take it did you get any abuse any crappy emails did you feel shit telling them or the other way single men or women open to all ,we have not ,we did in a club 1 night tell a male he could watch only and he ended up trying it on told watch only and he started swearing before buggering off.
cant say its ever happened to us as we normally spend a few weeks talking/camming with them and get to know them.
we normally get the feel of a person on cam and we have phone contact.
i think you need to ask the right the questions, be totally honest about what you like and what you want.
but we always say that we want to meet up to see if we 'click' and if we dont then its been nice making new friends.
had loads of one liners we tend to ignore them now but when you get the verbil show how desperate some peeps can get.
Our add says no one liners, must have picture with reply, so far 99% are one liners, and none have had pictures. I have just deleted our pictures from our profile, and advert. :cry:
I think part of the problem is when you put a picture you're making yourself potentially very vulnerable - depending on whether it's a face pic or not. On those occasions I've met women off the net, they've often been very unlike their pictures, although the photos were clearly of them - just goes to show you can't always trust a photo.
Tell me what you think of this - if I see an ad with pics on it, I can't be sure those pics are really of the person(s) concerned. I send an email saying I'm genuine, and if they're interested in speaking to me based on what I say about myself, I will send a pic, and have. Only problem is, most of the time you're mailing your pic out to dozens of people who may not be who they say they are and not hearing a reply, leaving you wondering just who it is has a picture of you. People posting the ads can be just as unhelpful as those responding to them.
I do like the idea of getting to know someone online before meeting them - it's worked for me with single women. If only some couples/women interested in swingingpartners were so forthcoming.
so have you had any knock backs?
no was asking how did you deal with say giving some one a knock back ,how did they react to you did you loads of abuse
Take no notice of """other threads"""""
every knock back is equal to a knock forward.
We all learn by our misstooks so make your mistake and learn from it and not from puppets.
phredd
shows how many sados there are hun ,and welcome ya not to far from us nice to see locals on
well we had knock backs and declined pple the only anoying thing in lying were not everyones cup of tea and everyone isnt ours a poite sorry ur not what were looking for is far better than the feble excuse of were too buizy too far ext we have remained friends with pple who have knoked us back also pple we have knoked back but never the timewasters or the liers
Actually, I remember one knock back - I'm tremendously polite in my messages (or like to think I am), and a girl I got chatting to on a free dating site said she was leaving the site after only a week or so because she was getting such abusive or unpleasant emails from men. Apparently, because she'd wondered what it would be like to go with a woman and had fantasised about threesomes, she received emails asking her 'why she didn't like men any more' and 'why she was a fucking '.
Delightful. I get the impression, reading between the lines, she probably got about a million pathetic cock shots. Shame, because she seemed really nice - the artistic sensitive type, just my cup of tea too. But kinky (heh). She sent a final mail saying that after all, I was a stranger. I sent a mail back saying yes, everyone is when they first meet, regardless of the avenue that leads them to that meeting, but never heard from her after that.
This is why I both loathe and love the silly pricks who horrified the girl: I loathe them because they screw up my chances of meeting nice girls I can get on with by their abhorrent behaviour, and I love them because they remind me that for some of us guys, there really isn't that much competition.
Just reading about all the abuse some people seem to be getting on this site makes me sad that there are so many out there who want to spoil things for genuine people. I'm a newbie and as a single guy luckily haven't received any abusive emails. (Come to think of it I haven't received any emails *lol*)
I have no problem providing photos of myself because honesty is very important to me and if I expect it of others I want to make that statement about myself too.
However, it's so easy for some people to trawl other websites, download an image of someone else and then claim that the photo is of them. So I guess you'll never tbe 100% certain that the person you're chatting to is who they claim to be.
I wonder is there room for another level of membership where you HAVE to provide a photo for your profile and then it has to be verified by webcam by one of the moderators or other trusted members before the profile becomes active? Or am I being too naive and would this cause an administrative nightmare?
Good point, but what if the image was confined to the verifed part of the site and not visible to non-verified members? It would still would be a vulnerability, true, but maybe less so?
I do know what you mean. I don't have kids so don't have that potential problem so it's not the same for me. Just trying to explore different ways to make it a more honest place!
"to be knocked back or to knock back - that is the question"...lol
We've been in both positions this weekend, on another site a couple who advertised themselves as 22 & 24 sent a pic in which she was at least 35, this on MSN too. Had to say, thanks but no thanks, then got various emails from them asking for us to send dirty pics, and perform on webcam (even though they didn't have one). We spent yesterday afternoon chatting to a decent couple from London who wanted to have a webcam chat (our first) in the evening, we logged in at the appointed time - nothing. They've been on MSN today - but didn't email us....perhaps they have their reasons.
Point is, you can't guarantee how people are going to react, but you can act with dignity. God we've had some frustrating timewasters this week. But we take it on the chin - the problem is that you cannot predict how some couples/people will take a "no". Sometimes a white lie is preferrable to a "you're not my type".
We can't dictate how others are to us, so we employ the simple policy of dignity, no screaming matches, just thanks and wishing people good luck. Going back to my ealier corrupted Shakespeare quote - I remember a genuine quote (roughly paraphrased) "it's not the games we play but the way we play them".
I find that my profile is quite popular and I usually have around 10-15 PM's a day. I reply to every one of these even if it is a thinks but no thanks, which for around 95% of them it is. I have only had a couple of guys come back and start to get knarky about it. Most guys are really nice and just say thanks for replying. I did have one guy who just couldnt get why I was turning him down, he just wasn't my type, but kept begging me to give him a go. So to those who have been knocked back, desperation is not attractive, just accept it and move on!
we had 3 the other day asking "come on meet me" find now just ignore them
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suddenly we had loads to say 
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) playing with someone because they felt sympathetic for you isn't really going to boost confidence now... is it.....