what is it with men that keep letting me down, i know i'm a bit over weight but i thought i looked pretty good, so why every time i get something sorted do they keep letting me down :sad:
mandy xx
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men grrrrrrrrrr
Sex God
Seriously, as one who is slightly plump 
, I can honestly say that I doubt it's your weight that's an issue here.
The problem is that a lot of folk like the idea of a meet much much more than the actual going through with it and they bottle it. Simple as.
My first meet arranged on SH I got stood up. Subsequently I've had other folk let me down even when they knew I was in a hotel I'd booked for us. Grrrr!
I've learned over time to set up a series of personal 'hoops' a potential meet has to jump through before I will agree to a meet and I've pretty much eliminated the no-shows. You have to get very good at trusting - but more importantly *testing* - your gut instinct.
:rose: Persevere though; some great folk on this site!
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, I can honestly say that I doubt it's your weight that's an issue here.The problem is that a lot of folk like the idea of a meet much much more than the actual going through with it and they bottle it. Simple as.
My first meet arranged on SH I got stood up. Subsequently I've had other folk let me down even when they knew I was in a hotel I'd booked for us. Grrrr!
I've learned over time to set up a series of personal 'hoops' a potential meet has to jump through before I will agree to a meet and I've pretty much eliminated the no-shows. You have to get very good at trusting - but more importantly *testing* - your gut instinct.
:rose: Persevere though; some great folk on this site!
x
Sex God
Quote by noladreams
Seriously, as one who is slightly plump
The problem is that a lot of folk like the idea of a meet much much more than the actual going through with it and they bottle it. Simple as.
My first meet arranged on SH I got stood up. Subsequently I've had other folk let me down even when they knew I was in a hotel I'd booked for us. Grrrr!
I've learned over time to set up a series of personal 'hoops' a potential meet has to jump through before I will agree to a meet and I've pretty much eliminated the no-shows. You have to get very good at trusting - but more importantly *testing* - your gut instinct.
:rose: Persevere though; some great folk on this site!
x
You to Nola
Well they did at least send a last second text message 
Yeh you have to find what works for you. Our philosophy now is expect nothing and have a back up option. That way you dont spend all week getting ready for something then have nothing to do :( On the night we were stood up with Hotel room booked we went to a club and ended up playing elsewhere
Quote by mandyandjohnukTake it from me that there is absolutely nothing wrong with the way you look
i know i'm a bit over weight but i thought i looked pretty good, so why every time i get something sorted do they keep letting me down :sad:
Personally speaking, the more time there is between arranging something and the actual date, the more likely I am to flake out of it.
I'm not sure how similar I am to other blokes, but when I'm horny I'm pretty much up for it there and then ... If there's too much time in between I'm liable to go off the boil or move my attention elsewhere.
Of course, this also depends on how accessible the meet is - and someone local and easily accessible is more likely to get more my attention than someone at the other end of the country who needs to make proper arrangements etc. - I don't think I've ever flaked out of a London (local to me) meet - only long distance ones.
Of course, I imagine that there are a lot of people on here who are purely fantasists ... both male and female.
Sex God
Quote by tweeky
You to Nola
Yeh you have to find what works for you. Our philosophy now is expect nothing and have a back up option. That way you dont spend all week getting ready for something then have nothing to do :( On the night we were stood up with Hotel room booked we went to a club and ended up playing elsewhere
After I was stood up in a hotel the first time, I went online and arranged a meet for early-ish the following morning and spent the rest of the evening pampering myself! I always (mostly, unless I know the person well) try and have a pretty easily arrangeable back-up plan so that my hotel room doesn't go to waste!
As I've said though, I have got lots better at weeding out the likely no-shows now.
Nothing wrong with you girl, you look terrific, don't beat yourself up over a bunch of tossers....quite literally. By the time you've made the arrangement to meet them, they're cleaning up the mess with a kleenex, they cum and they're gone. They never intended to meet up.
Unfortunately the site is full of guys who get off on the banter and mail exchanges. who could know if they even are who they say they are, or match their profile and pics, probably not. Then if you throw into the mix those without the bottle or even the ability to deliver you can see that you're up against it. That's a main reason why so many couples have stopped making arrangements with single guys.
Unfortunately the site is full of guys who get off on the banter and mail exchanges. who could know if they even are who they say they are, or match their profile and pics, probably not. Then if you throw into the mix those without the bottle or even the ability to deliver you can see that you're up against it. That's a main reason why so many couples have stopped making arrangements with single guys.
