I think there are a lot of people that join here that could think because we all have a something in common we all do it the same way, we join and within minutes are all in bed together, that just isn't the case in a majority of cases.
Swinging has a social and making friends element too, I wouldn't want to have sex with someone from down the local pub the same way I wouldn't want to with someone from coming here and talking to someone for 5 minutes either.
Some might like it that way, but you have to be in the right place at the right time and the chatrooms might be a bettter option if you do.
Swinging and wanting sex isn't the same thing in my eyes.
I'm afraid as a single guy you are kinda swimming upstream here as the odds are against you. But if you stick around and get known you stand a better chance. Get involved in the Forum here and on the chat too.
It takes a while to get taken seriously.
Thanks for the info guys, it's good to know there's some real people out here maybe see you in chat!
Another single male here. I have to say, even as a newcomer to this site, that lone males don't exactly help their own cause. If the shoe were on the other foot and I got hurriedly written messages basically saying "wanna fuck" and a blurry picture of a vagina, then I would soon be wary of these type of approaches. Which would then make it more difficult for genuine contact to occur.
I'm also discovering that there's a divide between people on this site looking for casual or kinky sex and those looking to swing in the sense of it being about friendship and socialising as well as sex.
It's as interesting as it is frustrating.
Try using chat rooms and attending socials, get to know people.
I live in a close community and like to keep things private due to my job and I'd prefer meeting at hotels,nice rooms, big beds and someone else cleans up!
the site is useful in several ways, all of which have more potential than actual.
you need to get out to the events and meet people.
Hi Dave, not much wrong with your profile, just my opinion, but if you want to meet on this site then there are two tried tested and proven methods. First of all make the effort to go to a social that's within your travel range, that way you will meet members and be able to chat, get to know them and who knows, but at least you will be known as a genuine member. The next thing, and for me way the most successful, is to get on cam in the chat room, and I don't mean let the girls see your dick. Be yourself and chat to people politely. If any lady takes a fancy to you then you're likely to know early in any communication. Be aware that there are lots of guys pretending to be girls or couples...don't ask me why ...but they'll ask a hundred questions while they hope to get off on your answers. Good luck, if you head for brighton anytime I'll happily have a beer with you, just leave me a p.m.
Chatroom with face cam and socials - it's the only way !
Good luck - although you seem like a nice fella and won't need it!
we have met lots of single guys from this site...but its like real life if u don t fancy them have a drink n leave it at that....some say r u busy? do u fancy a game of pool or bowls...others just say i want to shag yr wife.....u have to find the best way that works for u....
:lol: :lol: Here's to hoping this site isn't a let down like all the others! 
