Guidance please. Would you meet/play with someone from SH who refused to be identified in any way other than by a first name?
We're a couple trying to meet an 'extra' guy and found someone on the site who seemed suitable. He agreed to a 'drink and a chat' type of meeting in a pub, but when we said we would want to know his mobile number before we invited him into our home to play he refused to meet.
Previously we arranged to meet another guy for a drink, we got on very well and we all wanted to go back to our house for some fun. When we asked for his mobile number he deliberately gave us a wrong number, (I immediately called the number he gave and it didn't work).
Our reasoning is that if this unknown guy does anything really very nasty, needing say police intervention, then we should have a way for the police to trace him.
Are we being sensible or paranoid?
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Sex God
As a single gal who arranges meets fairly often (although not at mo... pesky work spoiling my fun! *sigh*) then I would want to have a phone contact number.
I don't think that is overly suspicious or paranoid. You have to do what feels right for you.
I'm on the way out but will come back to this thread; I think safety awareness is really vital.
I don't think that is overly suspicious or paranoid. You have to do what feels right for you.
I'm on the way out but will come back to this thread; I think safety awareness is really vital.
Sex God
sensible
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Orgasminator
Quote by duncanlondon
neither. You appear to be showing suspicion and lack of trust and confidence.
And if thats how they feel they are not wrong to do so!
I say sensible, even as a single male Im very careful about my security on meets and Im understanding of other peoples needs to do the same. I always get a mobile number and send some texts or chat early on for the same reasons as yourselves.
If you dont feel comfortable call it off, set your safety rules and stick to them for now - you can always review them further down the line.
Sex God
Sensible
I would want at least a first name and a contact phone number that works!
I used to NEVER have first meets at his / my house, always in a public place, (pub / cafe/ Motoway service station!) that way if it is not right you can walk away.
I would want at least a first name and a contact phone number that works!
I used to NEVER have first meets at his / my house, always in a public place, (pub / cafe/ Motoway service station!) that way if it is not right you can walk away.
if someone was setting out to do something wrong; they can easily get an unidentifiable phone. making it useless as a reference.
but it's not a wasted exercise. if they don't want to give their number, then its more likely to be their main phone and will identify them. that is for your own assurance and peace of mind.
but it's not a wasted exercise. if they don't want to give their number, then its more likely to be their main phone and will identify them. that is for your own assurance and peace of mind.
Sexlightened
Maybe he thought you were reporters from the News of the World.
oh, wait..............
oh, wait..............
Sex God
Quote by mrs-bmw
I think its good to be on the side of caution, plus if he is not giving you the right information ask yourself is he the guy you thought he was, maybe he isn`t as single as he made out if this was one of your requirements
Quote by brucie
pretty fucking obvious they are married.
I was actually quite shocked we got 7 posts before that was mentioned
Quote by duncanlondon
You appear to be showing suspicion and lack of trust and confidence.
you are joking of course
invite a strange guy into your home that the only things you know are what he has told you ( which is likely to be untrue anyway )and have no contact details at all from him?
my you are a trusting kind of guy arnt you?
where do you live then surrey?
seriusly who would meet anyone and certanly a single guy and invite them into there home and have no details at all. we would not so i think they are being more than sensible. if he is not willing to give a contact number then move on and find another guy that will. you have to be careful surely.
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Sex God
We always get a number. I dont meet without Lee so it's not so much for the safety aspect (although I see why this is important for the single's), but what if something happened and you needed to cancel? If you stood him up then you're branded as a timewaster but without a phone number there's no way to let someone know.
We agree with the majority of posts on this topic - you're being sensible and straight forward in your approach.
There is absolutely nothing at all wrong in expecting, at the very least, a contact number and name, before any meet.
Without those 2 we would simply refuse to meet.
Keep your standards up and don't compromise on your minimum requireents is our advice.
There is absolutely nothing at all wrong in expecting, at the very least, a contact number and name, before any meet.
Without those 2 we would simply refuse to meet.
Keep your standards up and don't compromise on your minimum requireents is our advice.
a mobile phone number just isn't good enough to accept as a means of security. and where trust and confidence come in, is in making a decision not taking a risk. which they would be doing if they relied on the mobile as being enough. i wouldn't advise or support the idea that a mobile is enough. it sounds like they need to hold off the home meets until they have experienced some other things.
Orgasminator
Quote by duncanlondon
a mobile phone number just isn't good enough to accept as a means of security. and where trust and confidence come in, is in making a decision not taking a risk. which they would be doing if they relied on the mobile as being enough.
Understand where you are coming from but a mobile number and quick chat cuts out so many timewasters and freaks (even single males get those!) that IMO its a must.
I used to insist on a face pic / webcam before a meet. As they dont know me or trust me with a face pic I now insist on meeting in a public place, I wont go straight to someones house. Mostly because It makes it easier to politely walk away if you dont feel 100% comfortable.
Orgasminator
Im both scared and scarred
:crazy:
Quote by mrs-bmw
You are being sensible.
I am a single male and a couple from here are asking to meet me, but have refused to shown me there face pics. I am reluctant to take it any further.
That probably means its just a bloke :eeek:
yeah your probably right. I am staying clear.
Big_Fraser : don't be scared, its a beautiful thing!
Quote by zoidberg
You are being sensible.
I am a single male and a couple from here are asking to meet me, but have refused to shown me there face pics. I am reluctant to take it any further.
That probably means its just a bloke :eeek:
yeah your probably right. I am staying clear.
Big_Fraser : don't be scared, its a beautiful thing!
Kind of reminds me of the lion from The Wizard of Oz :giggle:
Quote by mrs-bmw
You are being sensible.
I am a single male and a couple from here are asking to meet me, but have refused to shown me there face pics. I am reluctant to take it any further.
That probably means its just a bloke :eeek:
yeah your probably right. I am staying clear.
Big_Fraser : don't be scared, its a beautiful thing!
Kind of reminds me of the lion from The Wizard of Oz :giggle:
a sexy lion?
Sex God
If you meet someone in your home - they know your name, your address and a surprising amount of stuff about your family (you can tell a lot by what is and isn't present). I would expect to know at least the same facts about the person I meet.
Orgasminator
Quote by zoidberg
a sexy lion?
Now that is a dangerous meet, mobile number or not!
http://photos.swingingheaven.co.uk/photo-adverts/swingers-6169584.html
Orgasminator
Im both scared and scarred
:crazy:
Orgasminator
Quote by duncanlondon
Hmmm....
when was the last time you gave out the landline to a prospective swinger?
probably a long time ago?
Never.
I do occasionally try and persuade some Indian call centre workers into swinging though, Im both committed and filthy :evil2:
well, they phoned me...............
Quote by duncanlondon
Hmmm....
when was the last time you gave out the landline to a prospective swinger?
probably a long time ago?
sorry but would you meet and invite another person into your home without knowing anything about them? you do not know where they live or there number or anything.
are you mad
or a bit of a
sorry but i cannot think of a single reeson why anyone would do that!
