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Leaving Swinging heaven hope you are pleased!!!

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Well after a few eventful meets and meeting some good friends the time is right to leave swinging heaven for good!!!
You ask why!!!
An unknown person on swinging heaven has decided to print all our pictures off our profile and is know asking for money and if we dont give it him within 7 days hes going to publish the pictures to neighbours work collegues and make life very hard for us
We came on swinging heaven to have fun and not to be blackmailed so the person who is doing this i hope you are proud to every couple on here my advice is do not put any pics on your profile just leave them in your private album
We did not put face pics on here or we didnt even use our real names so we were careful but with threats to do this is not a nice feeling facebook closed twitter closed and now sh has to go thanks everyone its been fun
you do know blackmail is illeagle in any shape or form and carries a hefty prison sentance if thier going to ruin your life
then ruin thiers get the police involved
(1) A person is guilty of blackmail if, with a view to gain for himself or another or with intent to cause loss to another, he makes any unwarranted demand with menaces; and for this purpose a demand with menaces is unwarranted unless the person making it does so in the belief:
(a) that he has reasonable grounds for making the demand; and
(b) that the use of the menaces is a proper means of reinforcing the demand.
(2) The nature of the act or omission demanded is immaterial, and it is also immaterial whether the menaces relate to action to be taken by the person making the demand.

Personally I would contact the police immediately, keep copies of all the messages you have received, take screen shots and save files of all the websites where any details are published.
You might get to fuck one more person before you leave swinging heaven ;)
i had a similar problem with someone from here and i went to the police for advice and help, they were very good so i sugest you do that
If you didn`t put face pics on and didn`t use your real names how is this person going to make others believe its you, plus the fact this person has obviously been having a good mooch through SH doors himself/herself
OMG!! Thats horrible!! :eeek:
Do you know who this person is?? If not the police would surely be able to find out through their IP address??
I would take everyone elses advice and get the police involved.
I will seriously think about moving our pics! This just proves that not everyone here is here for fun!
Let admin sort it,raise a support ticket or mail me .
Quote by djduck22
Well after a few eventful meets and meeting some good friends the time is right to leave swinging heaven for good!!!
You ask why!!!
An unknown person on swinging heaven has decided to print all our pictures off our profile and is know asking for money and if we dont give it him within 7 days hes going to publish the pictures to neighbours work collegues and make life very hard for us
We came on swinging heaven to have fun and not to be blackmailed so the person who is doing this i hope you are proud to every couple on here my advice is do not put any pics on your profile just leave them in your private album
We did not put face pics on here or we didnt even use our real names so we were careful but with threats to do this is not a nice feeling facebook closed twitter closed and now sh has to go thanks everyone its been fun

When you say unknown, you mean pictures turned up in the post at your home address?dunno
Quote by djduck22
An unknown person on swinging heaven

Surely they are more likely to be a person known to you that has seen your profile?
I have two thoughts on this. First and foremost contact the Police. Blackmail is illegal and therefore you should pursue it.
Secondly, I think your on a wind up, aren't you? Why would you choose to post a message like that in the not very well used forum? It's not as if you are a regular contributor to it. Why have you not contacted SH admin? you say the person is from Sh, so have their account and ip address banned for starters. Why is there no mention of any of this on your profile, where the other person is more likely to see it? In fact why post the message you have but not delete your profile?
If it is a genuine threat then you should have gone to the Police first, not your keyboard. Unfortunately I am not overly inclined to believe you because your plea for attention creates more questions than it gives answers.
Leaving wont stop them from blackmailing you dunno They have the pics that they have already and could of taken screen pics of your profile. Whats the point in erasing Facebook Twitter etc? So if they do release the pictures you dont see people talking about you? Will you wear blinkers down the steet put cotton balls in your ears and go la la la la la very loudly? Think most other stuff has already been poointed out, needs to be dealt with a bit more head on.
Quote by djduck22
Well after a few eventful meets and meeting some good friends the time is right to leave swinging heaven for good!!!
You ask why!!!
An unknown person on swinging heaven has decided to print all our pictures off our profile and is know asking for money and if we dont give it him within 7 days hes going to publish the pictures to neighbours work collegues and make life very hard for us
We came on swinging heaven to have fun and not to be blackmailed so the person who is doing this i hope you are proud to every couple on here my advice is do not put any pics on your profile just leave them in your private album
We did not put face pics on here or we didnt even use our real names so we were careful but with threats to do this is not a nice feeling facebook closed twitter closed and now sh has to go thanks everyone its been fun

If you know they are from SH, why close Facebook and Twitter? And if you think they are on Facebook, lock your profile down so that anyone not on your friends list is unable to view it.
Something not quite sounding right about this, I have to say.
strange indeed
Quote by djduck22
Well after a few eventful meets and meeting some good friends the time is right to leave swinging heaven for good!!!
You ask why!!!
An unknown person on swinging heaven has decided to print all our pictures off our profile and is know asking for money and if we dont give it him within 7 days hes going to publish the pictures to neighbours work collegues and make life very hard for us

