Hi all,
I told my gf today that I wanted to get involved in swinging. She promptly finished me. I wish I could say it was just because of that but I think our break up has been on the cards for a while. Nethertheless, I love her with everything I am, but as things normally end up.... the one I love so much is the one who doesn't love me back the same.
Anyway, has anyone else been giltted because of swinging?
:cry: :cry:
depressivly yours
nb2004
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Hi all,
I told my gf today that I wanted to get involved in swinging. She promptly finished me. I wish I could say it was just because of that but I think our break up has been on the cards for a while. Nethertheless, I love her with everything I am, but as things normally end up.... the one I love so much is the one who doesn't love me back the same.
Anyway, has anyone else been giltted because of swinging?
:cry: :cry:
depressivly yours
nb2004
NB2004;
Maybe she found that that was the ideal reason for finishing the relationship and it was on the cards anyway.
I have only had two swinging partners and introduced them both to the idea as a fantasy. As we both thought the fantasy was incredibly erotic we could then progress further. But the whole deal is that we discussed over quite a long time and only moved on to acting out the fantasy when we were both comfortable.
Now I don't know how you approached your gf but got the impression you might have been somewhat blunt.
Anyway, good luck. Just put it down to one of lifes experiences.
Paul
Just be thankful you were able to give that love.
I spent three years with a huge case of unrequited love before I finally realised that my feelings for her weren't true. But in those three years, every sinew of my being yearned for this girl. I couldn't form any other relationships because of it and it's only been since December that I can start moving my life forward.
I spent three years with a huge case of unrequited love before I finally realised that my feelings for her weren't true. But in those three years, every sinew of my being yearned for this girl. I couldn't form any other relationships because of it and it's only been since December that I can start moving my life forward.
Paul is right...
For women, being on the recieving end of penetration, it can be a case of not just physical penetration but mental penetration. And the mind's natural defence is to clam up in times where control over events is threatened. Approach is everything...
I wasn't born shagging the arse of every bloke I fancy, but I came to swinging as a result of a partner gently coaxing me around to the thought. All the time, the shots were mine, it was my experiences he thought of and still to this day he gets a real buzz out of me expressing my desires and acting on them... and by reciprocation, I enjoy hearing and seeing him acting out his desires.
Did you give your GF the chance to think about what it would be like for her to feel free to have sex with different partners and explore her horizons rather than put the case for your own desires?
Hxx
For women, being on the recieving end of penetration, it can be a case of not just physical penetration but mental penetration. And the mind's natural defence is to clam up in times where control over events is threatened. Approach is everything...
I wasn't born shagging the arse of every bloke I fancy, but I came to swinging as a result of a partner gently coaxing me around to the thought. All the time, the shots were mine, it was my experiences he thought of and still to this day he gets a real buzz out of me expressing my desires and acting on them... and by reciprocation, I enjoy hearing and seeing him acting out his desires.
Did you give your GF the chance to think about what it would be like for her to feel free to have sex with different partners and explore her horizons rather than put the case for your own desires?
Hxx
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newbiestudent, remember the bard's words - "Love is not love that alters when it alteration finds." It sounds like it was a pretext rather than the real reason.
Still, as a general point, if anyone says completely out of the blue to their partner, 'Right, I'm going to start swinging,' it could be pretty undermining...
Still, as a general point, if anyone says completely out of the blue to their partner, 'Right, I'm going to start swinging,' it could be pretty undermining...
Thanks for all your support and honesty.
I guess i knew that I didn't feel as if she completed me 100% anyway.
I knew the end was coming, but even though I knew we wern't working out... i still couldn't let go. The swinging only came in to it because I needed to confront her on how close she really was to me. I THOUGHT we were close. But obviously it was just a pretense she was keeping until she felt like breaking up.
My only regret is that I should've let go of her when I first felt something was wrong.
Anyway, I suppose it's good to get it sorted sooner than later. I don't think she would have ever accepted my lifestyle, so the only way to continue would be to supress the person I want to be. I'm not doing that!
Time will heal (again!) i hope.
Thanks again... everyone. Even the blunt 'get over it' remarks are helpful
I guess i knew that I didn't feel as if she completed me 100% anyway.
I knew the end was coming, but even though I knew we wern't working out... i still couldn't let go. The swinging only came in to it because I needed to confront her on how close she really was to me. I THOUGHT we were close. But obviously it was just a pretense she was keeping until she felt like breaking up.
My only regret is that I should've let go of her when I first felt something was wrong.
Anyway, I suppose it's good to get it sorted sooner than later. I don't think she would have ever accepted my lifestyle, so the only way to continue would be to supress the person I want to be. I'm not doing that!
Time will heal (again!) i hope.
Thanks again... everyone. Even the blunt 'get over it' remarks are helpful
nb2004 :therethere:
I lost a lover due to swinging, not in the same way as you but was still crushed at the time.
Such a long story, he pushed, I dug my heels in, I then agreed then he dumped me for cheating (even tho he was already seeing someone else which I didn't know about!)...... Blimey, not such a long story when written like that! :shock:
It's easy for me to make light of it now it's 2 years on - but it was an awful time for me, so know how you must be feeling right now. It might not feel like it, but you do get over it - take what had to be learnt from that relationship and use it to eventually move forward.
Good luck
Greg!!!
.... makes mental note never to PM Gregisthegod for sympathy! 
I lost a lover due to swinging, not in the same way as you but was still crushed at the time.
Such a long story, he pushed, I dug my heels in, I then agreed then he dumped me for cheating (even tho he was already seeing someone else which I didn't know about!)...... Blimey, not such a long story when written like that! :shock:
It's easy for me to make light of it now it's 2 years on - but it was an awful time for me, so know how you must be feeling right now. It might not feel like it, but you do get over it - take what had to be learnt from that relationship and use it to eventually move forward.
Good luck
Greg!!!
.... makes mental note never to PM Gregisthegod for sympathy! Quote by MISSCHIEF
Hey, you never know, you might eventually find a girlfriend here.....that would certainly bypass bringing the swinging issue to the fore later in a relationship!
Stranger things have happened!
Yep, stranger things have happened
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