Why do so many couples not bother to include any pictures of the husband / male partner on their SH profiles?
Can only assume that
a ) they're so ugly that it would put people off
b) they think that people don't care about what he looks like
c) they're not really interested in meeting couples, just looking for males
Come on folks. If you genuinely want to meet a couple, let's have pics of both of you.
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Sex God
D'ya know, I'd never thought about it.But yes, if I were looking to meet couples I'd defo want to see pics of both of them.
Quote by Mike2mike
Why do so many couples not bother to include any pictures of the husband / male partner on their SH profiles?
Can only assume that
a ) they're so ugly that it would put people off
b) they think that people don't care about what he looks like
c) they're not really interested in meeting couples, just looking for males
Come on folks. If you genuinely want to meet a couple, let's have pics of both of you.
Good call and yes I agree :thumbup:
I've found that females are often paraded around like the prize cow on some profiles. Any decent couples I know have realised the importance of there being an attraction to BOTH of them early on in the conversation.. but then I play a slightly different 'game' on here.
However, I'm sure even if I was straight I'd want to know what the 'other half' looked like. Perhaps one of you straight blokes could substantiate this?
Quote by bIoke
However, I'm sure even if I was straight I'd want to know what the 'other half' looked like. Perhaps one of you straight blokes could substantiate this?
Many couples are looking for someone just for their wife, there are pictures of me on the profile, in the private bit, that people can have if they want. However it really doesn't matter what I look like because I am not looking for a personal sexual encounter.
The same can be said if you look at it from the opposite perspective. There are many couples who want to watch their wives with another man, as far as the other man is concerned he doesn't care what the husband looks like for the reasons given earlier.
In all fairness the chances of actually meeting someone from the profile alone are that small it really doesn't matter what pictures are on there, but I agree that if a couple are looking for another couple then the chances of success would be improved if the photos contained pictures of both of them - and not just the customary genetalia exhibition.
We maybe a little different because even though we advertise to meet couples it is merely for voyeuristic and exhibiting purposes, we don`t swap partners so for us attraction to the other couple isn`t always necessary although we do like to be able to have a chat and a bit of a giggle.
Plus I would of thought in most cases the guys are more interested in looking at the women than they are in looking at the men.
Plus I would of thought in most cases the guys are more interested in looking at the women than they are in looking at the men.
Sex God
Quote by Mike2mike
Why do so many couples not bother to include any pictures of the husband / male partner on their SH profiles?
Can only assume that
a ) they're so ugly that it would put people off
b) they think that people don't care about what he looks like
c) they're not really interested in meeting couples, just looking for males
Come on folks. If you genuinely want to meet a couple, let's have pics of both of you.
Mikey,
or perhaps associated with content within http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/397064.html , hence many having 'identifiable' pics (as well as any 'rude' ones) in Private Gallery (s)
anyway you met us so know we crack mirrors
Sex God
From one such profile or one with much less pictures of yours truely its quite easy.
Its normally the men browsing the site so its them that needs to stop and look at your profile. If he likes your Mrs then he will shout the Mrs in from the front room to have a look at the bloke
In our experience we have found that there are also more woman that are less fussy than there are men who are less fussy. Both of us here agree that pictures of Woman are far more likely to be attractive or stylish than those of men. So we put up all the best shots of Mrs up and one or two of me that shows my basic body type. Then its down to the face pics that are private :eeek: :lol:
Its normally the men browsing the site so its them that needs to stop and look at your profile. If he likes your Mrs then he will shout the Mrs in from the front room to have a look at the bloke
In our experience we have found that there are also more woman that are less fussy than there are men who are less fussy. Both of us here agree that pictures of Woman are far more likely to be attractive or stylish than those of men. So we put up all the best shots of Mrs up and one or two of me that shows my basic body type. Then its down to the face pics that are private :eeek: :lol: 
Sex God
We have lots of pictures on our profile because we like taking pictures but there are pictures of us both. We don't show our faces in the public pictures but we have an album of face pictures and a private album of rude pictures showing our faces. It is important to me that others have pictures of both the male and female in public too.
