Quote by solofun
Swinging = Adultery with consent
Cheating = Adultery without consent
So your saying you have to be married to swing?
That’s very contradicting; do you actually know what adultery is?
Just as an example, two couples swing together, none are married, in your definition their committing adultery. WRONG
Second scenario: A married couple meet a married bi-fem, for fem-fem fun, very popular in swinging if you can find a (singlish) bi-fem that is, but again by your definition their committing adultery. WRONG
Married couples that fully consent to Swinging might be nonmonogamous, but they certainly are not committing adultery if both are consenting. It’s when one does it without the other partners knowledge it then becomes adultery. i.e cheating.
For it to be Adultery one partner would have to file for such.
Thats like saying that if a married man borrows £10 from his wifes purse while she’s out, and pops down the pub for a couple of pints, that IT’S THEFT, sorry its not its called sharing and consenting unless the wife decides otherwise and makes it such.
It’s already been summed up before but it just seems to go on and on, and as a few have said its by people who want to justify cheating. If your going to cheat, then do it, but don’t keep trying to justify it just to lessen your own guilt.
ps.
And if the poll is anything to go by then, Welcome to Cheating Heaven.
I think I understand what you are saying here. That adultery is the formal expression to describe the state where a married couple are in a legal dispute over their marriage. So in technical terms it serves a purpose.
But the point is that married couples who swing are seen by the majority; as people who are undermining the values of a society which is held together by the principles of monogamy. This is where it comes into dispute. And therefore they are seen in the same context as a couple who are genuinely setting about divorce.
After all, in both situations they promised to forsake all others regardless. Saying that they now consent is meaningless. It is a direct contradiction of the marriage vows. So the argument is illogical.
So their argument that swinging is not adultery; is worthless in the minds of the conventional thinker. Which makes applying it just as pointless to experienced swingers. So I tend to think of it as being redundant, and only likely to mislead the inexperienced.
Strangely enough that was the closest easyease got to being on topic. Even though jameswanna asked why people who play away are looked down on, the real purpose of the thread is to ask why there isn't a separate category for them. Hence if they stated it and were categorised they'd be 'bragging' about it.
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