married men coming on to you........ me tonight eek

12 Jan 2005

sorry but i need to talk ..........in a bit of a bad way sad

went round me friends house this evening .......and her hubby got me in the bed room to show me a film................ well thats what his excuse was.........and he came on to me big time....and i mean big time
thanks to S/H i managed to talk him out of it ............with out being a big argument.............. and with him feeling ok..as i love his wife to bits and would like to continue going to her house with out any bad feelings.....yes i can here you say should of told him to fuck off
i said to him ....(pushing him away)..... that i only would do this by his wife consent..........as i think the world of her..AND WOULD NOT DO ANYTHING BEHIND HER BACK
boy it worked!
this is not the first time this has happened to me.........and i am allot to blame as i am flirt
I have chatted to night on here with a good male freind...... and has smacked my bum in thinking that i am to blame ............and this men should not of come like this............. have to admit that this man locked the door................. but i wasn't afraid as i thought he was locking the door to stop the kids coming in ..not his wife
sorry but i cannot help thinking that i am mostly to blame here......
i could go on with situations that i have been in close to this.......you would think i would learn.........but i have now learned to get out of them thats a start
Debssxxx#
Ps MR Debs just walked in..... so i will catch this post later

12 Jan 2005

so what am i asking here rolleyes

has any one been in this situation confused

12 Jan 2005

I have Debs, it was about 8 years ago and this bloke had only been married about 4 months and they only lived 3 doors away from us.... Him and his wife were friends of Steve's...
It was way before we started swinging and although I was a confident person I didn't know how to handle it so I just avoided him.... I did tell Steve but not for a while and it was after they moved away.... We still see them quite alot because they have the same hobby as Steve but we just avoid them...
Difficult situation hun, hope you are ok passionkiss

Shireen
xxx

12 Jan 2005

:shock:

12 Jan 2005

Not so much a married man but my friends long term boyfriend came on to me and I told him to sling his hook! I didnt know what to do tbh so I kept quiet but eventually I didn tell her then the speccy wee bastard told her I not only slept with him but I came on to HIM!??
Needless to say we havent spoken since as she believed him! But tbh I dont give a flying fuck cause looking back now she wasnt much of a pal either!??

12 Jan 2005

Quote by Debbiewebs
so what am i asking here
has any one been in this situation :

Take it as a compliment Deb's, at least he had the sense to pull back from the brink and not make a pest of himself when you said... No!!
Lorri has suffered this many times from guys I know, she always tells me and we have a laugh about it... I'm not going to make out I'm some kind of angel here... Yes I've tried my luck with other guys women in the past, most red blooded men do you know, it's natural... A standing cock has no conscience... But the secret to it all for the offending guy is, accept the rejection without pushing it... and try not to resort to embarrassment and ill feeling... Hell I've even had women come on to me in similar circumstances... Must have left their guide dog at home.

12 Jan 2005

Quote by Debbiewebs
sorry but i need to talk ..........in a bit of a bad way
went round me friends house this evening .......and her hubby got me in the bed room to show me a film................ well thats what his excuse was.........and he came on to me big time....and i mean big time
thanks to S/H i managed to talk him out of it ............with out being a big argument.............. and with him feeling ok..as i love his wife to bits and would like to continue going to her house with out any bad feelings.....yes i can here you say should of told him to fuck off
i said to him ....(pushing him away)..... that i only would do this by his wife consent..........as i think the world of her..AND WOULD NOT DO ANYTHING BEHIND HER BACK
boy it worked!
this is not the first time this has happened to me.........and i am allot to blame as i am flirt
I have chatted to night on here with a good male freind...... and has smacked my bum in thinking that i am to blame ............and this men should not of come like this............. have to admit that this man locked the door................. but i wasn't afraid as i thought he was locking the door to stop the kids coming in ..not his wife
sorry but i cannot help thinking that i am mostly to blame here......
i could go on with situations that i have been in close to this.......you would think i would learn.........but i have now learned to get out of them thats a start
Debssxxx#
Ps MR Debs just walked in..... so i will catch this post later

hi debs, you dont mention if this guys knows that you swing. If he does maybe he thought you would be an easy target. If he doesnt then there are several things it could be, perhaps he genuinly has a thing for you, maybe his marriage isnt what it seems, maybe he is just a dirty git chancing his luck.
I dont see how you can blame yourself, loads of ladies and guys flirt with each other, that is just a bit of fun, not a green light. I recon it would be best to pretend it didnt happen for your next couple of visits and see if he has got the message, if not we will have to think again. good luck anyway

12 Jan 2005

Definetly not your fault!! He came on to you not the other way around! Its as simple as that!
I felt guilty and wondered if I had done anything wrong when my pals man came on to me but I know I didnt I had known them for the same period of time as friends as we all met through work! I actually used to think he was ok but after that I seen a totally different side to him!
Not saying that you are in the same position or that his motives were exactly the same but he did come on to you! You shouldnt feel bad he has put you in an uncomfortable position which in my opinion is very unfair!

13 Jan 2005

OK thanks all..............i am pleased with me self now....and after chatting to peeps that i now can pat me self on the back for being so cool and Handeling it with out upsetting him
I no can hold my head up high now when i see him next. .........thanks to you lot and PMS
Debsxx
ps what would i do with out you lot hey dunno

13 Jan 2005

hi
im the male of gandb
just confront him and say if this happens again ill tell your wife as i dont want to go behind my best freinds back, tell him straight so he understands you dont want to fall out with your best friend, he should back off then
hope it works out and you all still friends