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Having posted a few photo adds on the site a few months ago, i found that i was getting more replies from men pretending they were a woman or couple than women themselves, although the email exchanges didn't end in meets, as after swapping pictures, they either came clean or didn't reply, i still think it is a real seedy trick. Has anyone had anything similar happen to them?
Nothing new there, happens all the time on every site. You just have to persevere and be careful about it. Webcams and fem2fem phonechats are the best way of being sure in our experience. After a while you get a sixth sense about fakers caus they all chat and behave in similar patterns.
No, it gets worse, i am a man, and used to post adds as male seeking couples, and would get men pretending they were a female or a couple, i have had one experience through replying to a couple, but they said i should get to know people in the forum coupled with the fact that there are so many bogus replies stoped me posting adds.
Quote by crisbt1
Has anyone had anything similar happen to them?

Nope your the only one whos been had by a time waster rolleyes
it must be your cute picture that drives them too it
ooh all the animosity, did i do something wrong, i was just asking for a few opinions, the only sensible answer i got is when somebody thought i was a woman, doesn't that tell you something???
I just thought if newbie's want to get to know people, they need to join in on the forum, but whenever i have seen a newbie post on here everyone ends up taking the mick, kinda makes people think twice about posting again... I'll be carefull not to get animosity and messing around mixed up in the future..lol
Quote by naughtynymphos1

Has anyone had anything similar happen to them?

Nope your the only one whos been had by a time waster rolleyes
I didn't mean somebody who has wasted your time, i think its a bit different having a man pretending he's a woman / couple, than some body wasting your time.
Quote by crisbt1
ooh all the animosity, did i do something wrong, i was just asking for a few opinions, the only sensible answer i got is when somebody thought i was a woman, doesn't that tell you something???

What animosity? There definitely wasn't any before you posted that message, nor has there been any since. What makes you think you were mistaken for a woman?
Quote by limerickcpl
Nothing new there, happens all the time on every site. You just have to persevere and be careful about it. Webcams and fem2fem phonechats are the best way of being sure in our experience. After a while you get a sixth sense about fakers caus they all chat and behave in similar patterns.

This was at the time of me posting the quote you used, the only sensible response. And as you can see i was mistaken for a woman...
Quote by crisbt1
Nothing new there, happens all the time on every site. You just have to persevere and be careful about it. Webcams and fem2fem phonechats are the best way of being sure in our experience. After a while you get a sixth sense about fakers caus they all chat and behave in similar patterns.

This was at the time of me posting the quote you used, the only sensible response. And as you can see i was mistaken for a woman...
I didn't read it that they mistook you for a woman; they were simply saying that webcams or fem/fem phone chats are the only way to prove that there's a female. It was a couple who answered you and they seek couples so naturally they look for a chat with the female.
They make some good points in that posts though; it is, as you say, a very sensible post.
Didn't give much thought to the sex of the Hamburglar, always struck us as a bit of an axsexual character. Really just giving our experience with timewasters - gender neutral advice. In the case of a guy looking to meet a cpl substitute fem/fem with male/fem phone chat. I don't about other people here but we can tell in most cases when its a guy were talking to.. something about. Generally fakers are concerned with getting loads of pics and asking what you are doing now... wearing etc. Its fun trying to catch them out by asking questions that only the fem (or a fem guy) would know!
There is nothing worse than when you are staring out and waste hourse talking to fakers. Its fair to say they are found out in the end but many do it just to get their kicks messing with your head.
to be honest hamburgalar avatar guy i think that most people on here are atune to admitting (perhaps in the early stages of using the site) that they have had these unfortunate experiences, i posted a thread the other day along the same lines!!!! mad
anyway, the best advice i can give is take it as a learning experience and try to remember one thing (courtisy of NaughtNympho1) welcome to the internet,where women are women....and so are half of the men!! NN1 we salute you wink
this thread has taken me ages to write as i am listening to Chris Rea Road to Hell and air guitaring like a mad man being attacked by a swarm of african bees.....
PS nobody takes the piss on here, they just have a great and perverse sense of humour, which im sure you will, as i have, learn to love if you stick around. an take peoples advice. the regulars know what they are talking about smile
Quote by crisbt1
Has anyone had anything similar happen to them?

not yet, but other tricks are :-
People saying they are "in their 30's" when its more accurate that they remember the 1930's.
Somebody who describes themselves as "goodlooking / attractive" when even though their beauty is just skin deep, the ugliness goes right down to the bone.
And the final one (that thankfully has not happened to me) people getting mistaken between centimetres and inches.
Roll with it, there are genuine adverts out there !
Ian
all of the above and if all else fails just have some fun with the fact they are pretending to be women and pretend you dont know and have some fun
worry them a bit every time u think they are about to fess up logoff :P
then again maybe its just me and crystal who find it funny to waste the time wasters time :twisted:
matandcrystal
I would say, you go with what is in your gut with adds and replies, so far, I have had no luck, but know that being patient is key. Oh, and as a NooB here, I have been made to feel more than welcome, and I have time on my hands biggrin
Quote by crisbt1
Having posted a few photo adds on the site a few months ago, i found that i was getting more replies from men pretending they were a woman or couple than women themselves, although the email exchanges didn't end in meets, as after swapping pictures, they either came clean or didn't reply, i still think it is a real seedy trick. Has anyone had anything similar happen to them?

