looks or personality

19 Jun 2006

Quote by Kiss_Me
As somebody rightly pointed out that when I stated that I had looks and personality I should have backed my claim up by uploading my picture!

:karaoke: ... don't cha wish ya girlfriend was hot like me.... :karaoke:

Well hello gorgeous........ wink

I always think this is a tough question to answer perfectly honestly. Personally I think there has to be some kind of physical attraction involved (unless of course you're blind) but I think there also has to be a mental attraction.
I will admit to drooling over nice cleavages/bums etc but to hold my interest you have to be able to engage me in sensible(?) conversation too.
I stick by the phrase I've used in the past If you can turn my mind on you'll almost definitely turn my body on, but if you can't turn my mind on walk away because my body can't get turned on by itself.

19 Jun 2006

I think it has to be a mixture of looks and personality, but fortunately we are all different and attracted to different traits, one person's pin up will be another's turn off. The age issue is personal choice also, I tend to prefer people of my own age because it's easier to relate to them.
H.x

19 Jun 2006

Quote by H-x
I think it has to be a mixture of looks and personality, but fortunately we are all different and attracted to different traits, one person's pin up will be another's turn off. The age issue is personal choice also, I tend to prefer people of my own age because it's easier to relate to them.
H.x

So not only am I female and you're seeking a male.... I'm also too young for you? There is no hope for me now! :uhoh:
... well you can't blame a girl... you did look very sexy on cam the other night!....

30 Jun 2006

well i dont give a damn what anyone else says........looks count with everyone at first.
you aint gonna shag a butt ugly person if they got a wicked personality, after all i wud hope that you lot out there have at least some decency about yrselves!!!!!!!!!
me, i go for looks every time, if the cock dont look right, i wont wear it lol lol

30 Jun 2006

Quote by elleandcee
well i dont give a damn what anyone else says........looks count with everyone at first.
you aint gonna shag a butt ugly person if they got a wicked personality, after all i wud hope that you lot out there have at least some decency about yrselves!!!!!!!!!
me, i go for looks every time, if the cock dont look right, i wont wear it lol

Maybe some of us aren't that shallow?
Maybe your definition of butt ugly is different to other people's?

30 Jun 2006

Quote by elleandcee
well i dont give a damn what anyone else says........looks count with everyone at first.
you aint gonna shag a butt ugly person if they got a wicked personality, after all i wud hope that you lot out there have at least some decency about yrselves!!!!!!!!!
me, i go for looks every time, if the cock dont look right, i wont wear it lol

(up to a point) wink

1 Jul 2006

Hey, I'm desparate... I'll take anyone who's interested...

1 Jul 2006

:shock:

1 Jul 2006

Quote by SymonOUna
Hey, I'm desparate... I'll take anyone who's interested...

:giggle:
I admire your honesty... even though it was said tongue in cheek................ it was a tongue in cheek comment wasn't it? :shock:
wink

1 Jul 2006

lets face it.....People don't walk down the street, spot someone and think to themselves
"cor look at the personality on her/him"
Although personality is important, so is the look of someone.
*gets ready to be slated now*

1 Jul 2006

> I admire your honesty... even though it was said tongue in cheek................ it was a tongue in cheek comment wasn't it?
Tongue in my owncheek, unfortunately!
surprised

hwell:

1 Jul 2006

Quote by foxyandbeasty
lets face it.....People don't walk down the street, spot someone and think to themselves
"cor look at the personality on her/him"
Although personality is important, so is the look of someone.
*gets ready to be slated now*

I wouldn't slate you for that comment hunni. I feel the same as you. There has to be a physical attraction as well as some grey matter for me to be drawn to someone. I couldn't spend more than 5 minutes in the company of someone who couldn't hold a decent conversation or had something interesting to say, no matter how gorgeous they were. There again, I can't see me getting physical with someone who I didn't find attractive either.
It's the whole package for me I'm afraid but hey, I'm a woman.....I don't do things by halves wink

1 Jul 2006

Quote by foxyandbeasty
*gets ready to be slated now*

Not in the slightest. At least by me.
I can't explain this very well, and often appear to contradict myself; but . . . . . .
You can't see a persons personality across a crowded room.
I once, unknowingly, gave HLB an unintentioanl compliment when I told her she has the personality of an ugly bird :shock:
bolt

1 Jul 2006

Quote by dambuster
I once, unknowingly, gave HLB an unintentioanl compliment when I told her she has the personality of an ugly bird :shock:

:gagged:
I could.................. but i wont

1 Jul 2006

nah, bollox, post it and be damned, right?
'personality of an ugly bird' - sounds a bit like the broad generalisation that alot of blokes like BBW fems "because they have lovely bubbly warm personalities which 'compensates' for the body and makes them attractive regardless of dress size" ???
bolt

1 Jul 2006

and "oh but she has a lovely peresonality" translates into "shes not that pretty and a bit fat"
not that i would know of course, me being so fekking gorgeous...... wink

1 Jul 2006

Bit of Both,
Personally a nice personality must be there. I speak to more or less anyone anyway. regardless of looks.
Without a personality, looks don't cut it on their own.
Whereas a personality can.
Snowhawk lol

Not Certified for anything by anybody ..

