Locked Couples & Fems Party Thread?

16 Aug 2004

The thread relating to the party we are holding on Sat 21st Aug has been locked due to the fact that Heather doesnt think there is anyone on this site that is 'to our taste' surprised

Whilst we acknowledge Heathers experience, in this case she is wrong - we are finding lots of ppl to 'our taste'. wink

Also this has been a very lively and interesting debate.
If I was a cynical person (which I am not) I may have thought that Heather might have taken Mels comment personally (although I am sure that she didnt).
We will do as she advises and we will investigate the 'Fever Parties' that she speaks of.
However we would also like the thread unlocked please. biggrin

Many thanks
D&Mxxx

16 Aug 2004

The 'Fever parties' website is for beautiful people i understand. We wanted to apply for one of the parties in August but it was fully booked....
I think possibly that the thread relating to Surreycouples party should be unlocked as it has provoked some interesting and lively debate in the forum.... not before time!!!
I'm not a politician but I for one have welcomed this thread as a great read, and the repllies to various posts have been thought provoking, not just pointless posts.
Heather... sweetie, unlock the thread, i loved the debate!!!
Paul

16 Aug 2004

The thread was locked because nothing new was being added to the debate and was only going to decend with yet more people climbing onto the bandwagon... and life's too short, frankly. wink

You've stated you've found the peeps you're looking for, so good luck.
So by all mean open up a debate in the Cafe about what you're definition of beauty, etc. is... but this forum is for arranging meets.
Hxx

16 Aug 2004

Any chance of this thread being moved to the Cafe and we can continue the debate there? I wanted to respond to Heather's last point, but I won't do that here if this thread is the wrong place. As PaulnSusie said it was turning into a really interesting debate with some good thoughts being made.
Thank you, M (Good looking in the right light, if you squint a bit)

16 Aug 2004

Thread so moved...
Can't see the worth of a debate on who gets to decide who is shaggable or not, but there you go...
Go for it, fellas! wink

16 Aug 2004

I would have replied to the original ad but I find it rather reflective of personality and not worth my efforts in order to meet up.
Looks clearly aren't everything and if I had I choice between brains or looks I'd choose intelligence any day!
Was intelligence in my list of choices??? confused

:
DOH! :shock: rolleyes

Beauty as they say... is in the eye of the beholder. The more someone's personality appeals to me the better looking they are in my eyes, even if they have ben beaten senseless with the ugly stick. how many beautiful people have made world breakthroughs?
Ok, rant over. I'm off to get my PMT medication!

16 Aug 2004

Thanks Heather biggrin

Guess we're just an argumentative bunch! I'll throw my tuppence worth in tomorrow, but off to bed now.

16 Aug 2004

Having briefly met surreycouple2003 (who I believe aren't really a couple but a 24/7 threesome) I'm having difficulty adding anything constructive to this thread but I feel that I need to give my opinion.
Plenty of people on here know me well enough to know that I like the social side of swinging..........as far as I'm concerned everybody here is either a friend or a friend that I haven't met yet. Surreycouple2003 fall into a unique category of people as far as I'm concerned, they're people that I've met and have no wish to ever meet again.
Steve

16 Aug 2004

Hi,
Paul has posted several responses to this thread and I agree with his sentiments about it being an interesting read - I have to say I have found it quite amusing as well. I think Heather is an absolutely fascinating person and I think that it shows her maturity that she can't understand why anyone would want to argue about the differing viewpoints regarding shagability, well said Heather! Everyone is different, has different qualities to offer, and has different definitions of beauty. I think that what Surrey couple were trying to say was that they would feel more comfortable if they were surrounded by people close to them in age, who they found "good looking, attractive". I really don't believe that they were trying to offend anyone or incite outrage.
As for how I regard myself, I try my best to improve on my ordinary looks because it makes me feel better, that's my choice. As a fitness proffessional, I would not feel I presented a believable example to my clients if I was carrying around a lot of excess weight and believe me, I am not naturally blessed with a slim physique - I have to eat sensibly and exercise loads (Paul helps there!) wink

The fever parties do appeal to me because they look glamourous and I love glamour, dressing up, make-up, perfume - that's just me. I do not expect anyone else to regard me as good looking, but I won't complain if they do.
Anyway, essay over - just had to have my say. I really hope this party does come off on Saturday because its Pauls birthday and I want to do something sexy with him to celebrate - plus we were too late to apply for the NW munch!
Susie xx

16 Aug 2004

Each to their own. Live and let live.

