Could this have been more aptly timed for me having just come back from my brother's inquest!!!?
So life defining moments eh?
I have to say his Death earlier this year. for many reasons tho, the main one is how we all just take our loved ones and friends for granted not ever thinking the worst could possibly happen, not thinking this could be our last moment together, that's not a fault though, because who wants to go around thinking the worst my just be around the corner?
Nobody can live their life in a cotton wool wrap, but in my case I've certainly been guilty of taking my family for granted at some point and on more than one occasion!
However, I could have easily stopped riding Motorbikes and some might question why I haven't. The answer to that is, I never EVER feel more alive than when I'm riding my bike, the experience is unique and such a huge part of my life that I wouldn't know what to do if I didn't ride them.
It's in my blood, runs through me like the very essence of life itself, it's when I am truly ME.
And added to the fact my brother would HATE it if I stopped because of him.
Love Life, Respect It, But DON'T Waste It!
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Being at home caring for my mother when I was 13. Watching her collapse in a pool of blood, calling 999 and then waiting just stroking her head as I didn't know what else to do. Those few minutes completely changed my life. I knew she could not survive and I knew that I would be left alone so needed to get my stuff packed as my father would immediately sell the house - I was right.
When my ex-partner showed me a scrapbook he'd made. Full of clippings about how he could kill me and get away with it. Made up from various magazines like - serial killers and how they were caught / escaped. He had it all planned. Later that day he smashed his fist through the glass then calmly told me I would let him. That day I knew I had to run away as he was getting more and more psychotic.
lying on the beach with my boyfriend (now hubby) and watching him relaxing with his eyes closed with the afternoon sun on his face. Thinking how gorgeous he is and kissing him slowly whilst stroking his face. Soppy but lifechanging s I realised then how much I adored him and had to be with him.
my wedding day - standing outside and thinking how i'd made it. Had a crap start in life but yet managed to be as good as everyone else, have the most wonderful husband and lots of friends around me. My best pal who gave me away just gave me a huge hugglie as he knew what I was thinking. Changed my life as I knew then, i'd achieved everything my mother wanted me to do in life.
having my son. lying in hospital looking at this tiny, tiny creature and realising we made him. Changed my life in that I finally got to understand how my mother must have felt when she had me. I hold onto that thought often.
Watching my son bullied - and realising I had to change. Have been a stronger person from that time onwards.
Having my daughter and watching her in special care afterwards. Crying and crying at them trying to put a cannula in her tiny hand. Then seeing othere babies in there far worse off and smaller. Life changing as it made me realise how fragile we are. Over the years i'd forgotten.
The first time I was whipped by hubby. Completely changed the dynamics of our relationship. Cannot explain it but felt amazingly close. The same with our first swinging adventure. That closeness is life changing - a strong connection that doesn't fade.
The birth of my two sons - they grow up too fast, leave home ( and in the case of the eldest, the country ) but they'll always be the most important people in my life and I would do anything to help them, protect them and support them.
Finding the courage to leave my first husband after years of physical, emotional and verbal abuse gave me back the confidence and feeling of self worth that he had stripped me of over the years.
Losing my Dad to cancer was the most heartbreaking time in my life. The man who had raised me, nurtured me, taught me so much and loved me unconditionally despite the trouble and worry I gave him in my late teens, I had to watch helplessly as he wasted away. As a child to me he was immortal. It took his illness to remind me I hadn't told him how much I loved him since I was 15. After that, I made sureI told him every day until the day he died. It's also made me appreciate my mother more.
Meeting my best friend and soulmate has given me the companionship I thought I had lost for good and proof that there are still people with truly beautiful souls in the world
My dad dying in my arms when i wasjust 18...
Meeting my best friend in the world.....My wife.....
Being there at the birth of my Daughter.........WOW ...............
Meeting my wife, friend, and love. Finding them all in one person. Finding more than duty and pleasure in life. Someone to share life with.
One event, one stone in the pond, so many ripples. So much has changed...
October 1990. Being a rebel and taking a day off sick from work to go out for a drink with my m8 Steve, who wanted to introduce me to his new bf, Tony. Me and Tony just clicked and hit it off straight away.
December the 21st Tony finally said he loved me and was dumping Steve.
So just a chance meeting and being introduced to someone when I wasnt looking for love or anything, quite happy enjoying myself being single.
So 16 yrs on still very much in love and wouldn't change him for the world.
xx
I'm 18, life defining moments arent something I've had to a huge extent. All thats really happened is;
My dad having a stroke when i was 14- having to call an ambulance and spend that whole time knowing he might die.
Realising that i was putting myself in a lot of real danger mesing around with my best friends sister (violent boyfriend) and still doing it because i knew i could take him.
My best friend being there for me when my life was falling apart by simply telling me to get my damn life back inorder....
not all that life defining really
, or the constant stream of injured wildlife I would bring home to try to nurse better. But moving into the town changed her totally. She became obsessive about tidyness. She became materialistic and determined to 'keep up with the Jones's'. She decided I needed to become more ladylike and tried to get me to join Brownies(cissy's) and go to ballet lessons :shock: (That only lasted one lesson too. I got barred 
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