We came on swinging heaven to have fun and not to be blackmailed so the person who is doing this i hope you are proud to every couple on here my advice is do not put any pics on your profile just leave them in your private album
We did not put face pics on here or we didnt even use our real names so we were careful but with threats to do this is not a nice feeling facebook closed twitter closed and now sh has to go thanks everyone its been fun

How do you know this?
Who contacted you? and how did they contact you?
Most odd
having done SH and such like; where else can you go now?
ya daft bugger!
anyway it's not that bad. anyone who uses the internet, social networking etc. comes across material such as this untold times, so i don't think they are going to be that interested for too long.
you may have to live down a period of embarrassment but it will pass over soon enough.
call the blackmailer's bluff, I expect nothing more will happen.
maybe its an out of work NOTW hacker.
So now you're famous!
To be honest, if this is real, it's a bit shitty for you, I'm sure. However, your whole posting history screams 'drama queens' as I read through it. There always seem to be something not going right or that you don't like.
You announced to the site you were retiring from Dogging in March 2009 and yet you where still advertising for meets in May that year. You're still here now and yet claimed you were going yesterday around 6pm. If you really considered this a serious threat, you'd have deleted the account and it would have been removed overnight as the servers do their updatey-thingy.
All a bit confused and strange.
It would be interesting to see your simple answers to some of the simple questions members like Sarah and others have asked above - especially as you posted this across at least three Forum sections!
Reading between the lines, is this not not an overreaction to a meet or something that hasn't quite gone as planned and this post is the net, emotional result?
I burned one of my lovely, homemade quiches this morning and was totally devasted but I'm over it now... I nearly posted on every 'how to be a good gay cook' forum at the time though I can tell you.
Fraser... where's that 'drama queen-o-meter' you posted a couple of weeks back mister? smile
Just had a quick read of the posts to :scared: Each to thier own and all that but you do seem to fall into the same holes over and over. You seem to have been followed multiple times so either dont go or learn that its going to happen. Maybe stick a sticker on the rear bumper saying no thanks or something lol The posts also say we play safe then its bareback then its back to safe then back to bareback and in the midst of all that your wife was pregnant. Didnt pin down if the wife was pregnant whilst doing bareback but in all honesty I wouldent worry about getting followed but I would go and get some STD checks run if you have not already.
Quote by bIoke
To be honest, if this is real, it's a bit shitty for you, I'm sure. However, your whole posting history screams 'drama queens' as I read through it. There always seem to be something not going right or that you don't like.
You announced to the site you were retiring from Dogging in March 2009 and yet you where still advertising for meets in May that year. You're still here now and yet claimed you were going yesterday around 6pm. If you really considered this a serious threat, you'd have deleted the account and it would have been removed overnight as the servers do their updatey-thingy.
All a bit confused and strange.
It would be interesting to see your simple answers to some of the simple questions members like Sarah and others have asked above - especially as you posted this across at least three Forum sections!
Reading between the lines, is this not not an overreaction to a meet or something that hasn't quite gone as planned and this post is the net, emotional result?
I burned one of my lovely, homemade quiches this morning and was totally devasted but I'm over it now... I nearly posted on every 'how to be a good gay cook' forum at the time though I can tell you.
Fraser... where's that 'drama queen-o-meter' you posted a couple of weeks back mister? smile

I read the word Quiche and ignored the rest of the post. Do you blind bake first or go straight in with the wet stuff? What about the bacon - smoked or plain? Fried to brown first or just stiffened up in the frying pan before going in? And what about the slices of tomato on top - a waste of time or a delicious addition?
Quote by foxylady2209
To be honest, if this is real, it's a bit shitty for you, I'm sure. However, your whole posting history screams 'drama queens' as I read through it. There always seem to be something not going right or that you don't like.
You announced to the site you were retiring from Dogging in March 2009 and yet you where still advertising for meets in May that year. You're still here now and yet claimed you were going yesterday around 6pm. If you really considered this a serious threat, you'd have deleted the account and it would have been removed overnight as the servers do their updatey-thingy.
All a bit confused and strange.
It would be interesting to see your simple answers to some of the simple questions members like Sarah and others have asked above - especially as you posted this across at least three Forum sections!
Reading between the lines, is this not not an overreaction to a meet or something that hasn't quite gone as planned and this post is the net, emotional result?
I burned one of my lovely, homemade quiches this morning and was totally devasted but I'm over it now... I nearly posted on every 'how to be a good gay cook' forum at the time though I can tell you.
Fraser... where's that 'drama queen-o-meter' you posted a couple of weeks back mister? smile

