Looking for attractive (insert as appropriate)

10 May 2009

Its not very often I start a thread but Ive just been perving a couple of profiles (thanks to Nola for reminding me I like perving profiles) redface

and I have noticed on a few of them that the people are only looking for attractive male/female/couple (delete as appropriate).
Personally, I do need to be attracted, both physically and emotionally (emotionally is probably not the right word, but there as to be a non-physical attraction as well). However I dont think I could actually say what it is that I find attractive, as it seems to be is different in each person. For some it is a personality thing, with others it may be a certain physical attribute :rascal: that first attracts me, but if I was asked to describe an attractive person, I dont think I actually could do it. I suppose to some people I may be attractive, and to others I would be the exact oposite, but Im not up my arse enough to consider myself as attractive, but I dont think of myself as being out of the ugly bucket either.
Anyway, in a very round about waffling way, what Im trying to get round to asking is, if you saw something on a profile or advert, which said attractive people only, would it put you off getting in touch, or do you consider yourself attractive?

10 May 2009

Nope, if i saw that I wouldnt reply at all sad

10 May 2009

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Anyway, in a very round about waffling way, what Im trying to get round to asking is, if you saw something on a profile or advert, which said attractive people only, would it put you off getting in touch, or do you consider yourself attractive?

No... not if they were attractive to me, but I guess that's just it - we're all different lol

And yes, I hope so but not necessarily because of the way I look confused

This is like one of those 'can of worms' things.... I like worms :twisted:

10 May 2009

Yes it would put me off, ones persons attractive is anothers put off, it just says to me, I cant see beyond my own pre-concieved perceptions.

10 May 2009

Let me be the first (lol fifth now) to reply.
Its not the build, looks, tits, bum or any other physical thing that should attract anyone.
This is supposed to be a swinging site NOT a "stand-up agaist the wall Shag site.
NWC Hun xxx not saying that against you in any way. I think you know that but it will be all the others that jump in with platitudes.
Said me bit = Byeeeeeeeee
medic_1 (also known as the one to ignore)

10 May 2009

bad as it sounds, i dont see us as being anyones attractive...... :cry: :cry:
we just hoped (against hope) for the best lmao, but thats what swinging is all about...pot luck....no guarantees at all!

10 May 2009

Quote by BIoke
Anyway, in a very round about waffling way, what Im trying to get round to asking is, if you saw something on a profile or advert, which said attractive people only, would it put you off getting in touch, or do you consider yourself attractive?

No... not if they were attractive to me, but I guess that's just it - we're all different lol

And yes, I hope so but not necessarily because of the way I look confused

This is like one of those 'can of worms' things.... I like worms :twisted:
I hope your not putting said worms in my fondue set........ smackbottom

10 May 2009

I think I would be put off getting in touch, but I cant really say why. I dont think it is a confidence thing, and I dont think it is that I feel the person is up their own arses, I dont know what it is that puts me off.
However, if I find a person attractive then I would say it, but what I find attractive, is not what someone else would necessarily class as attractive and I cant help feeling that there are probably some really scrummy people out there who are putting people off replying by adding just this one line.
Dunno, maybe its just me (and Mrs BD) who would be put off by this wink

10 May 2009

Quote by Reacher359
...I hope your not putting said worms in my fondue set........

Cool - another evening of chase reacher359 around the forums - it's like 'Carry On Matron' lol

We reallty do need to 'put this one to bed' so to speak and f**k man! :shock: wink

10 May 2009

Quote by medic_1
medic_1 (also known as the one to ignore)

Who said that lol

10 May 2009

Do I look worried ? lol

10 May 2009

Yes I would be put off, it asks for attractive and I ain't likely to get Littlewoods catalogue book me to model their summer swim wear. If it said, easy going, good company, I'd probably go ahead cos I'd consider myself as being able to tick that box.
I assume it's folks way of trying to filter responses, it's just a bit more difficult to do, attractive is a bit more variable. No tall people, no short people, no fat people, no thin people, no people wearing a thunderbirds uniform are a bit more straight forward.
There are looks...facial features, body shape, dress, etc... that I find attractive, some that I don't and no doubt they will be at odds with another persons attractive.

10 May 2009

It would certainly put me off. In the first place they obviously have a specific idea of what is attractive and I know I'm not your classic beauty. Secondly it speaks of an overweaning sense of their own importance which, to me, is deeply UN-atttractive. It's almost as basd as insisting on people being of the 'professional' persuasion. For goodness's sake, do they want a shag or their accounts doing?
As many have said - attraction is far far more than looks. Looks will get you a 'hello', it is the personality that gets a conversation and a damn site more that will get you into bed (or wherever).
The idea of someone saying to me "I'll shag you cos you look good" is awful - how insulting to totally disregard the rest of me. And who says a beautiful person is any good in bed?

10 May 2009

Lol foxy couldnt agree more, I was just about to say its almost as bad as "professional" which is only slightly less off putting than "used to a certain life style".

10 May 2009

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
....if you saw something on a profile or advert, which said attractive people only, would it put you off getting in touch, or do you consider yourself attractive?

It would put me off.... just makes me think they're probably far too up themselves. The same goes for phrases like "no mingers" etc.... just annoys me. rolleyes

10 May 2009

Quote by flower411
....if you saw something on a profile or advert, which said attractive people only, would it put you off getting in touch, or do you consider yourself attractive?

