Although this thread has prob been done before im interested to know if this lifestyle that we live is open for all to know about, as in friends and family
do you keep it quiet from all apart from likeminded people?
or
are you so open about it that your next door neighbour and there pets know?
my best mate knows, and one of my sisters know, but generally, im a private person, my business is exactly that
but with some people, im an open book and can be asked anything, and i will answer it
It depends which bits of the 'lifestyle' you are referring to. I think you will find that even amongst likeminded people there is still a requirement for some discretion.
I have 7 "best friends" and they all know to some degree. My colleagues are all aware... (team of 4)
and when I say to some degree.. they know about me. They don't know any details about it. names places etc etc... (unless I am meeting someone- then they know all that i know- for my safety)
Unless they are going for a job at the local swingers club - I doubt there are many people who are so totally open about their lifestyle that they add it under hobbies and interests on their CV.
Sadly society at large is not ready to accept ‘swinging’ (in all of it’s guises) without prejudice, narrow-mindedness and all the baggage that comes from ignorance, moral values, religion, social conditioning…. bar blar blar.
However, the fact remains that if a single guy (or an almost single guy) went down the pub and let slip he was indulging in sexual experiences with a variety of people, he would likely be bought a drink, asked for more details and patted on the back (especially if he tells a tail of being in bed with 3 women). The same cannot be said so confidently about a female letting slip she purposefully went to a club to be gang-banged or a couple who have invited a few guys around so the hubby can watch his missus being spit-roasted.
Thus, we will all find our personal levels of openness with which we feel comfortable.
I have some friends who know a great deal more than others - I have also lost friends through being open and finding their views of swinging are so far separated from mine that to remain friends was impossible.
Before we were swingers we didn't find it necessary to burden our family, friends and work colleagues with details of our sexual activities. Now we are swingers why should that change?
If there was any possible advantage to telling people then we might consider it, but at the moment, for us, we can only see extremely large disadvantages.
I told my then best friend. I was labelled a disgusting pervert. We no longer speak. No - I don't tell.
RSxx :color:
OMG no! We've only just started out but have agreed to tell no one and that this is our secret which is very horny knowing what other things we do and keep quiet from our family and friends. It is another bond we have betweem we have with each other too that makes us even closer.
We have a very active social life with vanilla friends and the majority of them would feel uncomfortable (I am sure) if they knew that we'd try to hit on them. Besides we have careers and others areas of our lives that it would be entirely inappropriate to divulge such information.
pink x
My 2 best mates know only because the one wanted to join in when me and him were still an item and the other is becoming an honorary member of the Pussy Posse on Saturday since she 'came out' as bi curious to me a while ago :smug:
My sister knows and some family members guess, but I would never admit it to them unless they ask me outright (I don't lie)
I did tell a friend at the beginning of the year and I've only seen her 3 times since then, there's always an excuse now.
So will I tell anyone else..........NO
my close friends know, my sister know, some of my work colleagues know
as far as i am concerned i am not doing anything wrong so have nothing to hide
havent told my mam incase she wants to join in :shock:
Earthy xx
I often tell friends about what I'm doing, and random facts, just like girls do in that respect.
Only a handful of people know that I'm bi-sexual.
And I have 3 very close friends who I tell for safety sake, who I'm with, and where I'm going. Although they do question why 'I'm doing something so demeaning to myself', they respect that this is something I want to do, so just protect me from all the potential mad men out there!!!! But they do think this is just a phase I'm going through, and that I will eventually settle down with a nice man.
Yep, hopefully one that'll let me still go to greedy girl nights at clubs!!! But maybe I'm being overly ambitious!!!!!
My Dad also knows about this site, and that I'm an activish member of it. But he doesnt want any details, as long as I'm safe!!!
My work mates know about munches, but although we don't swing I cannot get them to believe me so I leave their imaginations to run riot....:twisted: :twisted:
and my sister saw me logged onto the site when we were in Spain on a hen night together so she tried to pump me for info ,but got nowhere so has let it evey now and then she will make some kind of sly comment.
As for letting my parents know .............NOOOOOOoooooooooooooooooooo my mum is so hung up about sex she would just die of :shock: :shock: :
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