Meets...

8 Apr 2009

Planning them! :mrgreen:
I've had an interesting couple of weeks, it's been kinda weird though - I didn't want to muddle up my couples ~V~ singles thread cause it's sort of a separate subject but tied in.
Are you a short notice sort of person?
Or do you like a lot of planning and build up?
I'm wondering which is more effective. Does planning in advance leave more time for you or the other person(s) to bottle it? Is it better to be a bit spontaneous and advertise for a meet the same day? Or does that leave you less chance to be fussy?
Questions questions questions! :mrgreen:
I've never really been one for doing the spontaneous thing. I think I quite like the build up and the flirting and the banter. However, I'm being brave and trying stuff and if I can get through the club thing in one piece I figure I can try new stuff and see whether I like it or not.

8 Apr 2009

probably more short notice than anything now
gone are they days of being the interesting person that gets lots of pms and flirting online for that build up anymore

8 Apr 2009

Planning and build up. Pervy texts, emails and PMs :twisted:

8 Apr 2009

Depends on who I'm meeting.
The more pervy the mind, and the more communicative the person, the more time I want in the planning, a real good headfuck can do so much damage to me, and has been known to make me as coherent as some of FB's recent posts.

8 Apr 2009

Quote by essex34m
Depends on who I'm meeting.
The more pervy the mind, and the more communicative the person, the more time I want in the planning, a real good headfuck can do so much damage to me, and has been known to make me as coherent as some of FB's recent posts.

:smackbottom: :smackbottom:

8 Apr 2009

Quote by Dirtygirly
Planning them! :mrgreen:
Are you a short notice sort of person?
Or do you like a lot of planning and build up?
I'm wondering which is more effective. Does planning in advance leave more time for you or the other person(s) to bottle it? Is it better to be a bit spontaneous and advertise for a meet the same day? Or does that leave you less chance to be fussy?

I'm a bit of both.
Some of my best meets of here have been spontaneous ones. I can't accommodate at the mo, so spontaneity isn't always easy... but it can be worked round.
I like spontaneous or quite short notice: the immediacy adds a certain frisson.
However, I am planning a meet in the near future which has been a good six months in the planning. Well, more in the imagining and wanking over than *actual* planning :twisted: but you know what I mean! The fact that it is happening at all is kinda surprising and exciting and I have pretty much been in a permanent state of arousal since it was decided. I love that aspect... the fact there has been a build up makes it very very hot.
Sometimes though my spontaneous meets have been a bit shite confused

and then you can look forward to something and be completely let down too :shock:
Erm... bit of both: I just like meets! :rascal:

8 Apr 2009

Pervy build up, sexy texts, emails and MSN chats, like to explore what turns on the other person and love to have phone sex.

8 Apr 2009

I think I'm about a 5000 metres man.
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8 Apr 2009

Right here right NOW hump

I have no patience when it comes to sex :twisted: I get bored easily with all the flirting and email tennis confused

9 Apr 2009

Prefer to build up wink

:wink:
The spontaneous meet up within 10 mins not my thing :shock:
steve

9 Apr 2009

with us there has to be a build up, communication, pics etc and the meet date has to be planned due to getting a sitter sorted for the kids smile

9 Apr 2009

it depends......
For a first time meet with people then I do like a certain amount of build up, just to make sure that I am people that are right for me.....
If it is people that I have met before, then Short notice is good for me, nothing like a bit of spontinaity....

9 Apr 2009

An opporchancity fell at my feet yesterday- I had keys to an empty house with nowt left in it but a double bed...sadly my fwb couldn't make my suggestion.
However, as I left the place after giving it the once over, I had to pop to the bank. Walked down an alleyway and got given the eye by a very hunky, tall, broad at the shoulders, slim at the hip scaffolder and his mate...walked back down the same alley to the same reception, and was sorely tempted. Then I realised I was only in an hours parkiing space. rolleyes

That would have been incredibly spontanious for me. smile

9 Apr 2009

I have been on "rushed" dates a couple of times..but generally I find that talking a lot before meeting, works better...it leaves no room for incomprehentions or misunderstandings.. it leaves as little "grey areas" as possible and it gives a chance to find those things both parties are really into and will then introduce in the bedroom.
also it can build up quite some sexual tension, if you have enough fantasy for it.

9 Apr 2009

Either way for me but I'd mostly expect it to be a build up as finding the right time, the right moment in the right place for all concerned is er a real bugger to achieve lol!

9 Apr 2009

Quote by niceandgentle
Either way for me but I'd mostly expect it to be a build up as finding the right time, the right moment in the right place for all concerned is er a real bugger to achieve lol!

