Why do men pretend to be women?
I was messaged 2 weeks ago by a gorgeous looking girl. We have chatted via MSN and exchanged phone numbers, but then the games started. She would just disapear mid sentance and come back later with an excuse about mum coming into her room. Then I rang her and there were some muffled sounds and then it went dead. Seconds later a text with some excuse.
Then more chat on msn, i asked her to prove shes real, ........an indignant reply saying if i didnt trust her its my fault.
I smelled a rat. Lunch time today i phoned again and a man answered and said i had the wrong number.
I havent named her, but shes on SH, so, admin, when you take a members payment, what steps do you take to verify that person is who they say they are?
If thats not practicable, would you consider a private way of naming and shaming?
Im not going into why men pretend to be women, its a sick world and i just wish they would play with their own twisted kind and leave truthful people alone.
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Sex God
Time for the male perspective. He probably pretended to be a guy because he hoped that when you found out the truth you would be so turned on that you'd fuck him anyway
Sex God
time for a better male perspective.
he wanted you to send pics and talk dirty to him until you found out he was male.
we have come across a few of these!!
he wanted you to send pics and talk dirty to him until you found out he was male.
we have come across a few of these!!
Sex God
Quote by mazandden
time for a better male perspective.
he wanted you to send pics and talk dirty to him until you found out he was male.
we have come across a few of these!!
damn, i didnt take that into account
Sex God
I really can't understand why men should do this.
If they're straight then they'll only attract men or bi women so what will that do for 'em?? (OK - a pissed off bi woman, who was looking for a girlie)
If they're bi or gay then they will not attract anyone that wants what they want!
The only thing I can think of is that they want to wind up frustrated straight guys - now how gratifying is that? Not!
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If they're straight then they'll only attract men or bi women so what will that do for 'em?? (OK - a pissed off bi woman, who was looking for a girlie)
If they're bi or gay then they will not attract anyone that wants what they want!
The only thing I can think of is that they want to wind up frustrated straight guys - now how gratifying is that? Not!
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Sex God
I'm baffled Gemini - why give you his phone number? how could he possibly think he could keep up the pretence if you phoned? Bet you'll smell a rat sooner if anyone tries the same trick in future, so at least something good will come out of this. What a shit! 
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It's not nice I know, esp. when you've built up a rapport with that person, have you seen pics?
It also makes me wonder, are there any men profiles on here who are actually women?? It could go both ways couldn't it?
It can go both ways i guess, although the male mind has the greater propensity to be deviant
Look at paedophiles, majority are male although you do occasionally get the likes of hindley and west joining in
What started making me suspicious was this one was more than normally interested in talking about the very fine detail of what im wearing and what my fantasies are, in every last detail.
Things like fantasies are best discussed eye to eye, not on msn
She was on line earlier, most upset at my suggestion shes a he. He protested innocence and asked me to give her a chance to prove who she is.
I phoned her again at that moment- no answer.
Then she/he went off line.
This happened to me at new year, except he sent me an email confessing everything, thinking i would take pity cos of the cancer remission and the ex wife had taken the kids , the dog had died etc etc.
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It can go both ways i guess, although the male mind has the greater propensity to be deviantLook at paedophiles, majority are male although you do occasionally get the likes of hindley and west joining in
No I disagree, woman can be as much as deviant as men, it's circumstances and lifestyles that make people deviant not their minds, also there have been a hell of a lot of women in crime over the decades.
Im not particularly religious, but as i go through life, i remember more and more the phrases from the bible i learned in sunday school
By thy sins ye shall be found out.
Says a lot to me, why try and con someone cos you know your gonna get caught out in the end.
I remember a work mate telling me a story bout him and 3 other lads who went on a weekend break. One lad had a stutter, robbobbin was his name.
On saturday night they went to a disco to pull and Robbobbin got lucky with a real stunner, blue eyes, blonde, long legs right to the top etc and best of all, her sporty car parked out side. They drove off to a layby and he was busy snogging, caressing, moved lower and found the lump.