16 Aug 2004

I have an opinion on this party - I've not posted for a little while because I was abstaining! But I felt I needed to say something.
I don't know SurreyCouple, indeed I've never met anyone from the Forum but I don't think it's fair to advertise for beautiful people only.
Fair enough everyone has their own preferences but how do you think it makes the "average" or dare I say it (?) "ugly" person feel? Not to mention those who may be good looking but are on the larger/balder/whatever side.
I'll tell you - it makes you feel worthless. There is enough concentration on looks in today's society as it is and personally I am trying to overcome any feelings of inadequacy I have as are others on this site.
Your point about other meet's with Bi Fems only etc not being picked on doesn't really wash as I'm sure there are people who go to them who are all shapes, sizes and looks. I know you were stating that people have preferences but they don't normally go as far as vetting what people look like.
If beautiful people are your preference then maybe you should advertise privately? There have been many discussions on the Forum regarding looks and body image etc so maybe if you read them then you'd see where people are coming from?
I may be biased as I'm not one of the so called "beautiful" people but this is my own opinion.
Maybe you could be a bit more sensitive to other users in future? I know you've had a lot of stick over your previous locked thread but it may well be justified.
I hope you find what you're looking for and that all you beautiful people have fun - but remember, there are other people less fortunate than yourselves in the looks department but that doesn't make them any less of a person.

16 Aug 2004

Well said Onlyme !! I have never met Surreycouple2003 and now I wouldn't want to.
The friends I have made on here have all been made without knowing what they look like. Having since met them at Munches or Parties their appearance was irrelevant.
Shall I arrange a party for blonde haired, blue eyed people?? (Now where have I heard that before???) rolleyes

:roll: :roll: :roll:

16 Aug 2004

I dunnoo sarge,,,, possibly we could meet them and then wee all over their carpets!!!
Narrowmindedness... that's typical of the "wannabe snobs" class structure based upon looks!!! up yer arse!!! just told a new friend at the end of the day we all enter the world naked, all our shit stinks and at the end of it thank fuck my rotting bones will be bigger than theirs!!!
but why do I need to stoop to slagging off?? everyone is entitled to an opinion and that is theirs!
Enjoy your party .....................................
and thank fuck it ain't in Cornwall!!!

17 Aug 2004

Ok I went and read the locked thread, nothing else to do this time of the morning
and
Thank fuck I'm an old fat ugly minger lol

Dawn :silly:

17 Aug 2004

Everything in life is about choice... as long as a persons preferences don't hurt somebody else then how can you judge someone for wanting to throw a party with people that they find physically attractive - their ethos maybe doesn't cater to your views but thats your choice as it is theirs. We all have different triggers points that allow us to enjoy the more carnal things in life - people should respect that.
Would this subject have caused so much controversy if it had been focused at those of a larger disposition? I doubt it would.

17 Aug 2004

Right my turn,
Firstly i do find ir annoying that people can be sooo narroew minded in this world to only be out there looking for the "beautiful"people,but thats just what you see.
Unfortunatley your missing out on so many wonderful people out there who are beautiful in so many other ways,so thats your loss.
After reading the locked thread i noticed a mention about only regulars being allowed to attend munches,that has been discussed in different threads and that is mainly to ensure the press dont decide to just drop in.
It is also to ensure that everyone is genuine and not just turning up to see what swingers really look like!!!!
Good luck with your party and all the "beautiful" people you meet!!
I personally cant wait to meet everyone at the munch,and i mean everyone,be they beautiful,ugly,fat,thin,young,old,whatever because everyone is different,thats what makes this world such a great place!!

17 Aug 2004

Well not sure that I understand any of this thread :shock: :shock: I know people advertise for what they want big and beautiful, bi, young, mature etc so thats NOT the point here I think as if that was the case half of the threads in lets meet up would be locked!!!!!!!!!
I think it is more to do with an attitudetowards groups of people which is where the offense willbe taken. Not everyone will be friends in here and I for one sometimesfeel blanked in here sad

but that is their choice so the word friend can be used too loosely as a term - I dont blank my friends ...........................
What I think I dont like is some of the undercurrents of certain threads and cliques which isolate other people either in here or in the lets meet up.
There is no such thing as beautiful people - its a load of toshand what I know from life is that beautiful people are those who are described through their whole being not what size they are, their looks or income bracket.
Ah the wisdom of age though - when you are young everything is superficial and looks and money are what are deemed to be important which is why many people confidence levels are so low because our doubts are about either not coming up to others expectations :shock: I think as you grow older and throw away the superficial challices that stop you growing as a person you see people for who they really are. Now I for one dont like everyone in the world and can happily name them. However on this site, I am here not to hurt anyone intentionally and that is what I mean by attitude. If having been made aware that what you are doing or saying does hurt or offend then change what you are doing or feel the wrath of others beating down on you.
Enough said.......................................................

17 Aug 2004

Clare wrote:

personally cant wait to meet everyone at the munch,and i mean everyone,be they beautiful,ugly,fat,thin,young,old,whatever because everyone is different,thats what makes this world such a great place!!

Well said Clare, I agree a hundred per cent. As Davej nearly said: "Away with the pickies"
Mike.