1 Jul 2006

Beasty Here
Its a double edged sword. You can be attracted to someone by their looks. but fancy them by their personality.
I was attracted to Foxies looks, but fancied the arse off her when I got to know her.
Its happened many times, Attracted by looks, but lost interest when I found out they had no personality.

1 Jul 2006

Quote by snowhawk
Bit of Both,
Personally a nice personality must be there. I speak to more or less anyone anyway. regardless of looks.
Without a personality, looks don't cut it on their own.
Whereas a personality can.
Snowhawk
Not Certified for anything by anybody ..

that sums it up for me , thanks snowhawk biggrin

1 Jul 2006

Unusually, I'm going to rely on most of you knowing my "personality" ( cos I'm feeling lazy)and remind you I said

ugly bird

There wasn't anything in what I said to her, or posted in here meant to be malicious or derogatory to anyone. It was a lighthearted throw away comment.
I'll shut up now cos this sounds like one those posts from one of those blokes I find very hard to tolerate surprised

ops:
But, to clarify - I fancied her physically and sexually the first time I saw her. She had already told me she was

30, five foot, size 10, quite busty and blonde

before we met.
I subsequently fell in love with her "personality" - the whole package. Try as we did to avoid that, at the time.

1 Jul 2006

In Dammys defence here- he did say ugly, NOT fat.
And it sure as hell doesn't follow that "fat birds" are ugly birds!

1 Jul 2006

Quote by winchwench
In Dammys defence here- he did say ugly, NOT fat.
And it sure as hell doesn't follow that "fat birds" are ugly birds!

no of course it doesnt luv, I think you got the wrong end of my 'wooden spooning' lol

- my comments were aimed at those who will (on here) say things like 'its the person inside that counts' - because it scores brownie points, seen as 'nice', the 'acceptable' thing to say - and often is done to 'get in people's 'good books''. Some people say it genuinely - some dont. Some will say it here a create the idea that looks/ body dont matter as long as the personality is there - but when it comes down to it the intention is to offend the less people as possible (thus increasing their chances of a shag). In real life, given a choice between their fantasy woman and the fat/ugly bird with a great personality, for the purposes of sex, which one would most people choose?
I know it sounds blunt, but this irritates the crap outta me. I dont believe for one minute that its all about personality - yes, its about the person as a whole, but I'm not swallowing that 'well she's no oil painting but she's so warm and bubbly' claptrap - similarly as does the 'well you dont look at the mantlepiece when you're stoking the fire' attitude .

1 Jul 2006

Quote by Darkfire
. . . my comments were aimed at those who will (on here) say things like 'its the person inside that counts' - because it scores brownie points, seen as 'nice', the 'acceptable' thing to say - and often is done to 'get in people's 'good books''. Some people say it genuinely - some dont.

Quote by dambuster
I'll shut up now cos this sounds like one those posts from one of those blokes I find very hard to tolerate

:gagged:

1 Jul 2006

So, all the people who say that it's looks first: how about those people on here who you banter with then take it to PM, messenger, 'phone because you get on really well with them - even fancy them - without seeing a picture?

1 Jul 2006

there's a difference between bantering/ being friendly/chatting on msn, and shagging???? dunno

i can be the best of friends with someone, be really close, chat on msn everyday etc - but if I dont fancy them , well, I dont fancy them. The cruelest thing is if you really get on with someone, you build up a pic in your head of what they're like/look like , and the reality is very different - and you drop back down to earth with a bump, usually on your ass.

1 Jul 2006

Yes there is; I mean when it progresses to that stage and you fancy someone for their mind and know that you would shag them, even though you haven't seen them. Or is it just me that's done that? redface

1 Jul 2006

Quote by Freckledbird
. . . because you get on really well with them - even fancy them - without seeing a picture?

Or is it that we fancy the "idea" of them.
The Idea of them that we've built up over a period of time here, online ?
I don't build a physical picture about someones apperance, but I do bulid an "idea" of someone from their banter/flirting/bouncing off each other.

1 Jul 2006

i need banning off this bloody forum redface

ops: , i'm meant to be at the BBQ in an hour - i'm not even dressed yet, havent sorted what i'm wearing, have the weekly shop to do and havent done me bits :oops: :oops:
stop posting interesting stuff please or i'll never fookin get there today lol

:lol:

1 Jul 2006

Quite possibly DB - maybe I'm odd. Maybe it's lucky for me that some people have been attracted to my personality first.

1 Jul 2006

Me too....Freckled- I think its entirely possible to be turned on purely by someones mind.
Dark- I do see your point, once you're turned off by someones looks its harder for their personality to win you over. But on the flipside, when Im turned on by someones personality before seeing them, the looks are far less likely to be an issue.
I think its all down to chemistry- gorgeous or ugly.