Thanks guyys ! its just so bloody anoying, got to all of the trouble of john waxing me,and me waxing him cutting his hair cleaning the house getting wine in, doing my hair doing my nails grrrrrrrrrrrr all for there bloody denefit.
as pointed out maybe in future we should have a back up plan, like getting pissed lol
mandy xx
as pointed out maybe in future we should have a back up plan, like getting pissed lol
mandy xx
Sex God
if you meet at a swingers venue you rarely need a back up plan
that way
the nights not wasted
who cares if they cant make it
and all them horny moments and thoughts get a purpose :twisted: :twisted:
that way
the nights not wasted
who cares if they cant make it
and all them horny moments and thoughts get a purpose :twisted: :twisted:
to be sure of your date turning up the rules are simple
avoid meeting when a live football match is being broadcast
- or even highlights like match of the day
avoid meeting when a live rugby match is being broadcast
avoid meeting when a live cricket match is being broadccast
avoid meeting when live darts is being broadcast
avoid meeting when Top Gear is being broadcast
- even the repeats on Dave
avoid meeting whilst the bar is open
avoid meeting when the latest Sci-Fi blockbuster is still new at the cinema
so that leaves roughly 4 hrs a year
Between 3am and 5am on February 30th and 31st
still its not all bad news - only 9 months to go
is that right?
avoid meeting when a live football match is being broadcast
- or even highlights like match of the day
avoid meeting when a live rugby match is being broadcast
avoid meeting when a live cricket match is being broadccast
avoid meeting when live darts is being broadcast
avoid meeting when Top Gear is being broadcast
- even the repeats on Dave
avoid meeting whilst the bar is open
avoid meeting when the latest Sci-Fi blockbuster is still new at the cinema
so that leaves roughly 4 hrs a year
Between 3am and 5am on February 30th and 31st
still its not all bad news - only 9 months to go
is that right?
Mod
Quote by mandyandjohnuk
Thanks guyys ! its just so bloody anoying, got to all of the trouble of john waxing me,and me waxing him cutting his hair cleaning the house getting wine in, doing my hair doing my nails grrrrrrrrrrrr all for there bloody denefit.
as pointed out maybe in future we should have a back up plan, like getting pissed lol
mandy xx
Look on the bright side!!
At least your house is clean and tidy
Sex God
Quote by the_magik_s
As I've said though, I have got lots better at weeding out the likely no-shows now.
Nolesy, you sound like James Bond
Thank feck you didn't say Miss Marple!
Warming the Bed
Just started a thread with exactly the same problem - it's just rude!
Sex God
I used to find more couples that were timewasters, than men.
But had my fair share of them over the years, of all varieties.
It's nothing to do with weight.
It's them. Not you.
But had my fair share of them over the years, of all varieties.
It's nothing to do with weight.
It's them. Not you.
Quote by mrs-bmw
But its not just men
We have been stood up by couples on a few occasions for outdoor fun even after umpteen emails and a few social meets throw in :doh:
Id say a lot of the time its single men 'posing' as a couple. Ive had 'couples' want to meet, only to get close to the meet and suddenly its "my wife cant make it, would you like to meet up anyway" :bounce:
Quote by the_magik_s
But its not just men
We have been stood up by couples on a few occasions for outdoor fun even after umpteen emails and a few social meets throw in :doh:
Id say a lot of the time its single men 'posing' as a couple. Ive had 'couples' want to meet, only to get close to the meet and suddenly its "my wife cant make it, would you like to meet up anyway" :bounce:
Or attached men with a couples account who just forgot to tell the mrs he`s joined :confused:
I had a situation several years back when I was invited round to someone's house and made my way over without giving it second thoughts (They were only 5 minutes from me)
When I arrived they were both there and the poor (and drunk) girlfriend wasn't even aware I'd been invited ... I think he'd mentioned the idea of swinging as a passing fantasy and was hoping to change her mind once I was there and she was drunk enough. :shock:
When I arrived they were both there and the poor (and drunk) girlfriend wasn't even aware I'd been invited ... I think he'd mentioned the idea of swinging as a passing fantasy and was hoping to change her mind once I was there and she was drunk enough. :shock:
Quote by Waterpistol
I had a situation several years back when I was invited round to someone's house and made my way over without giving it second thoughts (They were only 5 minutes from me)
When I arrived they were both there and the poor (and drunk) girlfriend wasn't even aware I'd been invited ... I think he'd mentioned the idea of swinging as a passing fantasy and was hoping to change her mind once I was there and she was drunk enough. :shock:
That sounds horrendous! .. id have been so embarrassed, for myself and for her!. Cringe!
Sex God
Quote by the_magik_s
I had a situation several years back when I was invited round to someone's house and made my way over without giving it second thoughts (They were only 5 minutes from me)
When I arrived they were both there and the poor (and drunk) girlfriend wasn't even aware I'd been invited ... I think he'd mentioned the idea of swinging as a passing fantasy and was hoping to change her mind once I was there and she was drunk enough. :shock:
That sounds horrendous! .. id have been so embarrassed, for myself and for her!. Cringe!
I preffered my next line which was.... and then you fucked them both. Much more entertaining.
