To be honest, and I know this is going to cause a stir, I’m sick and tired of people on here judging other people. We are all on here for our own reasons and should not judge or be judged. I have sat watching a room today where, self-appointed Morality Police were in my eyes bullying other members. The general theme was, non-paying members should be thrown out along with those that don’t show recent pictures to everybody. We all have lives outside of the site, many don’t broadcast to friends or family they are on sites like this, and quite rightly, that’s their choice. We are all different shapes and sizes and are looking for different things, for god’s sake, there are block options on the site, use them and just ignore those you don’t want anything to do with. After all, you always have the choice, if the site doesn’t suit you …. Leave and don’t come on here!
Morality Police
We do not use the chat rooms. but you get this sort of things in all internet based chatroom's.. some just do it to stir things up, they get a buzz from it ..We are not paid up members and never have been..but luckily for us we have been on SH for over 13 years with this account, longer if you include the couple of accounts we no longer have.. We have grandfather rights, so we can use most of its features for free.. ..The thing is, just take it all with a pinch of salt and live you swinging heaven life as you wish..As for photos that's down to personal choice and reasons..we never show face pics, we do not feel the need too..it as never stopped us swinging or getting meets..of course we show them privately if a meet is on the cards..but we do not just send them out regardless .. We would never have our face's on show, on here or any of the other sites we are on,there is just no need to..save having to explain to family members or work colleagues or our grown up sons why we are involved in this lifestyle..it's our business not theirs
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From what I've seen there are just too many lurkers in the chat rooms who will quite happily go for weeks on end making no valid contribution to the general chat whatsoever. But the moment they get chance to (especially if they've seen the subject cause a stir previously), they will pipe up and say whatever they know will be most effective in causing bad feelings/controversy amongst other users.
Are they lurkers or just unsure how to break the “chat room ice” there are a lot of popular members in the chat rooms who are quite dominant not through bullying but by there sheer popularity & hold conversations with there friends of a more personal chitchat that leaves no room for others to interact as there not part of that dynamic.
To be frank the chat rooms have always been a bear pit where you either sink or swim!!!
As for commentary that offends the report option is your best bet. But does the comment cause debate which although controversial in its nature stirs the lobby to discuss it in depth.
of course your absolutely right were all on for our own purposes and what one person would call perverted another would consider absolutely normal we all have our own opinions & standards :boxing: 