Really interested in the swapping pics part, did they wear a disguise coffee (hope thats spelt right) or maybe some kind of dummy :silly: , would love to hear
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Having posted a few photo adds on the site a few months ago, i found that i was getting more replies from men pretending they were a woman or couple than women themselves, although the email exchanges didn't end in meets, as after swapping pictures, they either came clean or didn't reply, i still think it is a real seedy trick. Has anyone had anything similar happen to them?

Really interested in the swapping pics part, did they wear a disguise coffee (hope thats spelt right) or maybe some kind of dummy :silly: , would love to hear
Maybe they just take pics from other peoples adds, not sure but they usually look good. lol lol
Maybe i should have realised when all the pics looked like something out of a porn mag??? confused
I had an anonymous email the other day from a guy that had cecked my ad, there is no mention of me being interested in men and the email simply said "do you do escort work" from a guy called Paul.
So I replied with a cheeky responce saying "not yet are you offering a job, but you must understand Im straight"
Then hes sends another mail saying "sorry I was after some fun for myself"
Is it me or cant this guy read my ad?
358993 by the way if anyone wants to check
Quote by sexyfella
I had an anonymous email the other day from a guy that had cecked my ad, there is no mention of me being interested in men and the email simply said "do you do escort work" from a guy called Paul.
So I replied with a cheeky responce saying "not yet are you offering a job, but you must understand Im straight"
Then hes sends another mail saying "sorry I was after some fun for myself"
Is it me or cant this guy read my ad?
358993 by the way if anyone wants to check

If you PM a Mod the address of the bloke who emailed you we will have a look at him.
:P
Quote by crisbt1
Having posted a few photo adds on the site a few months ago, i found that i was getting more replies from men pretending they were a woman or couple than women themselves, although the email exchanges didn't end in meets, as after swapping pictures, they either came clean or didn't reply, i still think it is a real seedy trick. Has anyone had anything similar happen to them?

How awful........ swinging is all about honesty and trust... how can that possibly be followed when someone is purporting to be someone they obviously are not.... fraud and deception are two words that come to mind straight away....
equi-princess xxx
Purporting!
Thank you soooooo much - It had really been annoying me that I couldn't think of what the title of this thread should have said instead of cavorting!
I shall go and cavort with glee!
Quote by crisbt1
.... i found that i was getting more replies from men pretending they were a woman or couple than women themselves, although the email exchanges didn't end in meets, as after swapping pictures, they either came clean or didn't reply, i still think it is a real seedy trick. Has anyone had anything similar happen to them?

This trick predates internet ads - it happened to me in the days of contact ads too. I once chatted to a guy on the phone - he had replied to my ad for a couple. I got "my girlfriend's away on holiday, but you can come round and watch some videos of her". rolleyes :roll: He probably said "and relax" too!
I made my excuses.
Mike.
seems to be the men posing as bifemales that relly is the culprit!!!!!!!
did the email tennis with a cple of girls, then sent my mrs fone number for a fem to fem fone check!!!!!!!
then a bloke called barry foned my mrs and to top it off he didnt even say anything nice!!!!!!!!!!!!
"do you want some cock?" "this afternoon?" well barry no my mrs doesnt want some cock she has mine!!!!!
and if thats your chat up line your f**cked mate or as the case ur not
barry drop ur pants n check!!!! ur a man mate not a bifem
yes it happens a lot and im just about to give up this site due to the amount of tossers
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Purporting!
Thank you soooooo much - It had really been annoying me that I couldn't think of what the title of this thread should have said instead of cavorting!
I shall go and cavort with glee!

Purporting to be couples OR masquerading as a couple.
We had one this very evening rotflmao
and very convincing too, oh the things she was going to do to me nearly made me faint with anticipation redface
That was until I gave her my phone number and asked her to ring so we could set up a meet rolleyes
disapeared instantly, logged out and never came back :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
does make you wonder about some peoples sanity though :shock: :shock:
ive heard about people on face party having great messages from sexy sounding women who invite them onto their cam only to be greeted by a full screen of a bloke gettin his rocks off up close. nasty shock to some people wnen the realised ."sexie susie" was in fact an owld geezer.
Im impressed they can pass themselves off language wise as a girl.
top marks for effort. lol
Quote by arca
seems to be the men posing as bifemales that relly is the culprit!!!!!!!
did the email tennis with a cple of girls, then sent my mrs fone number for a fem to fem fone check!!!!!!!
then a bloke called barry foned my mrs and to top it off he didnt even say anything nice!!!!!!!!!!!!
"do you want some cock?" "this afternoon?" well barry no my mrs doesnt want some cock she has mine!!!!!
and if thats your chat up line your f**cked mate or as the case ur not
barry drop ur pants n check!!!! ur a man mate not a bifem
yes it happens a lot and im just about to give up this site due to the amount of tossers

there will be fakers no matter what site you join, i think those people who stick around on this site are those who are looking / experiencing the long term swinging "thing".
i noticed you have only been on the site less than a month, if youve been using the ad section then my advise would be to check out the member joined date, if you think the ad is a fake and have good reason for this or it is breaking the rules, then pm a mod the details and they will deal with it, hence keeping the site a happier place for the true people.
i would just like to say just because a pic sent looks professional or the person does not reply not always makes them a fake, maybe they were just not intrested in you.
And dont throw stones if you live in a glass house, red the ad your replying to to make sure YOU fit what they are loking for.
xxxx fem xxxx