What makes men get so possesive???
Ive never met the guy but been chatting to him for ages, really like him but nothings going to happen because he lives at the other endo of the country. Anyway tonight I tell him Im talking to someone else as well. He get all possesive and offensives and sods off in a huff!!
What is wrong with the male sex??
sorry about this post just had to explode to someone!!
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Fuckin hell I know what you mean! But please remember they are not all the same.
The Bulletin Board I met Reese on, there was this one guy who got just the same... started calling me his on-line g/f and then complained that he was always the one stood crying at the back of the church.
He started to get offensive with me and as a result (as he did this in public) everyone began to shun him, which made him worse. I ended up blocking him from all my IMs ( , ICQ, MSN) and he started messaging my other friends asking them to pass on hateful messages to me.. so they blocked him too... get this .. he was on his 4th wife and was thinking of binning her. Go figure. I think it was more the case that they binned him as to start with he comes on all sweet and kind. I'm betting 'yours' did too.
They ain't all like it. Honest. Reese is like me... we have the jealousy gene missing.
The Bulletin Board I met Reese on, there was this one guy who got just the same... started calling me his on-line g/f and then complained that he was always the one stood crying at the back of the church.
He started to get offensive with me and as a result (as he did this in public) everyone began to shun him, which made him worse. I ended up blocking him from all my IMs ( , ICQ, MSN) and he started messaging my other friends asking them to pass on hateful messages to me.. so they blocked him too... get this .. he was on his 4th wife and was thinking of binning her. Go figure. I think it was more the case that they binned him as to start with he comes on all sweet and kind. I'm betting 'yours' did too.
They ain't all like it. Honest. Reese is like me... we have the jealousy gene missing.
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Quote by foxylady 123
What makes men get so possesive???
Ive never met the guy but been chatting to him for ages, really like him but nothings going to happen because he lives at the other endo of the country. Anyway tonight I tell him Im talking to someone else as well. He get all possesive and offensives and sods off in a huff!!
What is wrong with the male sex??
sorry about this post just had to explode to someone!!
We're not all like that foxlady. I only get jealous when somebody talks to someone else at the same time cos I can't work 3 boxes at the same time
Quote by foxylady 123
What makes men get so possesive???
Ive never met the guy but been chatting to him for ages, really like him but nothings going to happen because he lives at the other endo of the country. Anyway tonight I tell him Im talking to someone else as well. He get all possesive and offensives and sods off in a huff!!
What is wrong with the male sex??
sorry about this post just had to explode to someone!!
Maybe he hoped something was going to happen at some point in the future. Iv had this happen to me and it transpired he was considering suggesting we tried to see each other and find out where it took us. I had considered the same thing, but neither of us voiced it because we thought the other wouldn't want it.
5 years of on line friendship was almost blown because I told him I was meeting up with someone else who lived closer.
We got through it and he is visiting the UK for the first time the week after next
All I can suggest is do the same as I did, send him an E mail telling him how much you wish the distance didn't separate you but you cannot live the rest of your life hopping that one day you will take it any further due to the distances involved.
If he is a decant guy then he will see the reasoning in this and accept you cannot be expected to be 'faithful'...both online and off. If not, block him!
Sex God
Quote by foxylady 123
What is wrong with the male sex??
They tar everyone with the same brush?
what you got remember this is the net
its not like real life,,you have more nuts on here then a nut house
net blokes are possessive and jealous more then the "real world" i talk to loads who have said the same as you...ive herd of ladys who have spoke for only a hour to a bloke on a chat talking to another bloke and been called a slag,bah bah
people think on the net that if u have had spoken to them for a few that you are theres. sad but true
they could also start being rude to you because he feels he doesn't deserve you and deep down believes you could do far better than him..so as soon as the next person comes to chat to you,,he gets up tight and goes in to one
sad bastards a lol
its not like real life,,you have more nuts on here then a nut house
net blokes are possessive and jealous more then the "real world" i talk to loads who have said the same as you...ive herd of ladys who have spoke for only a hour to a bloke on a chat talking to another bloke and been called a slag,bah bah
people think on the net that if u have had spoken to them for a few that you are theres. sad but true
they could also start being rude to you because he feels he doesn't deserve you and deep down believes you could do far better than him..so as soon as the next person comes to chat to you,,he gets up tight and goes in to one
sad bastards a lol
Women can be possesive too, so don't be sexist! There are a lot of lonley, desperate people and the net gives them something they don't have in their real lives. The net has allowed people to interact with others in a way that they never could in real life. They should remember that this is only the internet of course, but it is only natural to have feelings for someone you feel have 'connected' with. However, whether it is a person on the net or a person in real life, people develop feelings and attachments if you flirt or communicate with them. If you lead them on then don't complain if they start having feelings of attachment to you (it's only human). However if you have been clear from the start about no strings relationships or just flirty chat then that is fine. Communication is the issue here.
