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I guess it depends how solid your marriage is and what the feelings are between you.
Hubby and I play separately ... however, it is the exception rather than the rule and it's only if we are both comfortable with the other person.
If your single playing is more than your married playing and you are meeting an individual more than different people, it could spell trouble at some point.
I don't think anyone can answer this specifically without knowing you.
C x
Hubby and I play separately ... however, it is the exception rather than the rule and it's only if we are both comfortable with the other person.
If your single playing is more than your married playing and you are meeting an individual more than different people, it could spell trouble at some point.
I don't think anyone can answer this specifically without knowing you.
C x
Quote by WiganCouple69
After months of playing seperate i have been wondering if a marriage can survive both partners playin solo with others, just wondering what every1s opinion is of this as i had a indepth discussion with someone today , and was basically told what we are doing is not swinging, which to a degree i agree with any opinions welcome
Ohhhhh no... ohhh no no no!
You're not getting me into this again!
I'm staying wellllll out of this one!!!!! :shock:
Orgasminator
My wife and I have been playing together and seperatley for a fair few years now. it certainly hasn't done our marrige any long as both of your are happy to play that way then there is nothing wrong with it at all, as for its not swinging, well who is to decide what is and isn't swinging ?
Quote by 3someinpreston
After months of playing seperate i have been wondering if a marriage can survive both partners playin solo with others, just wondering what every1s opinion is of this as i had a indepth discussion with someone today , and was basically told what we are doing is not swinging, which to a degree i agree with any opinions welcome
Ohhhhh no... ohhh no no no!
You're not getting me into this again!
I'm staying wellllll out of this one!!!!! :shock:
lol sorry didnt mean to rake it up for u
just that i had this indepth conversation with someone on msn today and i said my wife plays regular with someone on a weekly basis where as us playing together is very very few and far between. i have met a few single ladies but it always ends up that they want a relationship and thats not the idea at all.
just wanted others perspective of it
If that were our relationship then I would be concerned. We've got young children and so playtimes are difficult to arrange but we do manage something together at least once a month.
Luckily we've got a lock on our lounge door, and discreet baby monitors help to give a minute's warning should a child awake if we are intimate downstairs although we very rarely play at home. Could you arrange something similar perhaps?
The very best advice anyone here could give is to sit down and talk about it. The best swinging relationships are those where ALL the cards are on the table and nothing is hidden or not talked about.
C x
Luckily we've got a lock on our lounge door, and discreet baby monitors help to give a minute's warning should a child awake if we are intimate downstairs although we very rarely play at home. Could you arrange something similar perhaps?
The very best advice anyone here could give is to sit down and talk about it. The best swinging relationships are those where ALL the cards are on the table and nothing is hidden or not talked about.
C x
Quote by Calista
If that were our relationship then I would be concerned. We've got young children and so playtimes are difficult to arrange but we do manage something together at least once a month.
Luckily we've got a lock on our lounge door, and discreet baby monitors help to give a minute's warning should a child awake if we are intimate downstairs although we very rarely play at home. Could you arrange something similar perhaps?
The very best advice anyone here could give is to sit down and talk about it. The best swinging relationships are those where ALL the cards are on the table and nothing is hidden or not talked about.
C x
We do have a good strong relationship and are always open etc i think what it boils down to is me feeling a bit left out i just really wanted to know if it was a common occurance within swinging.
Quote by WiganCouple69
If that were our relationship then I would be concerned. We've got young children and so playtimes are difficult to arrange but we do manage something together at least once a month.
Luckily we've got a lock on our lounge door, and discreet baby monitors help to give a minute's warning should a child awake if we are intimate downstairs although we very rarely play at home. Could you arrange something similar perhaps?
The very best advice anyone here could give is to sit down and talk about it. The best swinging relationships are those where ALL the cards are on the table and nothing is hidden or not talked about.
C x
We do have a good strong relationship and are always open etc i think what it boils down to is me feeling a bit left out i just really wanted to know if it was a common occurance within swinging.
I think maybe your better half and yourself should talk about how you feel and, if you are as close as you say, then she will be more than willing to share her experiences with you.
You will get lots of single guys and gals interested in an experimental couple so theres no shortage of people who you could play with together.
Just sit down and discuss how you both feel. Best advice i can give
we have always played as a cpl and we was fine with that but a few months ago we met a single guy at a party we was invited too and jane fancied the pants off him :shock: even though she has not gone for single guys before. this lead to jane going to a party with this gentleman without me for the first time and i am happy to say he was a total gentleman and looked after jane all nite. i am happy for jane to do whatever she wants while we are out playing and if she wanted to play with a single guy again well thats fine . .i cant say i ever thought jane would want to attend a party with somebody else its just never been discussed before but now she has i would have no problem with that
Quote by pleasure40070
we have always played as a cpl and we was fine with that but a few months ago we met a single guy at a party we was invited too and jane fancied the pants off him :shock: even though she has not gone for single guys before. this lead to jane going to a party with this gentleman without me for the first time and i am happy to say he was a total gentleman and looked after jane all nite. i am happy for jane to do whatever she wants while we are out playing and if she wanted to play with a single guy again well thats fine . .i cant say i ever thought jane would want to attend a party with somebody else its just never been discussed before but now she has i would have no problem with that
Thats the way i feel as well - i wouldn't have a problem if she did want to play alone.
But I think i would have a problem if she "exclusively" played alone...
Its a hard line to find i guess...
difficult one to answer "what is swinging" our thoughts are if you play in the same room or seperatly from time to time thats swinging however if you spend the night seperatly untill morning that could be classed as wife swapping, we believe things are less likley to go wrong whilst swinging particulaly if the same 4 are involved on a regular basis
Quote by maidinheaven
I really, really want to reply to this. It somehow strikes a chord with me. My number one partner and I have been together for 13 years. We have been part of a threesome just about a year. We all live alone (except that I have a dughter still at home).
