I do find the easiest way if you are unsure if the message will get through is simply type it all in, then select it all and right click, copy, then it is stored in the computers memory so even if it goes wrong you just have to go back and right click paste.
ouch...reading the first page of this thread was scary....had to skip straight to page four just to find out if anyone had been murdered!
I knew the site had changed but didnt realise that it was such a big thing/catastrophe in the eys of so many regulars.
from my viewpoint i am not a newbie and also not a long term daily contributor...but...
my pm /email box is easier to understand
the adverts pages seem as easy to trawl
the 'my friends' button helps me go back and look for details of those not yet contacted
the 'lets meet' section actually is starting to resemble one, instead of being clogged with club/munch invites.
and as far as i can see , idiots can still be banned
i ask myself, would i like to be on a site with ten members and 80% of them female?...sigh....8 women...of course i would. ...but would i also want to be on a site with 377, 000 members including several thousand women?....definately!!!
i dont know(chatroom op)....i am just reading the member stats on the right
maybe there are actually two billion but they dont want to brag
maybe there are only three members and two of you are filling in all these posts in different names just to keep me amused
and maybe..just maybe...seven blondes will pm me in the next two mins
and if it happens...postie will get an email from me
We have been around SH now for a while and i can honestly say i have never seen anything like this.
Many of the people who used to use the cafe on a regular basis and had me pissing myself laughing at their posts are now gone, and those that are left are arguing and having a swipe at each other about the new changes.
Granted i am not keen on what has gone on here. i was a huge fan of the old swing heaven and inparticular the cafe which will now never be the same again, but i have stuck around (although rach never uses the site now) and think that there is SOME hope left for SH.
The changes made have not particulary helped the site, many have made it less user friendly in my opinion and some amount to nothing more than a lick of paint, but the Mods who loved the old SH cannot be slagged off for staying around. Postie you are a funny guy and used to read your posts with interest but i do think you are wrong for having a go at the Mods, yes the site is now a money maker for the owners and not the community based escape it once was but there are still some of the great people left.
I say ignore those you feel are the idiots (they used to be around in the old SH *although not as many granted), post and reply to those you know and love from SH of old, and try to help those that are new and have the potential (or seem to have) to make this site what it once was (if this is possible).
If not then move on to a new site and try pastures new.
i will not be paying for a new membership after this year unless the site improves and the amount of idiots does level off, i will have to wait and see if this transpires, however i do agree that the site has an aura of "sex site" around it now rather than the swinging community that it was once.
Post over, head hurting, finger aching!!
Again I need to be careful what I write here. In my opinion my ban was wrong. I stood my ground on a point that free sites ie Lycos LIM etc had gone down hill. I didn't actually dis this site or any members. I'm a MOD on a private FXP forum and the threads get heated and interesting but bans ares rare, and then only after a warning. I was offered my money back but I chose to remain (might I add I was pissed at the time). I have no knowledge of this board before the take over but it seems the scene as you knew it is changing for the worse. So my point is My ban was wrong and it wasn't cos I'd paid ( I was also pissed when I signed up but hey sh*t happens) that I was reinstated.. The ban was over zealous.
Yer thanks that's real good advice ! I assume you believe the ban was fair ? The point made was that I was reinstated because I paid but I could have been refunded.. So the argument isn't valid. Again I'm sorry this whole matter arose. Much worse things were said about me but nothing at all was done to edit out the malicious remarks.. I'm happy to take some stick but it did seem slightly unfair... However as far as I'm concerned that matter is finished..
Okay I'm going to leave it as the matter is finished. That's what I said. I'm sorry my comment that I'm a mod on another site was offensive or predictable. I'm really just here to meet new people... Don't wana get all negative...
I wasn’t going to but….F*** it!!!
Over time I have realised that regardless of what you have to say about the situation, be it constructive criticism or otherwise, it isn’t healthy so in a way I’m shooting myself in the foot here however……………………I have posted many times on SH, I have started threads, as some of you may remember, asking for some sort of solidarity when it’s all seemed to be going downhill……………………
SH has played an enormous part in our life, It isn’t the only focus but then we don’t just live for swinging, it’s just part of us and a part that we enjoy and means a lot.
I hate the fact that we have all been scattered, and make no bones about it, we have!! I have settled elsewhere because the majority of our friends are there! I say majority because they aren’t all there and I miss the rapier wit and comforting words of many……………………..Dawn, Judy, KitKat, etc, etc. I still pop in now and again to see what’s happening but it’s not really the same is it? It’s not the same as it used to be but as Judy says, shit happens and nothing ever stays the same sadly.
I never started swinging and building friendships to get involved in the politics, I never aspired to be a mod ‘cause it doesn’t (From this side of the fence) seem anyway rewarding, I do admire the work they do regardless of the site they are on, I just truly wish we were all in one place and having the fun that we used to have WITHOUT the politics. That ain’t going to happen in the near future but I have mates that prefer to drink in different pubs from me. They are still mates and we still occasionally get to enjoy a night in other surroundings so, well………………perhaps we just, like we have proved we are able to do, accept each other differences in a way that “normal†society sometimes can’t??
We are truly a special, open minded, welcoming breed of not destroy that with ego’s or pettiness……………..
Miss ya
The Laird
xx
I haven't posted here for a while, but just wanted to say, well, what Shireen just said. Gorgeous post, Laird. Couldn't agree with you more. I'm sad that things have changed, I'm sad we're scattered, and I miss a lot of people whose posts I used to love.
I wish there was something we could do, but I've come to the conclusion that there isn't, so there's not much point discussing it much more, or criticising anyone else for their choices. All you can do is join is as much as possible where you are, and try to make it a fun place - everyone you miss is more likely to show up there then.
This whole episode has shown me that we're all bloody impressive in some ways. I'm impressed with everyone who has stayed here and valiantly tried to keep it working. I'm impressed with those who started new sites and put in ridiculous amounts of effort organising and modding them so we'd all have alternatives. I'm impressed with everyone who has made an effort to post about unrelated issues and keep the banter going, to help newbies, to keep in touch with their friends, and to show us that this community doesn't rely on one website to keep it together.
We've also shown ourselves to be crap in other ways, and I've been saddened by the amount of moaning, flouncing, infighting, nasty rumours, internal politics, clique-iness, the amount of people who want to criticise everyone else, and the immediate 'fuck off' reflex when anyone feels they're being criticised.
The funny thing is, both those lists have the same people on them - and for the most part they're the people who care most about this community, the people who I most like and respect and whose participation has always been most important in forming this fantastic community. So maybe what this has taught me is that crisis situations show up both the best and the worst in people.
But I have faith in this community and these people, and I think we're going to come through it eventually - things will settle down, we'll regret our petty actions and harsh words, and forgive and forget and remember what we're here for.
Cocoa x
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. But I hope you now realise that the mods are not the people to take your anger out on. We were also angered by the changes. We could not change the situation at SH, so we created a new small site. The new site is not a competitor to SH, just an alternative if people want to use it. Others did the same with their own sites. I dare say you are dealing with your anger by modding at another site. Am I right? But anger is not good in the long term. Let the new sites settle into their own routines and we may find that we can all get along together.... in peace........... awwwwwwwwwwwww
I dunno, do you ??
