Male Attractiveness! (and other things!!!)

24 Jul 2005

I know this topic has been done in a way, but i mean in sorta differently.
What makes a man attractive? I know facial symmetry is an element, but in all honesty what part do different features play in peoples minds? For example,
* Eyes
* Humour
* Bum
* Hair
And is it different for men and women? As a bisexual man I find certain attributes of a man to my taste, but almost completely different ones for women!
And how far does somebody having a horrible personality degrade their overall attractiveness as a person, despite physical qualities?
Obviously, it will depend on whether its a "quick f*ck" or "lasting romance" being sought, but I would put to you this - would you sleep with an asshole if they looked OK?
AND...
In a club, how important is it that a man is confident enough to stride over and demand your attention?
These aren't just random questions they honestly are of importance to me so any reply would be helpful!
Thanks every1 smile

L xxx

24 Jul 2005

Quote by 3someinpreston
I know this topic has been done in a way, but i mean in sorta differently.
What makes a man attractive? I know facial symmetry is an element, but in all honesty what part do different features play in peoples minds? For example,
* Eyes
* Humour
* Bum
* Hair
And is it different for men and women? As a bisexual man I find certain attributes of a man to my taste, but almost completely different ones for women!
And how far does somebody having a horrible personality degrade their overall attractiveness as a person, despite physical qualities?
Obviously, it will depend on whether its a "quick f*ck" or "lasting romance" being sought, but I would put to you this - would you sleep with an asshole if they looked OK?
AND...
In a club, how important is it that a man is confident enough to stride over and demand your attention?
These aren't just random questions they honestly are of importance to me so any reply would be helpful!
Thanks every1
L xxx

What makes a man attractive to me, certain physical attributes ie Sexy hairy chest ( men waxed, not for me), defined and toned shoulders and arms are nice :) and mens necks dunno

:dunno:
If someone has problems with social skills, i dont find this an unattractive trait. I will do my best to make them feel at ease. wink

I have many many many times refused to play with the so called attractive, sexy, hunky love gods with 9" c..k flipa

Not even for a quick f..k :flipa:
The ones ive met seem to have shite personalities, why do they think they have the freedom to go grabbing women in clubs banghead

No respect ever shown to my partner (dino).
And generally i find that they have no idea about swinging and understanding everybodys needs.
And all they seem to talk about is. What they are going to get/what am i going to do for them. Never ask me what i want confused

Thankfully i have met many nice, understanding and attentive single men all shapes, sizes, looks and personalities :wink: So i will always choose to stay away from the assholes :kissmyarse: , who always assume i will play with them :flipa:
As for your last question, it is always nice to be approached by a guy who has the confidence to do that. But in my experience, they rarely do :dunno: i also dont understand why this is :dunno:
We have talked about this, Dino seems to think some may be intimidated by me (my sexual confidence) blink

he also thinks some dont want to be seen to be pushy single blokes, and therefore would rather be asked, than ask. imho
But at the end of the day, me and dino always have great fun when we swing, now we are more aware :shock: We will not allow anybody to spoil our experiences 69position

H, red x

24 Jul 2005

I personally go for someone with an interesting face and someone who smiles, rather than classic good looks.
You have touched on something I would like to know about. I am very new to this and my partner and I have been to a club twice. Each time we have had fun with each other, but we have been uncertain of how lo go about getting involved with other couples. :doh:
The single guys hang around obviously waiting for an invite, but how do you actually do that? How do you invite someone? How do you know whether other couples are interested? How do you go about making suggestions? Obviously, you can't assume that everyone in a swingers club is willing to have sex with you.
As a couple we have had other couples or singles moving closer, watching and smiling at us, but what should we do next? Do you just go up to someone and say "do you want to join us?" or what?
I know these might sound like a silly questions, but it's really difficult to kow where to start!
Any advice would be gratefully received confused

:angel:

24 Jul 2005

Quote by angelnn66
I personally go for someone with an interesting face and someone who smiles, rather than classic good looks.
You have touched on something I would like to know about. I am very new to this and my partner and I have been to a club twice. Each time we have had fun with each other, but we have been uncertain of how lo go about getting involved with other couples. :doh:
The single guys hang around obviously waiting for an invite, but how do you actually do that? How do you invite someone? How do you know whether other couples are interested? How do you go about making suggestions? Obviously, you can't assume that everyone in a swingers club is willing to have sex with you.
As a couple we have had other couples or singles moving closer, watching and smiling at us, but what should we do next? Do you just go up to someone and say "do you want to join us?" or what?
I know these might sound like a silly questions, but it's really difficult to kow where to start!
Any advice would be gratefully received
:angel:

Hi angelnn66,
In our experience with couples, we always start with small chat ie about other clubs, maybe tell each other about experiences in swinging.
Then usually the conversation will take its natural course. If it starts to become obvious that they may be interested and you are to. Then thats the time to make it clear to each other what your sexual desires and preferences are ie full swap, soft swing, bi fem, bi male etc
I think its very important that for everyone involved to feel comfortable, which will make it a good evening for all. Remember everyone who is in the club is there for the same reason you are wink