Although I do partake in a little girly play, we are primarily here as a full swap couple and if I am going to fuck a guy, then I need to know what he looks like and know that I am attracted to him.
I see a profile as a persons shop window. If you walk past a shop and like what you see in the window, you will go in and take a look, if you don't, you will just walk past. If there are no pictures and no text on a profile telling people who you are and what you want then why would anyone want get in touch with you?
If people send us a message asking for a meet then I will ask for pictures if there are none on the profile but I wouldn't even think about sending a message to anyone without pictures of the guy on their profile because there is nothing there to catch my eye
We think that if there are no pictures of the guy in public then he obviously has something to hide and must be fat or ugly.
Although I do partake in a little girly play, we are primarily here as a full swap couple and if I am going to fuck a guy, then I need to know what he looks like and know that I am attracted to him.
I see a profile as a persons shop window. If you walk past a shop and like what you see in the window, you will go in and take a look, if you don't, you will just walk past. If there are no pictures and no text on a profile telling people who you are and what you want then why would anyone want get in touch with you?
If people send us a message asking for a meet then I will ask for pictures if there are none on the profile but I wouldn't even think about sending a message to anyone without pictures of the guy on their profile because there is nothing there to catch my eye
We think that if there are no pictures of the guy in public then he obviously has something to hide and must be fat or ugly.
Master of Sex
There's one of me but several of Jewl on our profile. Why? Jewl is more photogenic, but crap at taking pictures. No ones ever grumbled that the one of me is like a swinging version of 'Where's Wally' and if people really want to see what I look like they can always ask. It's not held us back from meeting anyone and no one has turned us down because there's little in the way of photos of me. What I don't get is why people need 20 photos of themselves that are basically the same pose - Here's me in a hat, here's me without a hat, here's me in a hat at a jaunty angle etc and don't get me started on close up pictures of what seems like the guy has his cock in some kind of ninja choke hold. Surely one is enough if you're that way inclined?
Sex God
Quote by Jewlnmart
There's one of me but several of Jewl on our profile. Why? Jewl is more photogenic, but crap at taking pictures. No ones ever grumbled that the one of me is like a swinging version of 'Where's Wally' and if people really want to see what I look like they can always ask. It's not held us back from meeting anyone and no one has turned us down because there's little in the way of photos of me. What I don't get is why people need 20 photos of themselves that are basically the same pose - Here's me in a hat, here's me without a hat, here's me in a hat at a jaunty angle etc and don't get me started on close up pictures of what seems like the guy has his cock in some kind of ninja choke hold. Surely one is enough if you're that way inclined?
I wouldn't say that there needs to be the same amount of male photos as female ones. At least you have one. (Even though it is a 'Where's Wally' one!)
Orgasminator
One of the reasons I dont have all my pics in public anymore is I received some pretty sick PMs about them from gay guys - I dont know if couples get the same but I found some of the things they wrote pretty twisted.
Quote by HnS
Why do so many couples not bother to include any pictures of the husband / male partner on their SH profiles?
Can only assume that
a ) they're so ugly that it would put people off
b) they think that people don't care about what he looks like
c) they're not really interested in meeting couples, just looking for males
Come on folks. If you genuinely want to meet a couple, let's have pics of both of you.
Mikey,
or perhaps associated with content within http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/397064.html , hence many having 'identifiable' pics (as well as any 'rude' ones) in Private Gallery (s)
anyway you met us so know we crack mirrors
Hey there Hns's
Is actually Mrs Mike who posted the query on the forum. Not only met you but snogged you lol!
I'm fed up of seeing 20 pics of a woman / parts of a woman in various poses and outfits with nary a one of her partner, even though they purport to be looking for couples.
I think the 'prize cow being paraded' analogy mentioned by another respondee is near the mark for a lot of folks, although not all obviously. I respect that there are many different reasons for being on this site, and if all you want is to watch another man fuck your missus, then fair do's.
However, as a female partner of a swinging couple, I'm equally interested as Mr Mike in seeing the pics of couples who say they're looking for couples, and its very frustrating to find no male pics.