It cured his stutter.
But what did S/he think was going to happen with a straight guy?
" oh well love, your gorgeous so it doesnt matter, im shagging you anyway?"
I dont think so
By thy sins ye shall be found out.
Says a lot to me, why try and con someone cos you know your gonna get caught out in the end.
I remember a work mate telling me a story bout him and 3 other lads who went on a weekend break. One lad had a stutter, robbobbin was his name.
On saturday night they went to a disco to pull and Robbobbin got lucky with a real stunner, blue eyes, blonde, long legs right to the top etc and best of all, her sporty car parked out side. They drove off to a layby and he was busy snogging, caressing, moved lower and found the lump.
It cured his stutter.
But what did S/he think was going to happen with a straight guy?
" oh well love, your gorgeous so it doesnt matter, im shagging you anyway?"
I dont think so
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Jaymar
You really are the most sensible and clear thinking person I have seen in here.
Errrmmmm NO ........... I think you'll find that person is me :giggle:
Gemini ....... theres loads of blokes pretending to be girls ............ no idea why ......... coz lying wont get them what they want. Give His name to a Mod, they will sort it
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sex God
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Jaymar
You really are the most sensible and clear thinking person I have seen in here.
Errrmmmm NO ........... I think you'll find that person is me :giggle:
Gemini ....... theres loads of blokes pretending to be girls ............ no idea why ......... coz lying wont get them what they want. Give His name to a Mod, they will sort it
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
OOOO crikey is it ?? my mistake !!
still cant believe you thought i was gay
Sex God
I had a guy pretending to be a bird a while ago, I picked up on it pretty quickly luckily though, but it really does baffle me as to why someone would do it and what they actually hope to achieve.....but there's nowt as queer as folk as they say 
actually, a few people thought I was a bloke pretending to be a girlie when I first turned up here
but I guess you do have to be wary of everyone when it comes to online stuff.
personally I don't understand where people find the time to pretend to be someone else.....
actually, a few people thought I was a bloke pretending to be a girlie when I first turned up here
but I guess you do have to be wary of everyone when it comes to online stuff.personally I don't understand where people find the time to pretend to be someone else.....
Sex God
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I had a guy pretending to be a bird a while ago, I picked up on it pretty quickly luckily though, but it really does baffle me as to why someone would do it and what they actually hope to achieve.....but there's nowt as queer as folk as they say
actually, a few people thought I was a bloke pretending to be a girlie when I first turned up here
personally I don't understand where people find the time to pretend to be someone else.....
Kate, your supposed to be posh yet you used the expression bird. My world is shattered
Sex God
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Kate, your supposed to be posh yet you used the expression bird. My world is shattered
damn I've been rumbled...........
Sex God
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Kate, your supposed to be posh yet you used the expression bird. My world is shattered
damn I've been rumbled...........
i want an apology :dry:
Sex God
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Peeps think Im a guy under a fems name.....
Cant win em all... :?
hmmmm well idk we havent seen any pics of you ;)
kidding xxx
Sex God
Quote by anais
Peeps think Im a guy under a fems name.....
Cant win em all... :?
hmmmm well idk we havent seen any pics of you ;)
kidding xxx
Now you know why! I don't wanna give the game away
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I've seen a few of these single men pretending to be female dimwits around, but luckily I've never been fooled.
However I was completely taken in by a 'couple' last year.
As soon as I wrote "An early F/F chat on the phone is ESSENTIAL to weed out the fakes and dreamers!" the PMs from 'females' I didn't know arriving in my inbox went from around 50-60 a week to about 4-5 a week.
I will not send a face pic or enter into any real discussion with anybody unless we have seen each other on cam in the chatroom or I have spoken to them on the phone.
However I was completely taken in by a 'couple' last year.
As soon as I wrote "An early F/F chat on the phone is ESSENTIAL to weed out the fakes and dreamers!" the PMs from 'females' I didn't know arriving in my inbox went from around 50-60 a week to about 4-5 a week.
