Ladies only

7 Oct 2006

I'm wondering something ..... (:uhoh smile

I have a thread in LMU about a ladies only private party - and no, this isnt a 'go look at it and put your name down' thread... I'm interested to know if, because it IS ladies only that this kind of party just doesnt appeal to most dunno

(or is it because we have to pay to attend :dunno:)
and more to the point, for the bifems out there, do the majority, when thinking specifically about swinging, play only in the company of their partner :dunno: and because the male partner is automatically excluded (in this particular case its a 'penis free zone' lol

) that it is then a 'no no' ? :dunno:
I guess this is also highly relevant to my own 'meets'... for couples, does it matter if the male half of 'you' is 'tolerated' (tm Dambuster) more than 'welcomed' or do couples expect another fem to play with both patners?
I dont think there's any generic answer to this as it will depend entirely on what each individual or couple is looking for..... but it's raised some intereing thoughts in my head.
discuss biggrin

7 Oct 2006

Hi Darkfire - I think it's more likely that there are a couple of other things going on around that time that people may have already commited to.
HTH? dunno

7 Oct 2006

or you scared them off rolleyes

7 Oct 2006

Alot of other things are happening on that day as well.....

7 Oct 2006

Quote by markz
or you scared them off

Who you talking about Markz? :roll:

7 Oct 2006

Hi Darkfire, I would go to one of these but am afraid nottinghams a bit far to go for the night. There dont seem to be much happening around London.
Louise xx

7 Oct 2006

Quote by Kiss
or you scared them off

Who you talking about Markz? :roll:
er I was typing not talking lol

7 Oct 2006

Quote by markz
or you scared them off

Who you talking about Markz? :roll:
er I was typing not talking lol

Who were you typing at Markz? :roll:
biggrin

7 Oct 2006

i wouldnt have aproblem going to something like this, paying isnt a big problem either, as for the playing i think different couples have different expectations and rules.
i would have loved to have been there if i wasnt busy elsewhere that night
no ones actually answering the questions raised
EArthy xx

7 Oct 2006

Markz, shut up
Kiss & Dave - no no, I'm not really talking about the particular party & why people havent put their name down in term s of cant make it/ other stuff on etc ....there are posts everyday in there that get little or no response for one short-term reason or another....what it has made me think about is more the 'issues' the lack of response has raised in my mind.
are we saying there perhaps is an interest and the date / whatever is just inconvenient? dunno

or do you think, like me, that there's a bigger picture to be considered and bi fems may be put off going because their partner is automatically excluded ? :dunno:

7 Oct 2006

Quote by Darkfire
Markz, shut up
Kiss & Dave - no no, I'm not really talking about the particular party & why people havent put their name down in term s of cant make it/ other stuff on etc ....there are posts everyday in there that get little or no response for one short-term reason or another....what it has made me think about is more the 'issues' the lack of response has raised in my mind.
are we saying there perhaps is an interest and the date / whatever is just inconvenient? or do you think, like me, that there's a bigger picture to be considered? :dunno:

Well in that case I have no idea! redface

I'll just get back in me box and hush up!
wink

In Edit: I have no idea of the answer as I actually don't understand the question. :doh: But fret not as I'm well aware it's my lack of ability to 'get' what you are saying, rather than your ability to explain. :lol:

7 Oct 2006

Quote by Kiss
Markz, shut up
Kiss & Dave - no no, I'm not really talking about the particular party & why people havent put their name down in term s of cant make it/ other stuff on etc ....there are posts everyday in there that get little or no response for one short-term reason or another....what it has made me think about is more the 'issues' the lack of response has raised in my mind.
are we saying there perhaps is an interest and the date / whatever is just inconvenient? or do you think, like me, that there's a bigger picture to be considered? :dunno:

Well in that case I have no idea! redface

I'll just get back in me boxand hush up!
wink

you can fit in your own box :shock:

7 Oct 2006

I like to have seperate fun times away from the other half, whether that be just a friendly girls night out, or (not that i have tried yet) but a playful girls night out. We are secure enough in our relationship to allow these times to happen and know that it will not affect us at all.
Louise xx

7 Oct 2006

thanks Louise :thumbup: , now we're getting down to it smile

7 Oct 2006

and answer to your question.....my wife is straight and would probably feel out of place if it was an all ladies party as i can only assume the ladies would be playing together?

7 Oct 2006

Quote by Kiss
or you scared them off

Who you talking about Markz? :roll:
er I was typing not talking lol

Who were you typing at Markz? :roll:
biggrin

its not rocket science :lol:

7 Oct 2006

Quote by markz
or you scared them off

Who you talking about Markz? :roll:
er I was typing not talking lol

Who were you typing at Markz? :roll:
biggrin

its not rocket science :lol:
I give up! :roll:
cool

7 Oct 2006

Quote by Kiss
In Edit: I have no idea of the answer as I actually don't understand the question. :doh: But fret not as I'm well aware it's my lack of ability to 'get' what you are saying, rather than your ability to explain.

fret not yourself Miss Kiss, it is totally my inability to word threads correctly in order to pose a question for you lot to think about that's the problem :lol:
hence why i rarely start them :lol:

7 Oct 2006

Quote by Darkfire

In Edit: I have no idea of the answer as I actually don't understand the question. :doh: But fret not as I'm well aware it's my lack of ability to 'get' what you are saying, rather than your ability to explain.

fret not yourself Miss Kiss, it is totally my inability to word threads correctly in order to pose a question for you lot to think about that's the problem :lol:
hence why i rarely start them :lol:
Well considering I'm always getting the wrong end of the stick or saying things like "I don't understand!" or "I'm confused!" I'm more than happy to take the blame. :lol2:
Anyway... I think I'm getting the hang of it. redface

I would only hazard a guess and say that maybe some females feel they might feel like the odd one out if they don't play, maybe the husbands/partners don't like the idea of their girl going to a club without them, maybe the female is interested but doesn't know what to expect?