I also get the point someone else mentioned of using private albums, but I find that if we get the point of sharing private albums, it means we've already been chatting and got to a certain point - this may actually be further than I'd want to be had I seen Mr X's pic initially.
Sex God
Quote by Mike2mike
Hey there Hns's
Is actually Mrs Mike who posted the query on the forum. Not only met you but snogged you lol!
I'm fed up of seeing 20 pics of a woman / parts of a woman in various poses and outfits with nary a one of her partner, even though they purport to be looking for couples.
I think the 'prize cow being paraded' analogy mentioned by another respondee is near the mark for a lot of folks, although not all obviously. I respect that there are many different reasons for being on this site, and if all you want is to watch another man fuck your missus, then fair do's.
However, as a female partner of a swinging couple, I'm equally interested as Mr Mike in seeing the pics of couples who say they're looking for couples, and its very frustrating to find no male pics.
I also get the point someone else mentioned of using private albums, but I find that if we get the point of sharing private albums, it means we've already been chatting and got to a certain point - this may actually be further than I'd want to be had I seen Mr X's pic initially.
Is that not going to be the case 99% of the time? I mean you can have all the body shots you want but 95%+ of profiles at a guess dont have face pics on the main page. The yes or no point for us will always be the face pics and as you say normally have spoken to degree before getting to private albums. Its the hardest time to have to say no or not message back
So you could have 5 great body shots of a girl and 5 great body shots of a guy then they turn out to have the faces of Kermit and Miss Piggy. In an ideal world we would all have body and face shots up but its not going to happen so the trawl will have to continue :neutral:
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Quote by Funlovers2009
must be fat or ugly.
What about short and ugly?
Sex God
i personally think that profiles with no pics are far worse
the reasons liza has more pics that i is because
1) liza is far mor atractive than i am
2) liza being bi will be playing with both partners where i will only be playing with one
3) im ugly
the reasons liza has more pics that i is because
1) liza is far mor atractive than i am
2) liza being bi will be playing with both partners where i will only be playing with one
3) im ugly
we are looking to do some pictures and make no mistake mrs star will be having more pictures than me. the reesons above my post are the reeson any good photographer out there pm us :lol:
but we will not be putting any facial pictures up on this site or any other site and for that is our choice to do. but this site is no different to other sites we have looked at, there are always more pictures of the ladies. i think far to many beer bellies for my liking :giggle:
any good photographer out there pm us :lol: but we will not be putting any facial pictures up on this site or any other site and for that is our choice to do. but this site is no different to other sites we have looked at, there are always more pictures of the ladies. i think far to many beer bellies for my liking :giggle:
Sex God
Quote by Big_Fraser
One of the reasons I dont have all my pics in public anymore is I received some pretty sick PMs about them from gay guys - I dont know if couples get the same but I found some of the things they wrote pretty twisted.
Meh... you'll get used to Bloke's humour one day! :giggle:
Orgasminator
qualifies under section 'A' - is an ugly fecker!
Quote by Big_Fraser
One of the reasons I dont have all my pics in public anymore is I received some pretty sick PMs about them from gay guys - I dont know if couples get the same but I found some of the things they wrote pretty twisted.
You mean the pics of your dick as, as far as I remember you didn't have any of your face?
It seems your PM box is constantly full Fraser and you have the site at your feet.. gay guys, couples, single females - thank goodness you're here.
Orgasminator
Quote by bIoke
You mean the pics of your dick as, as far as I remember you didn't have any of your face?
Im going back about 3 years when all my pics were public, the comments were not about my cock, Im not going into detail but the messages and accompanying pics were not pleasant. :sad:
Quote by bIoke
It seems your PM box is constantly full Fraser and you have the site at your feet.. gay guys, couples, single females - thank goodness you're here.
I expect better from you, if you want to have a dig dont just swing your sarcasm handbag at me
Things are ticking over - but because I work hard at it - I know Im nothing special, Im just a normal kind of guy.
Sex God
Quote by bIoke
One of the reasons I dont have all my pics in public anymore is I received some pretty sick PMs about them from gay guys - I dont know if couples get the same but I found some of the things they wrote pretty twisted.
You mean the pics of your dick as, as far as I remember you didn't have any of your face?