I will not send a face pic or enter into any real discussion with anybody unless we have seen each other on cam in the chatroom or I have spoken to them on the phone.
Thats why cams are a ideal way to tell if the people are fake. They are cheap enough to buy and an easy way to verify who you are even if you are camera shy you can do this in a private room in the chatrooms or msn. Early cam chat can save you a lot of wasted pms/unanswered phonecalls.
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Louise xx
Sex God
I had a guy pretending to be a bird a while ago, I picked up on it pretty quickly luckily though, but it really does baffle me as to why someone would do it and what they actually hope to achieve.....but there's nowt as queer as folk as they say
actually, a few people thought I was a bloke pretending to be a girlie when I first turned up here
personally I don't understand where people find the time to pretend to be someone else.....
Kate, your supposed to be posh yet you used the expression bird. My world is shattered
Bloody hell Drew, 1066 posts and two now that made me laugh pink x Very observant
pink x
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No I disagree, woman can be as much as deviant as men, it's circumstances and lifestyles that make people deviant not their minds, also there have been a hell of a lot of women in crime over the decades.
You really are the most sensible and clear thinking person I have seen in here.
thanks flower :color: Quote by blonde
Jaymar
You really are the most sensible and clear thinking person I have seen in here.
Errrmmmm NO ........... I think you'll find that person is me :giggle:
Gemini ....... theres loads of blokes pretending to be girls ............ no idea why ......... coz lying wont get them what they want. Give His name to a Mod, they will sort it
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Jaymar rushes over to help Sam who has just got her head stuck in the door!:giggle:
We are a couple and both of us hate chatting/flirting on phone so we avoid it. All meets with couples have actually been that - everyone has always turned up and been as described. (sounds like ebay!)
We've been "had" by a single "girl" before - so we are really careful here!
We find guys vanish before agreeing to a meet! lol!
Interestingly, whilst searching fem profiles within 20m of us last night, I think 5-6 of the first 10 returned were "The member is currently banned from this site". Says it all really.
Would be nice if you can search on "non-banned" profiles where the person has logged on within a week or two.
Other sites use verified/feedback method - think this cuts down fakes but not entirely.
So we dream and hope - but bet no money on singles girl meeets!
We've been "had" by a single "girl" before - so we are really careful here!
We find guys vanish before agreeing to a meet! lol!
Interestingly, whilst searching fem profiles within 20m of us last night, I think 5-6 of the first 10 returned were "The member is currently banned from this site". Says it all really.
Would be nice if you can search on "non-banned" profiles where the person has logged on within a week or two.
Other sites use verified/feedback method - think this cuts down fakes but not entirely.
So we dream and hope - but bet no money on singles girl meeets!
It's easy to see why guys do it. I have a swing buddy/lover/special friend/whatever you wish to call him who has been on this sight for the same length of time I have, he has a single profile and we have a couples profile. I get at least 20 pms a week, a lot more if I foolishly renew my ad, during the whole time we've been here (nearly 2 years) he's had about 10 pms, and some of them were from me. If I go into chat as a single female and say nothing, people talk to me, if he goes in and says nothing he gets ignored. Many people automatically ignore mail from single men, can you blame them for trying another route to make contact, however wrong it may be? If I get intelliegnt, witty, thought-about mail from someone, I read it and respond, regardless of whether it's from a couple, a woman or a man. If I'm in chat and someone talks to me in a sensible way I reply, again regardless of thier status. There is a deffinate class status on this site, and in swinging generally, that seems to disregard people for who they are and give them status for their gender and whether they are in a couple or not. Some of the worst attitude I've experienced here was from a couple (I knew they were a couple because they were both on cam), and they thought that gave them some sort of right to be rude and superior to all the single guys in the room at the time. If people were treated as they deserved by their behaviour and not by the little symbol that appeared by thier name I think things would change quite a lot.
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