17 Aug 2004

Quote by corriefem
What I think I dont like is some of the undercurrents of certain threads and cliques which isolate other people either in here or in the lets meet up.

I think this statement is SO true of things here at the moment, and not just in this thread, and it saddens me greatly. Well said Corrie! kiss

As to the current debate about being good looking... ' I don't want to belong to a club which doesn't want me in it'. Imagine being judged on looks alone :shock: :shock: I'd have no friends whatsoever - mind you, I'd rather have no friends then friends who judged me by the blondeness of my hair (nil), the blueness of my eyes (tick), the thinness of my body (nil) or the symmetry of my facial features (half and half!). What goes on behind the face is much more important, what goes on inside the heart is vital and what goes on between the people is the lifeblood of relationships.
I was going to post 'fuck off' but thought it might damage the sensiblities of the beautiful people who may not allow such dirty words to pass their beautiful beesting mouths.
Go somewhere else.

17 Aug 2004

Quote by PaulnSusie
I really don't believe that they were trying to offend anyone or incite outrage.

I disagree, I think that's exactly what they were trying to incite. Paul n Susie, you have put your points across well without being demeaning to others. Surreycpl on the other hand, although polite, have been exactly that.
My personal opinion on the subject for what it's worth? Well Smarmy has got to be right up there with comb overs in the turn on stakes. People can be stunning to look at, if they have the personality to carry with it, which many many people on here do, then they are the ones which gain respect, and have things sussed.
I cannot get passed smarmy to see fabulous looks - sorry but it's a huge barrier that I'm not prepared to bother with.

17 Aug 2004

Can nobody see the hypocrisy of telling someone they are wrong for wanting to organise a party for people that they find attractive?? It is, quite frankly, a glaring contradiction.

17 Aug 2004

We haven't said it's wrong...
We said we disagree with it...
Strongly!

17 Aug 2004

You're simply playing with semantics... which of course is your choice. wink

17 Aug 2004

Quote by Robbie
Can nobody see the hypocrisy of telling someone they are wrong for wanting to organise a party for people that they find attractive?? It is, quite frankly, a glaring contradiction.

Sorry if I came across like that Robbie, not my intention. People can organise parties for whoever they like - I think their point was valid, they had specific criteria that they feel comfortable in a social environment. We all do.
The hypocrisy is when they feel they have every right to turn up at other peoples parties, for god knows what reason, when it would be obvious 'their' very specific criteria wouldn't be met - and then exclude the very people they were socialising with. If they are so exclusive, then why the hell did they go?

17 Aug 2004

no problem... of course i don't have the background to this situation that i would guess alot of you are privy too. I'm simply making a point from face value (pardon pun).

17 Aug 2004

I want to say something.............. but the words wont come out right...........
Ahhhhhggggggggggghhhhhhhhhh................ I keep thinking of old adages..............
Never judge a book by it's cover
Beauty is skin deep
etc...etc...
I think suffice to say "All articles that coruscate with resplendence are not truly auriferous" or to put it plainly.... All that glitters is not gold
Oh.... and I dont want to come to your party anyway...... Im a Frog!!!

17 Aug 2004

It's curious to see that surreycouple wanted this thread unlocking in the other forum, but have yet to contribute to it now that it is open in here...... dunno

17 Aug 2004

Quote by ccr
It's curious to see that surreycouple wanted this thread unlocking in the other forum, but have yet to contribute to it now that it is open in here......

In fairness to them, they've had less than 24 hours to respond.
Perhaps you good folks can take a mo' and read back through this thread and perhaps you can begin to understand why I locked it before? It'll all end in tears... However, for the record, I will not be told when to lock, unlock or sticky a thread and neither will any other Mod - but you can always ask nicely just as Paulnsusie did.
We will not open certain people's minds to the fact a party, ANY PARTY, doesn't flow without a good mix of age, personality, looks and opinions. Who you take into the play room is your own affair, but not many of us wish to discuss Posh's latest hair do or the council latest traffic scheme with anyone the ENTIRE evening.
Do carry on with your mud pies! lol

17 Aug 2004

Quote by ccr
It's curious to see that surreycouple wanted this thread unlocking in the other forum, but have yet to contribute to it now that it is open in here......

Good morning chaps
Hope we are all well.
Give me a moment to familiarise myself with the posts and I will contribute. wink

Speak to you soon.
Dxx

17 Aug 2004

Personally I wouldn't want to play with anyone I didn't find attractive. On the other hand I wouldn't want to play with an attractive person I didn't like as a person. I have reason to believe that puts me in the majority.
It would, however, be slightly daft of me to announce that I was looking for "good-looking" people to party with because it's a purely subjective term. Some of you might share my tastes and some of you might be horrified at what I think of as good-looking, so it wouldn't really be giving you any information. What it might do though is make you think I was totally superficial, five miles up myself and trying to establish a clique with myself as its leader.
I don't think that would get people flocking to my door.
Ice