It seems your PM box is constantly full Fraser and you have the site at your feet.. gay guys, couples, single females - thank goodness you're here.
seconds that..........seems to have taken the heat off me
Sex God
Quote by HnS
Why do so many couples not bother to include any pictures of the husband / male partner on their SH profiles?
Can only assume that
a ) they're so ugly that it would put people off
b) they think that people don't care about what he looks like
c) they're not really interested in meeting couples, just looking for males
Come on folks. If you genuinely want to meet a couple, let's have pics of both of you.
Mikey,
or perhaps associated with content within http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/397064.html , hence many having 'identifiable' pics (as well as any 'rude' ones) in Private Gallery (s)
anyway you met us so know we crack mirrors
Quote by Mike2mike
Hey there Hns's
Is actually Mrs Mike who posted the query on the forum. Not only met you but snogged you lol! .
Lily,
:smitten:
very true and truly wonderful snog (s) as well, though don't think you ever saw a face pic in the public part of our profile of 'Him' before.
(brave of you
)Quote by Mike2mike
However, as a female partner of a swinging couple, I'm equally interested as Mr Mike in seeing the pics of couples who say they're looking for couples, and its very frustrating to find no male pics.
We've all probably met someone of model standard looks, who on chatting with, you realise there's no actual 'spark' or 'connection' for you personally, whereas the plain jane/joe stood next to you in the bar has that 'something' that excites you.
Agree, if meeting as a 4 then should have an idea of what the 4 look like. However does it initially have to be a face pic ?
Quote by Mike2mike
I also get the point someone else mentioned of using private albums, but I find that if we get the point of sharing private albums, it means we've already been chatting and got to a certain point - this may actually be further than I'd want to be had I seen Mr X's pic initially.
Quite true, however also makes a good case for using webcams and chatrooms, conversation before exchanging invites to private albums
Probably trying to say, you can't always judge a book by it's cover
I think its largely what we are used to seeing in the world of erotica, soft or hard porn etc.
that is; that women are more photographed than men. and the general public and purveyors of such don't normally demand to see some suitable male counterpart posing alongside them.
although in some societies and during some eras men and women have had an equal role in erotica. but at the moment that is less so.
that is; that women are more photographed than men. and the general public and purveyors of such don't normally demand to see some suitable male counterpart posing alongside them.
although in some societies and during some eras men and women have had an equal role in erotica. but at the moment that is less so.
Sex God
Mike, yeah, annoying isn't it? I don't really offer up all that much meself, and sometimes wonder if I'm being a hypocrite, wot with me self-declared refusal to use convenient tools like check-boxes and multiple photo opportunities and what have you, but that's not how I choose to do things, even though I insist on seeing all of the above when I'm searching for blokes I wanna play with. I'm pure visuals when it comes to it, and it's all about the cock. If the rest of 'ems nice looking, all well and good. Bit of personality helps too.
OTOH, for public consumption I've got a picture of me driving a boat. Hell yeah!
Got one of them swirly photoshopped faces as well, but never mind that. Doesn't mean I'm wanted in several countries . . . just means I don't want to be too easily identifiable, even though I'll quite happily send a face pic to anyone I know that asks for one? Not sure I really need to do that atcherly, wot with me having a picture of me driving a chuffin' boat, aye aye cap'n, now you mention it though. After all, what more could anyone want? ;)
N x x x ;)_
p.s. Ben? I'm starting to see why I don't get all too many offers of sordid brief encounters too all of a sudden? :P ;)
OTOH, for public consumption I've got a picture of me driving a boat. Hell yeah!
Got one of them swirly photoshopped faces as well, but never mind that. Doesn't mean I'm wanted in several countries . . . just means I don't want to be too easily identifiable, even though I'll quite happily send a face pic to anyone I know that asks for one? Not sure I really need to do that atcherly, wot with me having a picture of me driving a chuffin' boat, aye aye cap'n, now you mention it though. After all, what more could anyone want? ;)N x x x ;)_
p.s. Ben? I'm starting to see why I don't get all too many offers of sordid brief encounters too all of a sudden? :P ;)
