mother in law

hi 

a bit of advice really needed

the other night we were chatting in bed at night and the subject of our differing sexual appetites came up, the difference being in quantity and regularity really. the suggestion of getting some else where was mentioned and i was told it was up to me, though i know if i did all hell would break lose and that would be the end. i then tongue in cheek said maybe your mother could help out (she has been widowed for around ten years) i said it would not be the same as going outside the marraige and may help to keep things in balance and may help mil really a no lose situation really. i was expecting to get thrown out of bed on the spot really but it seemed to sink in a bit really anyway i didnt push it at the time  and left it to sink in.

so i wonder is anyone else doing this kind of thing a nd if so tell me how best to set it up and if it works well ?

 i hope this is of interest to  you all

bye for now

Don’t go there. Go here: 

Tricky one to answer this, has your profile is for a single guy and not a couple, so we can only address the one person and not both ..but I would not keep it in the family..I would chat with your partner and see what you both want out of your relationship, both in life and sex, but remember, any swinging or life relationships, must based on trust from both partners. 

thanks 

profile says single because i was till i got married never changed it  one because i dont know how to  and two she doesnt play so dont  see much point

you seem to have got the wrong end of the stick really, the advice i wanted was how to set it up not avoid it. also i would like to know how anyone else may have got on in the  situation, i thought it might make good reading for us all !

Does she know you have this profile and are asking this question..what is it you want to set up.  A shag with your mother in law or a meet with other women in general..you say your Mrs would go mad, and it would be the end if you actually did, so I dont get how this would work anyway, so why would you want to set it up . 

I suspect that this is all fantasy perhaps?

actually it is not a fantasy at all, 

the conversation has been had as in first post and the next step is floating round my mind and i needed advice with it, i would be grateful if anyone had been there so i could learn, 

thanks for now

Well the best advice I can offer is to forget about it.

You had already stated that to suggest a third person would be the end of your relationship. So why on earth do you think that suggesting your MiL would Bea positive? Because it's keeping it in the family?

Madness.....

But you are contradicting yourself OP..you say your wife would not be happy. I would just forget the whole idea and leave it as a fantasy

This certainly does not sound like a recipe for a happy ending, so I guess I am with the majority on this one.