the lady advertisers on here (and other sites) all claim to recieve hundreds of emails. and i dont dissbelieve them for a moment.
however some of these ladies are still advertising months later. Are you ladies megga selective ie nobody suitable out of a couple of thousand applicants or are you megga promiscuous and going through blokes 19 to the dozen
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ladies adds that keep reappearing
Here's how it works.
You place an add and the flood gates open, and yes we do really get hundreds of replies, no bullshit.
Then the deleting process takes place.
No pic when pic requested - delete
Cock shots when asked not to send - delete
Married men - delete
Looking for local but they're the wrong end of the country - delete
Did not fit criteria in any way, shape or form - delete
Over-eager mulitple replies from same respondent - delete
You see where I'm going here?
Eventually you whittle it down to maybe 6-8 (sorry I lose track of who I'm talking to if I select any more than that) and so the emails, pm's and msn conversations start back and forth. As you go along you may realise some are not what you're looking for after all. They may decide that about you too. Or, like so many others, they just disappear.
But you finally get to meet someone you feel is suitable only then to discover that the bullshit they fed you was motivated by the need to be part of a couple only because being a *couple* is more benificial when going to clubs and getting party invites compared to being a single male. They have no like or respect for you at all. They've confused swinging with easy group sex.
So you send them on their way and start the whole process all over again.
And there you have it.
You place an add and the flood gates open, and yes we do really get hundreds of replies, no bullshit.
Then the deleting process takes place.
No pic when pic requested - delete
Cock shots when asked not to send - delete
Married men - delete
Looking for local but they're the wrong end of the country - delete
Did not fit criteria in any way, shape or form - delete
Over-eager mulitple replies from same respondent - delete
You see where I'm going here?
Eventually you whittle it down to maybe 6-8 (sorry I lose track of who I'm talking to if I select any more than that) and so the emails, pm's and msn conversations start back and forth. As you go along you may realise some are not what you're looking for after all. They may decide that about you too. Or, like so many others, they just disappear.
But you finally get to meet someone you feel is suitable only then to discover that the bullshit they fed you was motivated by the need to be part of a couple only because being a *couple* is more benificial when going to clubs and getting party invites compared to being a single male. They have no like or respect for you at all. They've confused swinging with easy group sex.
So you send them on their way and start the whole process all over again.
And there you have it.
Quote by racer3
bloody hell..... good answer libra, i can see where you are coming from, i just cant imagine how so many blokes can be wasters or liars. Having said that i am truthfull and alone so perhaps i have answered myself.
PS. spotted you at the munch. veeeeery nice
Well thanks for coming over and saying hi
Maybe next time hey? :wink: 
Sex God
Quote by james02
You ladies; your so charming
Now do we get back to the argument that being going on hear for a while about single man not being welcome?
james? sorry you lost me on the charming thing?
what in the above explanation of the whole single m responding to ads thing didn't you get? single blokes, and there are lots of us here trust me, aren't unwelcome, but you have to kinda match up. same as anyone else has to match anyone else?
kinda takes longer than 3 weeks james.
n x x x ;)
Well 2 weeks, as my comp has been infected over the last week.
I think people require trust, which takes more than 3 weeks.
So they know you are a swinger and not a job blogs male,
But could some one please tell me the difference between a true single male swinger, and a Jo blogs single man.
After all ant they bouth after a shag
I think people require trust, which takes more than 3 weeks.
So they know you are a swinger and not a job blogs male,
But could some one please tell me the difference between a true single male swinger, and a Jo blogs single man.
After all ant they bouth after a shag
Sex God
james, the short answer would be no, but i'll leave it to someone else to enlighten you.
neil x x x :P
neil x x x :P
Nice post Libra... describes the process perfectly... reminds me of the few months when I had a dating binge and was staking first dates up at a rate of 2 a week... was a full time job. finding new people to talk to... getting to know them... having a date... perhaps having another date. I ended up with people in various stages of development so that there was always someone about ready to be asked on a date.
Unsurprisingly I had a lot of hillarious first dates and very few people suitable for a second date!!! but it was fun... this was conventional internet dating BTW!!!
As for when I was single on here... I felt welcome... I got to know people, a few people contacted me rather than me contacting them... some conversations endured others didn't, thats life. And even men get anoying people who won't get the message that we arn't interested... and not all of them are confused 'bi-curious' men.