I read the word Quiche and ignored the rest of the post. Do you blind bake first or go straight in with the wet stuff? What about the bacon - smoked or plain? Fried to brown first or just stiffened up in the frying pan before going in? And what about the slices of tomato on top - a waste of time or a delicious addition?
Most interesting questions, I would like to know the answer to them myself as I don`t really bake blind but then I have "soggy bottom" syndrome, but I don`t mind tossing a bit of bacon over a warm flame for flavour :notes:
No you can't put sliced tomato on top, it ruins a good quiche that!
I cant think of a food I dislike more than a cooked salad tomato.
Hope you get it sorted out. Not sure how you got blackmailed but if it's via SH account then SH should be able to help out re where the message came from. If from email, then you could trace via (as someome mentioned) IP via Internet Service Providers and/or Police. Go get them - best of luck!
Quote by bIoke
Fraser... where's that 'drama queen-o-meter' you posted a couple of weeks back mister? smile

Fraser's obviously busy so, there you go....
Is this the real life?
Is this just fantasy?
Ooops ... sorry wrong thread lol
Quote by Ben_Minx
I cant think of a food I dislike more than a cooked salad tomato.

I agree, but have you tried smaller toms, maybe on the vine still, roasted slowly in the oven with a good sprinkle of balsamic vinegar and finished off on the plate with some ripped basil leaves? Delish with a steak.
Sounds delish, I love those sweet baby plums cooked too.
I'm not sure what to make of this but if it is a real life situation not an attention seeking post (because there are some really weird people kicking about)then i feel for you.
However, there are a few massive holes in the information you have given.
If it was someone unknown then think through the people you have met who actually know who you are via the site, as this is the first solution.
The fact that they posted it through your door or sent it via royal mail shows they know your address, have you had swinging meets at your house or been followed home after a meet up?
Another option and one that people often dont realise is that if you use a wireless connection or dongle to log onto the internet people in your wireless broadband signal strength area can log onto your connection and see what you are looking at online, they would have to be close. This maybe a disgruntled neighbour who happened upon nicking your unlocked wireless connection to use the internet and saw you using swinging heaven and therefore had access to your account while you were online opn the site.
There are various ways this could have transpired if it is actually happeneing but cancelling all your accounts on fb twitter SH etc is pointless, the damage is done in terms of getting useable balckmail material.
The police will find it diffiult to trace them as they have left no electronic forensics unless they have contacted you by email or phone. They may be able to get DNA or finger prints from letters but that is if the person is on the DNA database.
How did they ask for payment? this could be key and central to how to trace them get in touch via PM if you want any help I work in this sort of sector and may be able to provide some asistance to the local police force if they want to pursue the case.
Cooked tomatoes have good cancer preventing properties. I love a good fried tomato but it has to be very fried :twisted: Almost to the point its falling apart, great with traditional fried breakie.
Quote by foxylady2209
To be honest, if this is real, it's a bit shitty for you, I'm sure. However, your whole posting history screams 'drama queens' as I read through it. There always seem to be something not going right or that you don't like.
You announced to the site you were retiring from Dogging in March 2009 and yet you where still advertising for meets in May that year. You're still here now and yet claimed you were going yesterday around 6pm. If you really considered this a serious threat, you'd have deleted the account and it would have been removed overnight as the servers do their updatey-thingy.
All a bit confused and strange.
It would be interesting to see your simple answers to some of the simple questions members like Sarah and others have asked above - especially as you posted this across at least three Forum sections!
Reading between the lines, is this not not an overreaction to a meet or something that hasn't quite gone as planned and this post is the net, emotional result?
I burned one of my lovely, homemade quiches this morning and was totally devasted but I'm over it now... I nearly posted on every 'how to be a good gay cook' forum at the time though I can tell you.
Fraser... where's that 'drama queen-o-meter' you posted a couple of weeks back mister? smile

I read the word Quiche and ignored the rest of the post. Do you blind bake first or go straight in with the wet stuff? What about the bacon - smoked or plain? Fried to brown first or just stiffened up in the frying pan before going in? And what about the slices of tomato on top - a waste of time or a delicious addition?
You really are a class act!!!
He said very clearly he was devastated, and yet all you can do is post innuendo, I bet you laughed while typing it. This is not some victimless situation, he didn't just burn a quiche, it was one of his own homemade quiches, do you have any idea how much pride he puts into his role as a Stepford mincer?
You should feel ashamed of yourself.
Quote by essex34m
You really are a class act!!!
He said very clearly he was devastated, and yet all you can do is post innuendo, I bet you laughed while typing it. This is not some victimless situation, he didn't just burn a quiche, it was one of his own homemade quiches, do you have any idea how much pride he puts into his role as a Stepford mincer?
You should feel ashamed of yourself.

As a serial burner of le acte quiche, I can only sympathise.
It's a terrible affliction for which there is no known cure :sad:
Quote by GnV
You really are a class act!!!
He said very clearly he was devastated, and yet all you can do is post innuendo, I bet you laughed while typing it. This is not some victimless situation, he didn't just burn a quiche, it was one of his own homemade quiches, do you have any idea how much pride he puts into his role as a Stepford mincer?
You should feel ashamed of yourself.

As a serial burner of le acte quiche, I can only sympathise.
It's a terrible affliction for which there is no known cure :sad:
Marks & Spencers?