7 Oct 2006

Quote by Kiss
or you scared them off

Who you talking about Markz? :roll:
er I was typing not talking lol

Who were you typing at Markz? :roll:
biggrin

its not rocket science :lol:
I give up! :roll:
cool

Don't worry about Markz......he visits us every now again to practise his eye rolling!

7 Oct 2006

Quote by Darkfire
I'm wondering something ..... (:uhoh
I have a thread in LMU about a ladies only private party - and no, this isnt a 'go look at it and put your name down' thread... I'm interested to know if, because it IS ladies only that this kind of party just doesnt appeal to most (or is it because we have to pay to attend :dunno:)
I would have loved to go, but we have other plans on that date.
and more to the point, for the bifems out there, do the majority, when thinking specifically about swinging, play only in the company of their partner :dunno: and because the male partner is automatically excluded (in this particular case its a 'penis free zone' ) that it is then a 'no no' ? :dunno:
Nope, I play alone without my hubby, as well as with him.
I guess this is also highly relevant to my own 'meets'... for couples, does it matter if the male half of 'you' is 'tolerated' (tm Dambuster) more than 'welcomed' or do couples expect another fem to play with both patners?
I don't think either of us would be happy to meet a couple who only 'tolerated' my hubby, if we'd all arranged to play. If they are upfront about that, then I suppose it's for people to decide if they want to play that way or not. We definitely wouldn't expect another fem to play with both partners.

I dont think there's any generic answer to this as it will depend entirely on what each individual or couple is looking for..... but it's raised some intereing thoughts in my head.
discuss

7 Oct 2006

Quote by Kiss
I would only hazard a guess and say that maybe some females feel they might feel like the odd one out if they don't play, maybe the husbands/partners don't like the idea of their girl going to a club without them, maybe the female is interested but doesn't know what to expect?

good questions :thumbup:
as for feeling the odd one out if they dont play....isnt that more of a 'under pressure' issue ? Its the same with clubs or meets etc, you might go with thought of being open to playing but then change your mind/ there's no one you want to play with/ it doesnt feel right ...etc... Me, I could happily attend something as long as there's no pressure, and I dont have that 'oh i've got to play because i'm the odd one out' feeling ....
and I do think there are partners out there who would be entitrely unhappy about 'missing such an opportunity' ....and couples who do have rules about not playing seperately hence the fem wouldnt be able to go anyway.....
oh ffs, i've forgot where i was going with this post now lol

carry on while i go get coffee :lol:

7 Oct 2006

Quote by Darkfire
carry on while i go get coffee

tea, strong, 2 sugars, theres a good girl smile

7 Oct 2006

never mind that Wide Boy, you're a bloke, what's your 'take' on fem: fem only parties?

7 Oct 2006

Quote by Darkfire
oh ffs, i've forgot where i was going with this post now carry on while i go get coffee :lol:

Well while you go and get your coffee, I'm off to make lunch!
biggrin

7 Oct 2006

Quote by Darkfire
never mind that Wide Boy, you're a bloke, what's your 'take' on fem: fem only parties?

oh come on, you know full well i have no meaningful opinion!

7 Oct 2006

can only really give an opinion as a single female so far which isnt really what you are asking for i dont think, apart from i wouldnt want to feel pressured into playing if i didnt feel comfortable or there wasnt anyone i wanted to play with.
but i cant see how you could comtemplate playing with another couple if your partner or you for that matter is being 'tolerated' surely that isnt an atmosphere conducive to playing, well it wouldnt be for me anyway
Earthy xx

7 Oct 2006

Quote by earthchild
but i cant see how you could comtemplate playing with another couple if your partner or you for that matter is being 'tolerated' surely that isnt an atmosphere conducive to playing, well it wouldnt be for me anyway
Earthy xx

true :thumbup:
and in the case of these parties specifically, males are not tolertated to the point of complete exclusion..... so, perhaps there is weight in my thoughts that many women won't go because their partner can't ? dunno

7 Oct 2006

ok, i have no opinion as such, but here are my thoughts:
it doesnt matter to me personally if there are fem parties, many many events occur that im either not going to out of choice, or not invited to because i dont fit certain peoples criteria (single male, distance, dont tick peoples boxes etc)
there are a number of couples whose rules state that the only 3rd party involvement is with another fem, so if it was a fem party, the male of some couples would be more than happy about that, as it falls within their boundaries, would the same men be happy about their partner going to mixed parties alone, not with regards to safety, but in terms of play - is their relationship stable enough that she can go and play alone
to be honest, all this is pretty much irrelevant to me, as i have only been single in this community
what was the question again?

7 Oct 2006

Quote by Darkfire
perhaps there is weight in my thoughts that many women won't go because their partner can't ?

Not the case for me.