I did speak to one woman (who does hang out here sometimes) who did go through blokes 19 to the dozen. She had her regular fuck buddies, and then filled in the gaps with as many other men as she could get her hands on. I was speaking to her one evening when she was woried that she wouldn't be able to contine her 14 day unbroken run of a different guy every night... but she got one in the end (not to mention a couple of double trouble days that could be used to patch up the blank day)
I think that illustrates that different women want different things... she still had high filtering standards, but did go through a lot of men and needed to always be on the lookout (if not actually advertising). Other people advertise a lot but need few people.. and some just don't want to miss the perfect person when they walk past.
Unsurprisingly I had a lot of hillarious first dates and very few people suitable for a second date!!! but it was fun... this was conventional internet dating BTW!!!
As for when I was single on here... I felt welcome... I got to know people, a few people contacted me rather than me contacting them... some conversations endured others didn't, thats life. And even men get anoying people who won't get the message that we arn't interested... and not all of them are confused 'bi-curious' men.
I did speak to one woman (who does hang out here sometimes) who did go through blokes 19 to the dozen. She had her regular fuck buddies, and then filled in the gaps with as many other men as she could get her hands on. I was speaking to her one evening when she was woried that she wouldn't be able to contine her 14 day unbroken run of a different guy every night... but she got one in the end (not to mention a couple of double trouble days that could be used to patch up the blank day)
I think that illustrates that different women want different things... she still had high filtering standards, but did go through a lot of men and needed to always be on the lookout (if not actually advertising). Other people advertise a lot but need few people.. and some just don't want to miss the perfect person when they walk past.
Quote by james02
I think people require trust, which takes more than 3 weeks.
So they know you are a swinger and not a job blogs male,
But could some one please tell me the difference between a true single male swinger, and a Jo blogs single man.
After all ant they bouth after a shag
I think the last line says it all. If you come on here just looking for a shag...some will be okay with that but I think a lot of women want more than a cock for the night. We can get that practically anywhere if we wear short enough skirts.
Swinging is about trust and honesty and sharing....a single bloke wants another notch on his bedpost and doesnt really care for the woman at all...(in my opinion)
Libra said it all very eloquently and concisely. The fake swingers use us women to get to parties as a 'couple' but once there have little consideration for her and are off chasing anything female and breathing.
Bitter? Me? Never.
But if you want to be a true swinger be HONEST and CONSIDERATE and not a tosser like so many single men I have come across in the last few years.
That sarcastic enough for you????
(I feel much better now. thank you.)
Orgasminator
Close to 200 replies in 48 hours, only 5 guys worth responding to (i.e. 2.5 percent), out of which only 2 maintained contact and only 1 took the initiative of asking me on a date. Any reply received after first 48 hours (responses dropped to maybe 50 a day as desperate guys don't go to page 2 of the ads) was unworthy of response which brought down the rate of a successful match to nil percent.
Oh yes, I also had 2 marriage proposals in the last few days!
Oh yes, I also had 2 marriage proposals in the last few days!
Quote by james02
Well 2 weeks, as my comp has been infected over the last week.
I think people require trust, which takes more than 3 weeks.
So they know you are a swinger and not a job blogs male,
But could some one please tell me the difference between a true single male swinger, and a Jo blogs single man.
After all ant they bouth after a shag
Oh dear James. What are we going to do with you?!!
:roll: :roll: It took me about half an hour just to decipher what you were saying there!
You so need to read some of the previous threads about what swinging means to people - both couples and singles!
Sex God
Quote by james02
Is there something in this sites rules est. that explains all this, or would I be better of hearing it from one of the more sarcastic experienced females
Try these:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/advice/single-men.html
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/13919.html
Mike.
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Quote by racer3
the lady advertisers on here (and other sites) all claim to recieve hundreds of emails. and i dont dissbelieve them for a moment.
however some of these ladies are still advertising months later. Are you ladies megga selective ie nobody suitable out of a couple of thousand applicants or are you megga promiscuous and going through blokes 19 to the dozen
So what if they do advertise for months? What point are you making?
As Libra and Judy say, most replies are shite. There might only be one per month that is worth shagging. And people who are long-term swingers might want new blood, you don't get that if you only advertise for a shortt time.