Enjoy :happy:
H, red x

24 Jul 2005

Beauty really is very much in the eye of the beholder, and can also be situational.
In a night club on a saturday night, you may find a particular look, style and approach attractive, passionkiss

but if the same person wore the same clothes and acted in the same way on a wet Sunday morning in Tesco when you are shopping with a hangover, it may well receive a different reaction. :kick:
Swinging Clubs dunno

I'll leave that one to those who know!
lhk
Kat

24 Jul 2005

Thank you horny red, that's very useful xxx :angel:

24 Jul 2005

Quote by 3someinpreston
What makes a man attractive? I know facial symmetry is an element, but in all honesty what part do different features play in peoples minds? For example,
* Eyes
* Humour
* Bum
* Hair

Nice cock and a 6-pack :twisted: .
OK, so I'm shallow. Deal with it lol

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

24 Jul 2005

Quote by bluexxx
What makes a man attractive? I know facial symmetry is an element, but in all honesty what part do different features play in peoples minds? For example,
* Eyes
* Humour
* Bum
* Hair

Nice cock and a 6-pack :twisted: .
OK, so I'm shallow. Deal with it lol

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Now this is the sort of answer id normally expect from h`red wink

24 Jul 2005

There is a very fine line between confidence and arrogance.I've always found if you don't come over as a sexual predator,as a bloke that is, and don't try to be too pushy, as a woman likes to feel that they have some control of where the situation is going, then that more or less is always mind or I could sell it and be rich.
Even if it ends up establishing a non f@ck friendship it can be great too as the fact that I have two good female friends who I've never had sex/made love to testifies.

24 Jul 2005

Quote by HornyRed
I know this topic has been done in a way, but i mean in sorta differently.
What makes a man attractive? I know facial symmetry is an element, but in all honesty what part do different features play in peoples minds? For example,
* Eyes
* Humour
* Bum
* Hair
And is it different for men and women? As a bisexual man I find certain attributes of a man to my taste, but almost completely different ones for women!
And how far does somebody having a horrible personality degrade their overall attractiveness as a person, despite physical qualities?
Obviously, it will depend on whether its a "quick f*ck" or "lasting romance" being sought, but I would put to you this - would you sleep with an asshole if they looked OK?
AND...
In a club, how important is it that a man is confident enough to stride over and demand your attention?
These aren't just random questions they honestly are of importance to me so any reply would be helpful!
Thanks every1
L xxx

What makes a man attractive to me, certain physical attributes ie Sexy hairy chest ( men waxed, not for me), defined and toned shoulders and arms are nice :) and mens necks dunno

:dunno:
If someone has problems with social skills, i dont find this an unattractive trait. I will do my best to make them feel at ease. wink

I have many many many times refused to play with the so called attractive, sexy, hunky love gods with 9" c..k flipa

Not even for a quick f..k :flipa:
The ones ive met seem to have shite personalities, why do they think they have the freedom to go grabbing women in clubs banghead

No respect ever shown to my partner (dino).
And generally i find that they have no idea about swinging and understanding everybodys needs.
And all they seem to talk about is. What they are going to get/what am i going to do for them. Never ask me what i want confused

Thankfully i have met many nice, understanding and attentive single men all shapes, sizes, looks and personalities :wink: So i will always choose to stay away from the assholes :kissmyarse: , who always assume i will play with them :flipa:
As for your last question, it is always nice to be approached by a guy who has the confidence to do that. But in my experience, they rarely do :dunno: i also dont understand why this is :dunno:
We have talked about this, Dino seems to think some may be intimidated by me (my sexual confidence) blink

he also thinks some dont want to be seen to be pushy single blokes, and therefore would rather be asked, than ask. imho
But at the end of the day, me and dino always have great fun when we swing, now we are more aware :shock: We will not allow anybody to spoil our experiences 69position

H, red x
I am faily new to the forum , and have been savaged a bit (maybe justifiabley) ( how do you spell justifiably Fecklebird?) for my own posts, but i must admit, the more post of yours i read, the more i like you.
I THINK YOU ROCK. (Sorry for shouting, before you all jump in).
If you like men with hairy chests, see my AD 294891

24 Jul 2005

Bluetvr, to you, every post is an opportunity to get someone to look at your ad - people have said it before and you say it isn't so, but you've just done it!

25 Jul 2005

Quote by 3someinpreston
I know this topic has been done in a way, but i mean in sorta differently.
What makes a man attractive? I know facial symmetry is an element, but in all honesty what part do different features play in peoples minds? For example,
* Eyes
* Humour
* Bum
* Hair
And is it different for men and women? As a bisexual man I find certain attributes of a man to my taste, but almost completely different ones for women!
And how far does somebody having a horrible personality degrade their overall attractiveness as a person, despite physical qualities?
Obviously, it will depend on whether its a "quick f*ck" or "lasting romance" being sought, but I would put to you this - would you sleep with an asshole if they looked OK?
AND...
In a club, how important is it that a man is confident enough to stride over and demand your attention?
These aren't just random questions they honestly are of importance to me so any reply would be helpful!
Thanks every1
L xxx

Got to be their sense of humour.... catches my attention everytime...... lol..... the eyes are important... nice twinkly eyes are very enticing.
If someone walked straight over to me and demanded my attention.... i would probably be quite scared... a subtle approach is better....
The answer to your question about sleeping with a total arsehole.... is NO... i wouldn't... not even if he either looked like Brad Pitt... or was Brad Pitt..... if a man hasn't matched the criteria i look for... then... no chance.... lol
equi-princess xxx

25 Jul 2005

Quote by 3someinpreston
What makes a man attractive? I know facial symmetry is an element, but in all honesty what part do different features play in peoples minds? For example,
* Eyes
* Humour
* Bum
* Hair
And how far does somebody having a horrible personality degrade their overall attractiveness as a person, despite physical qualities?