We sleep together - I mean spend the night together, yes? - Fridays and Saturdays. Number One is a bit croaky this weekend so he just wanted to stay home - alone, yes?
Our boyfriend would have been happy to stay with me but I didn't feel able to have him with me without Tom.
It seems to have been a lonely weekend. But a safer one, yes? You just have to do what is right for you.
i agree and its nice you think as him as a boyfriend and not your number one ,in this case 3 is not a crowd but two may be a problem, stay as a well tried and fulfilling threesome
Mollie
Sex God
Quote by WiganCouple69hey whos to say what is or swinging ,each to there own we say, we had a big debate with a couple in our group ,who said we aint real swingers because we dont full swap ,at the time we only did fem 2 fem fun ,which was what we wanted at the time,our first time at a club we met some nice couples ,but one couple really got under our skin ,saying "yer well we started like that and we ended up blah blah" we told them we only came tonight to see what the scenes about,any way been into the scene just over a year or so,and we have tried different things ,but it has been at our own pace ,our own boundrys ,which have from time to time others who before we have met but agreed some rules have tried to get us to cross the line ,and have ended up being huffed ,so we say just do what you are ok with,talk to each other and find out where you are going in this scene ,when the balls in your court its your choice what you do with it.
After months of playing seperate i have been wondering if a marriage can survive both partners playin solo with others, just wondering what every1s opinion is of this as i had a indepth discussion with someone today , and was basically told what we are doing is not swinging, which to a degree i agree with any opinions welcome just for the record we are not having problems its just following the chat i had today
Sex God
i do belive that going solo "is swinging". Swinging is not swaping couples, it can be group fun, solo or anything.....
MikeC
MikeC
Sexpert
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I think its what works for you, swinging comes in all forms, if you say a couple who plays alone are not swingers the surly all single men and women are not swingers either??
just a thought
We have played alone for a few years now, to me swinging is not about just what you get out of it, my hubby has met a few single str8 women who do not want to meet couples, for obvious reasons, and hes met couples who are after mmf 3sums, so is it fair on me to say no to him meeting her/them just cause she/they do not want to play with me? in my opinion no, i have a real liking for bi men, as my hubby is not bi i meet bi men alone, bi nights at clubs etc, and hes happy for me to be doing what i like, all cause its not for him he knows i enjoy it.
Personally i could not be in a swinging relationship where it was a case of.....if they don't want to meet me they not meeting you...... and we have met many people with that attitude, which is fine if thats what works for you but it wouldn't work for me.
just a thought
We have played alone for a few years now, to me swinging is not about just what you get out of it, my hubby has met a few single str8 women who do not want to meet couples, for obvious reasons, and hes met couples who are after mmf 3sums, so is it fair on me to say no to him meeting her/them just cause she/they do not want to play with me? in my opinion no, i have a real liking for bi men, as my hubby is not bi i meet bi men alone, bi nights at clubs etc, and hes happy for me to be doing what i like, all cause its not for him he knows i enjoy it.
Personally i could not be in a swinging relationship where it was a case of.....if they don't want to meet me they not meeting you...... and we have met many people with that attitude, which is fine if thats what works for you but it wouldn't work for me.
we have met couples and gone to different rooms i have also met single males with Keith permission as long as your both happy and trust each other that's all that matters it hasn't done us any harm infact i think it has brought us both closer together by meeting single males alone as i have a higher sex drive and saves me moaning at him if he cant keep up with me wanting it everyday of the week also it gives him a break could i say its not often i meet single males so no pms please 
Sex God
I don't know how many swinging couples end up swinging more with others than between themselves but I think where swinging is concerned, if it feels right then it most probably IS right. However, if there is resentment or doubts in one partner then the situation definately needs to be looked at honestly before the situation leads to problems in other aspects of the relationship too.
BTW, I'm not getting into the "what is swinging" debate again................
............. oh go on then, if you insist.........
YOU ARE IF YOU THINK YOU ARE. OK
8-) 8-) 8-)
BTW, I'm not getting into the "what is swinging" debate again................
............. oh go on then, if you insist.........
YOU ARE IF YOU THINK YOU ARE. OK
8-) 8-) 8-) 
Casanova
just had to add to this thread, Me and Mr Tigs play as a couple ver very happily, but we also play alone. If I see someone, male or female that I fancy the pants or knickers off and want to play, so long as Mr Tigs has met them and we are all okay, then we play. The same goes for Mr Tigs. This also works with couples, if I want to join a couple as the fem and we have all met up, and the chemistry is there, then all systems go as to speak lol. Again same goes for Mr Tigs.
Our relationship is stronger than ever, and so long as you are alway Open, Honest and Truthful with your partner then there will never be a problem.
xxxx
Our relationship is stronger than ever, and so long as you are alway Open, Honest and Truthful with your partner then there will never be a problem.
xxxx
Sexpert
Quote by tigersgobounce69
just had to add to this thread, Me and Mr Tigs play as a couple ver very happily, but we also play alone. If I see someone, male or female that I fancy the pants or knickers off and want to play, so long as Mr Tigs has met them and we are all okay, then we play. The same goes for Mr Tigs. This also works with couples, if I want to join a couple as the fem and we have all met up, and the chemistry is there, then all systems go as to speak lol. Again same goes for Mr Tigs.
Our relationship is stronger than ever, and so long as you are alway Open, Honest and Truthful with your partner then there will never be a problem.
xxxx
I agree with you there tigersbounce69 it certainly has made us stronger as a couple as we like you are honest and truthful in our discussions. If anyone else does or is thinking about going with singles you would be well advised to head this advice. :thumbup:
