Ello.
I'm recently separated guy and looking to meet some like minded ladies.
Although I registered on this site ages ago I never really plucked up enough courage to do anything with it. Is there any advice the more learned users could give me in regards to how this process works.
This is a bit out of my comfort zone and am quite nervous about the whole thing.
Lol, I'm paranoid about running into someone I know!
P.S I am not a mental! Just looking for advice or someone to teach me the ropes, do's/don'ts.
Thanks
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snow, welcome to the forums :welcome::welcome:
a good place to ease yourself in gently is in the chatrooms, get to know a few folks in there and then maybe tentatively put your name down for one of the socials happening (in the lets meet up forum)
good luck and dont be a stranger :rascal:
Kat
a good place to ease yourself in gently is in the chatrooms, get to know a few folks in there and then maybe tentatively put your name down for one of the socials happening (in the lets meet up forum)
good luck and dont be a stranger :rascal:
Kat
You are not alone Snow, nearly everyone who joins the site is nervous and there are loads of forum threads to help newbies.
However for a 'Quick Start' manual:-
Do a proper update of your profile. Rewrite your 'About Me' to reflect who you are. Look at other profiles and use the same style that appeals to you. It's probably one of the most important area's. Others tend to view your profile and this is the 5 second showcase for yourself.
Upload a picture or two. If you are worried about being seen, put them in a 'Private Folder' where you can send the link to those you are interested in meeting. They don't have to be of you 'naked' or your 'bits', most ladies prefer a full face or full body photo of a well dressed man.
Join in with the chat, those with a personality and can hold a conversation shine out in the rooms and that give you a head start over the 'silent' ones.
Read others profiles carefully. Make sure you don't whisper/wink someone who states 'do not whisper/wink' or worse, isn't looking looking for what you are.
Build relationships with other users, it's not an instant process - 'quality takes time'.
Attend a social or two. These are a great way to meet face-to-face in a no pressure environment and shows others a 'commitment' on your part.
If you run into someone you 'know' then surely the first question is "why are they here?". They are hardly likely to broadcast the fact!
Be polite - a no means no. Rejection happens on sites like this, don't take it personally there are loads more people to chat to.
If you are floundering in chat, talk to a Chat Op (we're the ones with a Blue Star next to our names) we can help, and give advice.
However for a 'Quick Start' manual:-
Do a proper update of your profile. Rewrite your 'About Me' to reflect who you are. Look at other profiles and use the same style that appeals to you. It's probably one of the most important area's. Others tend to view your profile and this is the 5 second showcase for yourself.
Upload a picture or two. If you are worried about being seen, put them in a 'Private Folder' where you can send the link to those you are interested in meeting. They don't have to be of you 'naked' or your 'bits', most ladies prefer a full face or full body photo of a well dressed man.
Join in with the chat, those with a personality and can hold a conversation shine out in the rooms and that give you a head start over the 'silent' ones.
Read others profiles carefully. Make sure you don't whisper/wink someone who states 'do not whisper/wink' or worse, isn't looking looking for what you are.
Build relationships with other users, it's not an instant process - 'quality takes time'.
Attend a social or two. These are a great way to meet face-to-face in a no pressure environment and shows others a 'commitment' on your part.
If you run into someone you 'know' then surely the first question is "why are they here?". They are hardly likely to broadcast the fact!
Be polite - a no means no. Rejection happens on sites like this, don't take it personally there are loads more people to chat to.
If you are floundering in chat, talk to a Chat Op (we're the ones with a Blue Star next to our names) we can help, and give advice.
Sex God
Don't blanket bomb everyone with a 'fancy a shag' one line message, choose quality over quantity, write a personal, interesting message and be prepared for a high percentage of rejections/deletions/unread mail. in 10 years here i've never met anyone from a general PM, i have met some awesome people from random chats in the forum, cheeky comments about their profile/pics and even giving someone advice about fixing a laptop 
Be patient, cos when you do unexpectedly click with someone- be prepared for an exciting ride! :twisted:
Be patient, cos when you do unexpectedly click with someone- be prepared for an exciting ride! :twisted:
Quote by meat2pleaseu
Don't blanket bomb everyone with a 'fancy a shag' one line message, choose quality over quantity, write a personal, interesting message and be prepared for a high percentage of rejections/deletions/unread mail. in 10 years here i've never met anyone from a general PM, i have met some awesome people from random chats in the forum, cheeky comments about their profile/pics and even giving someone advice about fixing a laptop
Be patient, cos when you do unexpectedly click with someone- be prepared for an exciting ride! :twisted:
Fancy a shag :lol2:
I've only been here 6 months and still learning the ropes but so far aside from one complete and utter time waster, most people have been welcoming
Sex God
Quote by flirty_4
Don't blanket bomb everyone with a 'fancy a shag' one line message, choose quality over quantity, write a personal, interesting message and be prepared for a high percentage of rejections/deletions/unread mail. in 10 years here i've never met anyone from a general PM, i have met some awesome people from random chats in the forum, cheeky comments about their profile/pics and even giving someone advice about fixing a laptop
Be patient, cos when you do unexpectedly click with someone- be prepared for an exciting ride! :twisted:
Fancy a shag :lol2:
I've only been here 6 months and still learning the ropes but so far aside from one complete and utter time waster, most people have been welcoming
Yes please :twisted: .....
.....and you might have a couple of outstanding reasons why time wasters are thin on the ground in your case
hwoar: :lickface: Quote by meat2pleaseu
Don't blanket bomb everyone with a 'fancy a shag' one line message, choose quality over quantity, write a personal, interesting message and be prepared for a high percentage of rejections/deletions/unread mail. in 10 years here i've never met anyone from a general PM, i have met some awesome people from random chats in the forum, cheeky comments about their profile/pics and even giving someone advice about fixing a laptop
Be patient, cos when you do unexpectedly click with someone- be prepared for an exciting ride! :twisted:
Fancy a shag :lol2:
I've only been here 6 months and still learning the ropes but so far aside from one complete and utter time waster, most people have been welcoming
Yes please :twisted: .....
.....and you might have a couple of outstanding reasons why time wasters are thin on the ground in your case
hwoar: :lickface:Why thank you Mr meaty
Sex God
Hi Snow, welcome to the site and to the forums. I would say don't worry too much about bumping into anyone you know because if you do, it means they are also into swinging so will probably be as nervous as you. Plus they are not going to go round telling people that they saw you at the local swingers club/house party/threesome party as it would just be giving away that they are swingers as well.
Good luck, take your time to settle in, and really do hope you find what you are looking for.
Good luck, take your time to settle in, and really do hope you find what you are looking for.
Orgasminator
Quote by Katniss
snow, welcome to the forums :welcome::welcome:
a good place to ease yourself in gently is in the chatrooms, get to know a few folks in there and then maybe tentatively put your name down for one of the socials happening (in the lets meet up forum)
good luck and dont be a stranger :rascal:
Kat
Just watch out for me and kat..............we are twins
Sex God
Some great advice so far, but I'll add my two penneth too.
Take a look at some dated, but still valuable advice from the past Here Rodgers post is always worth a read.
I would also recommend that you take a good look at your profile. Reading that your sex life with your partner isn't great is not considered as a turn on by most people, particulaly when you then go on to say your now seperated and therefore it's irrelevant to the you of today.
Take a look at some dated, but still valuable advice from the past Here Rodgers post is always worth a read.
I would also recommend that you take a good look at your profile. Reading that your sex life with your partner isn't great is not considered as a turn on by most people, particulaly when you then go on to say your now seperated and therefore it's irrelevant to the you of today.