Did you watch that programme on television last night ?
Looks, personality then social compatibility..............(not rocket science really !!!)
I want to say so much more that that ............ but dont want 20 posts all saying pass the bucket :lol: so I will leave it at that !!!!
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

25 Jul 2005

I do like a nice bum lol

25 Jul 2005

Personally I generally go for men with an air of confidence about them - but not arrogant! mad

I like to watch men in a social environment and love to see a man who knows how to enjoy himself and make others laugh.
Failing that a guy with a cheeky little glint in his eye watching me over a crowded room always gets me intrigued! wink

25 Jul 2005

Quote by clair
Personally I generally go for men with an air of confidence about them - but not arrogant!
I like to watch men in a social environment and love to see a man who knows how to enjoy himself and make others laugh.
Failing that a guy with a cheeky little glint in his eye watching me over a crowded room always gets me intrigued!

And how does one get this glint thing? Do they sell them in Topman, cuz i always wondered what those things where!!!

25 Jul 2005

Quote by 3someinpreston
Personally I generally go for men with an air of confidence about them - but not arrogant!
I like to watch men in a social environment and love to see a man who knows how to enjoy himself and make others laugh.
Failing that a guy with a cheeky little glint in his eye watching me over a crowded room always gets me intrigued!

And how does one get this glint thing? Do they sell them in Topman,

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

No but try ebay!

Quote by 3someinpreston
cuz i always wondered what those things where!!!

Not sure what exactly is was you were looking at in Topman, but feel free to share! :giggle:

25 Jul 2005

nope - my mistake - they don't exist, i was just drunk at the time!

26 Jul 2005

Quote by clair
Personally I generally go for men with an air of confidence about them - but not arrogant!

I think there's a very fine line between absolute confidence and arrogance.
I've found that it's the more perceptive and responsive women that can actually see the line.
I have to say - I find that perceptiveness ( ? ) soooooo very attractive in a woman.

26 Jul 2005

So you like the ones who think you're confident DB, not the ones who think you're arrogant? lol

26 Jul 2005

Quote by Redbird
I do like a nice bum

look no further than here Red....I can confidently say I am a complete arse smile

26 Jul 2005

In a woman it's a fine line between perceptiveness and bloody-mindedness
biggrin

:D :D :D

26 Jul 2005

Every morning when I step out of the shower and the mirror's a bit steamed up I think I catch sight of someone who's attractive - then I look again and realise me mistake. It's even worse when I rub a little hole in the mist to see who it is!!
Still you gotta laugh - it helps!!

26 Jul 2005

I like my women to be alive rolleyes

27 Jul 2005

A man can become significantly more atractive to women if they have been talking about him for some reason.

27 Jul 2005

Quote by freckledbird
So you like the ones who think you're confident DB, not the ones who think you're arrogant?

Not quite, Bev. It's the ones who know I'm arrogant that I have problems with wink

:lol2:

27 Jul 2005

Quote by dambuster
So you like the ones who think you're confident DB, not the ones who think you're arrogant?

Not quite, Bev. It's the ones who know I'm arrogant that I have problems with wink

:lol2:
:shock: but how do you handle them :wink:

27 Jul 2005

Quote by freckledbird
So you like the ones who think you're confident DB, not the ones who think you're arrogant?

Not quite, Bev. It's the ones who know I'm arrogant that I have problems with wink

:lol2:
:shock: but how do you handle them :wink:
Through very soft eyes and with tenderness and care, Miss. :wink:

27 Jul 2005

Eyes that twinkle in a blokes eyes does it everytime
Cheeky smile shows if they have a sense of humour cos by god they will need one with me
Well groomed doesnt have to be designer clothes but at least it shows they have pride in themselves and they must be ironed not just picked off the bedroom floor! Must admit designer stubble is a huge turn on and not an over grown bush hanging off their face

27 Jul 2005

Quote by a.k.a._Wagon_wheels
Eyes that twinkle in a blokes eyes does it everytime
Cheeky smile shows if they have a sense of humour cos by god they will need one with me
Well groomed doesnt have to be designer clothes but at least it shows they have pride in themselves and they must be ironed not just picked off the bedroom floor! Must admit designer stubble is a huge turn on and not an over grown bush hanging off their face

I've just poked myself in the eyes - they are now much more than twinkling surprised

uch:
Working (constantly) on a cheeky smile
*notes to self - 1. Buy an iron; and a wardrobe.
2. Don't shave for a couple of days before the next munch