LC
LC
Sex God
Words of wisdom from LC there, and it's true that some people do send out the wrong signals, sometimes unwittingly, sometimes with malice aforethought. However, I can say from experience there are some people out there who immediately latch on with unreasonable stickiness to anyone who so much as says hello, and who seem to regard "xxx" as a contract of exclusivity.
What you have to remember when talking to people online, is the other person can only judge you by are the words you use: There's no body language, no tone of voice, no facial expression, no pheremones... the 90% of human communication that is non-verbal is completely absent on the net, which means everything you say will be interpreted in the most literal possible way. And, contrary to popular belief, you can't compensate with smileys - does a wink smiley mean I'm being suggestive, or lecherous, or sarcastic, or ironic? You'd like to think you can infer the meaning from the context, but that requires your correspondent to be reasonably literate, and let's face it, reasonably literate is not exactly common on the net. It also requires the other person to understand your sense of humour, which they won't unless they've actually met you.
My advice when talking to anyone online who you haven't actually communicated with in any other way is to avoid forming any conclusions or wishful thinking about how they feel about you, and don't expect them to have the slightest idea how you feel. If you want to take it further, pick up the phone.
What you have to remember when talking to people online, is the other person can only judge you by are the words you use: There's no body language, no tone of voice, no facial expression, no pheremones... the 90% of human communication that is non-verbal is completely absent on the net, which means everything you say will be interpreted in the most literal possible way. And, contrary to popular belief, you can't compensate with smileys - does a wink smiley mean I'm being suggestive, or lecherous, or sarcastic, or ironic? You'd like to think you can infer the meaning from the context, but that requires your correspondent to be reasonably literate, and let's face it, reasonably literate is not exactly common on the net. It also requires the other person to understand your sense of humour, which they won't unless they've actually met you.
My advice when talking to anyone online who you haven't actually communicated with in any other way is to avoid forming any conclusions or wishful thinking about how they feel about you, and don't expect them to have the slightest idea how you feel. If you want to take it further, pick up the phone.
Quote by foxylady 123
What makes men get so possesive???
Ive never met the guy but been chatting to him for ages, really like him but nothings going to happen because he lives at the other endo of the country. Anyway tonight I tell him Im talking to someone else as well. He get all possesive and offensives and sods off in a huff!!
What is wrong with the male sex??
sorry about this post just had to explode to someone!!
This reaction isn't just confined to the male sex but seeing as they're in the majority and you're female I can understand why it seems that way.
The simple explanation is that a lot of the single males advertising on here aren't looking to join in with swinging, they're looking to find someone to have sex with.
Unfortunately if you give them some attention then they get possessive. They've come here looking to get their end away and they're not interested in swinging or sharing at all.
Steve
Its a difficult one this.I love sending and getting PMs and hope,a few weeks in,that I have developed a good rapport with a few of you.I'd never intend to pester anyone.I am just interested in the person as a person and hope I can interest them in on here would mostly pass one another in the street as it stands but its clear there are events where we can get to meet face to ,at whatever stage,weither on the ,E-mails or in person,if anyone says no more then thats the end of it.
I myself am very offended by men who call women names just because they don't do their "will" like Stepford blow-up dolls.
I hope there are plenty of us single guys on here who do respect women and accept their wishes be they our wishes too or not.
Gawd,dare I even do a
or an XX after this thread? :shock:
I myself am very offended by men who call women names just because they don't do their "will" like Stepford blow-up dolls.
I hope there are plenty of us single guys on here who do respect women and accept their wishes be they our wishes too or not.
Gawd,dare I even do a
or an XX after this thread? :shock: 
Warming the Bed
Quote by foxylady 123
Ive never met the guy but been chatting to him for ages, really like him but nothings going to happen because he lives at the other endo of the country. Anyway tonight I tell him Im talking to someone else as well
WHAT!
You mean you've been chatting to TWO guys behind my back!
YOU HUSSY!
Just kidding....
Quote by DaHamsta
Ive never met the guy but been chatting to him for ages, really like him but nothings going to happen because he lives at the other endo of the country. Anyway tonight I tell him Im talking to someone else as well
WHAT!
You mean you've been chatting to TWO guys behind my back!
YOU HUSSY!
Just kidding....
DaHamsta? You've been talking to Foxy, as well as me? You gigolo!
