Let Down.. Again

31 Mar 2005

I didn't know where else to go to with my frustration:
My partner and I had a date scheduled for tonight, a meet with people who had replied to an ad we posted on another site. It was for drinks, nothing more that that. 10 minutes before we left the house we get a txt message: "Sorry we're not feeling well, can we reschedule?"
Now, we've only been actively seeking swing partners online for about a month, but out of four separate meets we've scheduled (the only three we could get, as most others we're in contact with seem really afraid of meeting face to face) we only actually met one person. So this is 2nd time we've gotten the "I'm ill" excuse, and one time our date never even called to confirm. just disappeared.
We're a bit discouraged. We know we're new and it's hard to meet people and all, but we're not scary we're not pushy, we're not smelly (not that anyone has had the opportunity to find that out) We want to know: Is this common?? Should we be prepared for many many cancellations and let downs? We knew getting face to face meets even for drinks would be tough, but now we're wondering if we'll ever get to play with anyone!!!
sorry, I know noone on here really knows us. I just wanted some advice and to vent I guess

31 Mar 2005

i think theres lessons to be learned here. dont use other sites. stay here its lovely and warm wink

31 Mar 2005

Sorry to hear you've been let down yet again, but it does seem to happen.
I can only suggest that you try to get invites to some of the Munches, as there you are guarrenteed to meet people.
Keep trying.
John
:cry:

31 Mar 2005

It will happen for you eventually, just keep plugging away at it.

31 Mar 2005

I agree with you rachel
I used other sites and i was treated like worse than osma bin laden.
however joined here and treat loverly.
MikeC

31 Mar 2005

I think you'll find it's par for the course with contacts from adverts. At least they had the decency to let you know they could not make it and it may have been genuine in this case and maybe they will re-schedule.
Best way to meet people is here on the forum and then get to some of the small socials, parties and munches. It all takes time so chill out and before long opportunities will present themselves.
LC

31 Mar 2005

Quote by Lovecommando
It all takes time so chill out and before long opportunities will present themselves.
LC

i know i know... i guess we're just "eager beavers" as it were... or rather, over eager beavers.

31 Mar 2005

Unfortunately it does seem that more and more meetings are being cancelled in this way, I have had it happen to me on several occassions even on this sight.
Can I suggest that you try and attend any of the munchies that are organised. I can recomend them as they are a great way to meet genuinley nice people who won't mess you about.