I think we know that any ad will pull in massive response in the first 24 hours and the advertiser will be stuck with a lot of grafting to select the final chosen few. Even if she is very specific about what she wants, there will plenty of guys who will send an email. Its so easy to do.
Being a 'free' site it is not likely to attract those special responders who bother to invest time and/or money in themselves and their search. A fee paying site attracts a different type of punter, and the site demands more of them also.
All this means is that the advertiser does not get a very good picture of the majority of the males who are tendering their amour. They are not making much effort. Most of the guys know that, they are just hoping it will be as easy as it looks.
There are a lot of ads that are quite open ended about what they want to do or achieve. And I think these are more likely to attract loads of 'have a go heteros'. I don't respond to age limits, body limits, distance limits etc. because I know I would be wasting the advertisers time.
I can't explain my one hetero success. The ad was fairly limited and my response was brief and open ended. But we met, we got on well, had a splendid time and dissappeared at daylight.
If the ladies advertise on a continual basis it is because they wish to develop their lifestyle. It is also that they may find that the particular advert they have created is attracting the right guys for them, so they continue to use it.
Being a 'free' site it is not likely to attract those special responders who bother to invest time and/or money in themselves and their search. A fee paying site attracts a different type of punter, and the site demands more of them also.
All this means is that the advertiser does not get a very good picture of the majority of the males who are tendering their amour. They are not making much effort. Most of the guys know that, they are just hoping it will be as easy as it looks.
There are a lot of ads that are quite open ended about what they want to do or achieve. And I think these are more likely to attract loads of 'have a go heteros'. I don't respond to age limits, body limits, distance limits etc. because I know I would be wasting the advertisers time.
I can't explain my one hetero success. The ad was fairly limited and my response was brief and open ended. But we met, we got on well, had a splendid time and dissappeared at daylight.
If the ladies advertise on a continual basis it is because they wish to develop their lifestyle. It is also that they may find that the particular advert they have created is attracting the right guys for them, so they continue to use it.
Sex God
Quote by duncanlondon
If the ladies advertise on a continual basis it is because they wish to develop their lifestyle. It is also that they may find that the particular advert they have created is attracting the right guys for them, so they continue to use it.
Got it in one
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Quote by bluexxx
If the ladies advertise on a continual basis it is because they wish to develop their lifestyle. It is also that they may find that the particular advert they have created is attracting the right guys for them, so they continue to use it.
Got it in one
lol or some like me - remove their ads cos they never found what they were looking for, got sick of the timewasters n arseholes and cock pics etc and just decided to stay round here for the friendships.
Doesn't matter how many times or how clear I was in my original ad there are still a load of people who look at the pics and reply, then whine on about single guys not having much luck, being unwelcome etc!!!!!
Quote by Lil_Bunny
Doesn't matter how many times or how clear I was in my original ad there are still a load of people who look at the pics and reply, then whine on about single guys not having much luck, being unwelcome etc!!!!!
I've got a great idea, we should have some kind of a verification system for single guys!
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: 
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Quote by zootle
I've got a great idea, we should have some kind of a verification system for single guys!
Well, considering a few odd people I've bumped into in the past, I wouldn't restrict that to single guys - there would be the saddos pretending to be women/couples/whatever and who aren't what they say they are. Predominantly that probably boils down to what is in reality a single guy but the problem isn't restricted to them alone. Hence, if you only look online, you pay the price. Go to a munch, get some friends - a whole other world called 'reality' opens up.
Sex God
Quote by zootle
I've got a great idea, we should have some kind of a verification system for single guys!
Well, you can start the verification thread this time, zootle
Mike.
Sex God
Quote by zootle
Doesn't matter how many times or how clear I was in my original ad there are still a load of people who look at the pics and reply, then whine on about single guys not having much luck, being unwelcome etc!!!!!
I've got a great idea, we should have some kind of a verification system for single guys!
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:Lol I've been on another site where they do have a verification system but alas it doesn't always work.
They give out points for each person that has met and verified you as geuine and anyone looking at your profile can see the amount of points - I met a load of people - mainly socially and had to ask them to stop verifying me cos the amount of points added up quickly and made me look a right slapper!!!!
I definately think being part of the forums, attending munches and personal recommendation is the best way