Sex God
I'm not in the least possessive, but I am a trifle perplexed... I had a house guest at the weekend and she brought her mobile phone. I mean, what the hell did she want a mobile phone for, I was there FFS!! 
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:I can understand possessiveness on someone you like, I don't agree with it, but I have felt it a number of times. However as I have grown up I have learned how to control the little green eyed beastie, and hopefully people no longer actually see him. Especially where I know it is a crush thing going on but believe me he is still there.
So I can empathise with the man in question here, but I would say learn to overcome it, before it overcomes you...
So I can empathise with the man in question here, but I would say learn to overcome it, before it overcomes you...
Warming the Bed
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Perhaps i should have explainedthat we are both happily married, and ihe knows i dont do faithful anyway!! Like vix i dont have that gene!!
So why be married then??
That's a VERY odd statement on a site like this isn't it? In fact, that's the most bizarre thing i've ever read on here!
Quote by DaHamsta
Perhaps i should have explainedthat we are both happily married, and ihe knows i dont do faithful anyway!! Like vix i dont have that gene!!
So why be married then??
That's a VERY odd statement on a site like this isn't it? In fact, that's the most bizarre thing i've ever read on here!
Why on earth is that an odd statement?????
Yes it is a swinging site,but why does that condone being unfaithful?
married men on here often get ripped to shreads for advertising themselves as single,so why should it be any different for a woman?
I am here as part of a very happily married couple,just because this is a site where mostly people are looking for a sexual thrill that doesnt mean it makes cheating on someone right!
Sex God
I suspect the word "faithful" is being interpreted a couple of different ways here. To some people it means exclusive, to others it means gregarious with consent, hence the misunderstanding I think.
Warming the Bed
Quote by Clare_Lincs
Perhaps i should have explainedthat we are both happily married, and ihe knows i dont do faithful anyway!! Like vix i dont have that gene!!
So why be married then??
That's a VERY odd statement on a site like this isn't it? In fact, that's the most bizarre thing i've ever read on here!
Why on earth is that an odd statement?????
Yes it is a swinging site,but why does that condone being unfaithful?
married men on here often get ripped to shreads for advertising themselves as single,so why should it be any different for a woman?
I am here as part of a very happily married couple,just because this is a site where mostly people are looking for a sexual thrill that doesnt mean it makes cheating on someone right!
So are you saying that having sex with your partner present (possibly while they are also having sex) means you're not being unfaithful?
I can see how if you are married and having sex with someone else secretly then you are breaking a bond of trust, but having sex with someone else is having sex with someone else... regardless of whether your partner is present or not... surely!
A married guy pretending to be single probably rightly deserves to be slated because he's wilfully trying to decieve people (not least possibly his wife)... I don't think Foxy told this guy she was single? Foxy, if you're reading this did you?
Interesting point this though... are you cheating on someone if they are actually there?
Answers onna postcard plz...
Cheat vtito defraud, to swindle; to deceive; to play unfairly. *na fraud, deception; a person who cheats. - cheater n.
Unfaithful adjdisloyal; not abiding by a promise; adulterous. -unfaithfully adv. -unfaithfulness n
The way I see it is....as long as all parties concerned are open and honest and no innocent unwitting party could potentially be hurt by the arrangements it's not cheating or being unfaithful.
But what do I know. I don't do love.
Unfaithful adjdisloyal; not abiding by a promise; adulterous. -unfaithfully adv. -unfaithfulness n
The way I see it is....as long as all parties concerned are open and honest and no innocent unwitting party could potentially be hurt by the arrangements it's not cheating or being unfaithful.
But what do I know.
I don't do love. DaHAmsta
No I have never told the guy in question that i was single, he always knew I washappilymarried!!
Like the other poster pointed out, to be unfaithful is to cheat, I dont cheat, my h/b always knows who I am with and where!!
I agree wtih DaHamsta that the statement made was extreemely bizare foir this site. What worries me most is that I was being unfairly judge by a woman, which makes it ten times worse, just a time when I was asking for help!!
I would also point out, though god knows why i should have to justivy myself here, that I have been with my h/b for 27 years, so whatever our relationship it would seem it working!!
No I have never told the guy in question that i was single, he always knew I washappilymarried!!
Like the other poster pointed out, to be unfaithful is to cheat, I dont cheat, my h/b always knows who I am with and where!!
I agree wtih DaHamsta that the statement made was extreemely bizare foir this site. What worries me most is that I was being unfairly judge by a woman, which makes it ten times worse, just a time when I was asking for help!!
I would also point out, though god knows why i should have to justivy myself here, that I have been with my h/b for 27 years, so whatever our relationship it would seem it working!!