I agree.

9 Apr 2009

Normally would want to get to know the person, feel comfortable with knowing something about them (not their life history) but more what makes them tick. I also find that the the flirting etc is all part of the build up to the event and also adds that something extra to it when it finally happens.
However, saying that, I would love to have the guts to just arrange something. Stick a post on, say yes to the first scrummy guy and get out there and do the busiess redface

I know it sounds pervy, but the idea of stranger sex is definately an appeal (having the guts to do it though, is another thing) rolleyes

9 Apr 2009

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Normally would want to get to know the person, feel comfortable with knowing something about them (not their life history) but more what makes them tick. I also find that the the flirting etc is all part of the build up to the event and also adds that something extra to it when it finally happens.
However, saying that, I would love to have the guts to just arrange something. Stick a post on, say yes to the first scrummy guy and get out there and do the busiess I know it sounds pervy, but the idea of stranger sex is definately an appeal (having the guts to do it though, is another thing)

Ditto to all of that. And it's very tempting to put an ad up for just that - I have another whole day on my ownsome to look forward to :roll:

9 Apr 2009

Quote by Freckledbird
Ditto to all of that. And it's very tempting to put an ad up for just that - I have another whole day on my ownsome to look forward to

Well, as we have done the pm's, the flirting (ok, well I tried flirting but still not too good at it) confused

and the texting (and Im even worse at that) redface

get your arse over here :twisted:

9 Apr 2009

Call me greedy (shh DG!) but I'm happy with both options and it really depends on the person and situation for me.
I like the pervy build-up on planning something....which usually falls into the category of "out of the ordinary" rather than vanilla.
I get off on the adrenalin rush of an unexpected quickie.
Tart, moi? lol

9 Apr 2009

i have no specific preference....
It's all good!!!! lol

:lol: :lol:
So , anyone who wants a legnthy seduction or a spontanious meet.... feel free to get in contact!! wink

9 Apr 2009

Quote by DeeCee
i have no specific preference....
It's all good!!!! :lol: :lol:
So , anyone who wants a legnthy seduction or a spontanious meet.... feel free to get in contact!!

Varken, there is another tart here for you :lol:
Sorry Deecee, but I just couldn't resist :wink:

9 Apr 2009

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Ditto to all of that. And it's very tempting to put an ad up for just that - I have another whole day on my ownsome to look forward to

Well, as we have done the pm's, the flirting (ok, well I tried flirting but still not too good at it) confused

and the texting (and Im even worse at that) redface

get your arse over here :twisted:
lol

you have no idea how tempting that is!

9 Apr 2009

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
i have no specific preference....
It's all good!!!! :lol: :lol:
So , anyone who wants a legnthy seduction or a spontanious meet.... feel free to get in contact!!

Varken, there is another tart here for you :lol:
Sorry Deecee, but I just couldn't resist :wink:
YOU know me tooooooooooo well Mrs NWC...
:wink: :wink: :wink: :wink: :wink:

9 Apr 2009

Bit of Come Dancing for me: slow, slow, quick, quick slow ...

9 Apr 2009

We never plan. Just go to a club and see who's in seems the easiest thing for us.

10 Apr 2009

Well, many moons ago, I would sit here and write blah blah saying I prefer to get to know someone and feel comfortable etc., etc., but not anymore.
We prefer clubs to be honest, I actually like the sheer horny feeling of being in a playroom with hands everywhere and not knowing anyone and feel no need to chit chat, just there for complete fun!
BUT, we have had on occasion an unplanned play with people we know and as it was unexpected it twas horny as hell! wink

and wouldn't mind a few more of those lol

So really I'd have to say either/or, depends on the situation.

10 Apr 2009

Yes there is something delicious about spontaneous meets, and sometimes the overplanning of arranging things can be a bit of a pain (but then people do have responsibilities with work, children, etc ..)

18 Apr 2009

I too, enjoy the anticipation to be had from the build-up to a planned meet. Combine that, with flirtatious messages, or phone calls suggesting what you'd like to do/have done to you, and you're onto a winner wink

Having said that, I do relish the spontaneity of an unplanned meet.

18 Apr 2009

Quote by Filthy_mind
I too, enjoy the anticipation to be had from the build-up to a planned meet. Combine that, with flirtatious messages, or phone calls suggesting what you'd like to do/have done to you, and you're onto a winner
Having said that, I do relish the spontaneity of an unplanned meet.

Thats what I meant, but you managed to say it in two neat paragraphs, whereas I waffle on for ages lol