It would put me off.... just makes me think they're probably far too up themselves. The same goes for phrases like "no mingers" etc.... just annoys me. rolleyes

OOOOO I`ll have to put that in lol

Wouldn't that mean you couldn't have a wank?
bolt

(Sorry couldn't resist biggrin

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10 May 2009

I only reply to ads asking for mingers, that way no-one gets let down! lol

Seriously though, my idea of attractive is quite possibly miles apart from the norm. Show me a male model & my first thought would be "I'll break him." I like guys who are not afraid to break a nail.
Attractive to me doesn't mean a particular height, weight, hair colour etc. Attractive is synonymous with charisma.
I don't reply to ads. In fact, I've only ever responded to one or two, tops. Someone asking for "attractive" may well put me off- 70% because of my own lack of confidence, and 30% because of the sense of self importance already mentioned.

10 May 2009

Quote by BIoke
...I hope your not putting said worms in my fondue set........

Cool - another evening of chase reacher359 around the forums - it's like 'Carry On Matron' lol

We reallty do need to 'put this one to bed' so to speak and f**k man! :shock: wink

Will come back to the OP in a mo... erm, when you do, can I play too?! :twisted:

10 May 2009

Quote by foxylady2209
It would certainly put me off. In the first place they obviously have a specific idea of what is attractive and I know I'm not your classic beauty. Secondly it speaks of an overweaning sense of their own importance which, to me, is deeply UN-atttractive. It's almost as basd as insisting on people being of the 'professional' persuasion. For goodness's sake, do they want a shag or their accounts doing?
As many have said - attraction is far far more than looks. Looks will get you a 'hello', it is the personality that gets a conversation and a damn site more that will get you into bed (or wherever).
The idea of someone saying to me "I'll shag you cos you look good" is awful - how insulting to totally disregard the rest of me. And who says a beautiful person is any good in bed?

Ah, yes but are they saying that you have tolookattractive?
I think generally people who put that in their ads probably do mean that - in which case I would ignore if I was the sort to respond to ads.
But then we who know better - know better don't we. Attraction comes in so many guises and sometimes you've got to get to know someone a teensy bit before you can judge whether they are attractive to you or not. (they do have to be attractive don't they but how??)
That's what makes the CafÃ© and other fora so special - it allows us the opportunity to see who is really attractive in the full range of attributes.
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10 May 2009

Quote by Cubes
....if you saw something on a profile or advert, which said attractive people only, would it put you off getting in touch, or do you consider yourself attractive?

It would put me off.... just makes me think they're probably far too up themselves. The same goes for phrases like "no mingers" etc.... just annoys me. rolleyes

Same here. smile

10 May 2009

Quote by noladreams
...I hope your not putting said worms in my fondue set........

Cool - another evening of chase reacher359 around the forums - it's like 'Carry On Matron' lol

We reallty do need to 'put this one to bed' so to speak and f**k man! :shock: wink

Will come back to the OP in a mo... erm, when you do, can I play too?! :twisted:
Well I'm gay-me... reacher?
Oh and tune - well said :thumbup:

10 May 2009

Can somebody attractive post please so we get a balanced opinion here?
:rascal:

10 May 2009

I'd probably reply... but only if I thought they were attractive enough for me.
:smug:
I'm being flippant of course... if the rest of the profile and pics didn't attract me then I probably wouldn't, to be fair.

10 May 2009

Quote by BIoke
Can somebody attractive post please so we get a balanced opinion here?
:rascal:

Cheeky bleeder! lol

10 May 2009

Quote by flower411
Can somebody attractive post please so we get a balanced opinion here?
:rascal:

But !!!
You already have :shock:
B**tard - beat me to it!!
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10 May 2009

Quote by flower411
Can somebody attractive post please so we get a balanced opinion here?
:rascal:

But !!!
You already have :shock:
You find me attractive? It's the pink cowboy hat isn't it... come on now? lol

10 May 2009

Quote by BIoke
Can somebody attractive post please so we get a balanced opinion here?
:rascal:

But !!!
You already have :shock:
You find me attractive? It's the pink cowboy hat isn't it... come on now? lol

Bloke. I think everyone finds you attractive kiss

10 May 2009

Quote by flower411
Don`t ya just hate these gays ?? Always fishing for compliments
Best to humour them

"Mr flower loves anal sex, mrs f finds this a bit odd, but hey !! each to their own. We do sometimes enjoy some mild bondage as well."
Hey... hubba hubba, come to daddy :rascal:

10 May 2009

Quote by flower411
Can somebody attractive post please so we get a balanced opinion here?
:rascal:

But !!!
You already have :shock:
B**tard - beat me to it!!
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Don`t ya just hate these gays ?? Always fishing for compliments rolleyes

Best to humour them wink

B**tard - beat me to it again!! wink

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10 May 2009

Quote by Witchy
Someone asking for "attractive" may well put me off- 70% because of my own lack of confidence, and 30% because of the sense of self importance already mentioned.

I completely understand that, I go through that a lot, and it isn't so much seeing a persons sense of self importance, if they have put the "attractive people only" line in their profile, they have a perfectly acceptable right to want someone they find attractive, but I often find it dificult to actually find out what they consider attractive, and whether I fit any of that criteria.
I am more than aware that I am not everyones cup of tea (a significant amout of non-replies and rejections firmly define that one) and one friend recently said to me that my sarcasm and arrogance is just a mask, as the person she speaks to privately is very different. I am naturally sarcastic and I think the arrogance could possibly be overcompensating for the lack of confidence, but it all being very hesitant in making approaches these days, and someone saying attractive people may only message me (or words to that effect) are doing nothing but making me judgmental, by judging that particular book by its cover, as well as giving the voice in my head of the lack of confidence more ammo by saying "you are wasting your time"
The one line regarding attractiveness can often be the single stand out point in a persons ad or profile, and the focus for a person with no confidence would be the negative, i.e. "you aren't good enough" as opposed to the positive "fantastic, a confident woman who knows what she wants."
I'm rambling....

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