Quote by neilinleeds
OUCH!!!!!
when i first saw this thread, i decided not to post on it, cos frankly, i don't know what the point is?….
…do munches open up a whole world of possibilities . . . well yes!
do i go to munches expecting to open up a whole world of possibilities . . . well . . . no!!!!
i go to munches to meet and greet people i will not see from one year to the next! people i count as friends. whether or not i swing with them is completely irrelevant!
swinging with them has bugger all to do with it!
so . . . number of munches versus number of meets / potential meets . . . . is completely irrelevant . . . and i think any attempt to do some sort of statistical analysis thingumbob COMPLETELY misses the point!
neil x x x ;)
May be it has no point or may be you missed the point. May be it is not pointy at all but more of a rounded shape????
Though to elaborate on the purpose of the questionnaire …
Munches are undoubtedly successful for those who wish to put a face to a name, to meet-up with some of the people they regularly chat to, to catch-up in person with people who have become friends…. and so on. They contribute greatly to the social aspect of this site. This is well documented in many a munch related thread.
However, this is a swinging site and people (in general) are here because they either want to explore swinging, it is their life-style or in some form or another want to enjoy sex. I appreciate some peoples reasons for initially joining the site may soon change as people discover other opportunities and may be drawn to the social aspect – but never the less it is a swinging site and there are people on this site who are actively looking to widen their sexual experiences.
It has become common place when a newbie (single or couple) posts either some form of complaint about the success rate of the photo ads or posts looking for an instant shag in LMU, there comes a typical response some where along the line of “get your self known on the forum and put your name down for a munchâ€. This is of course fine if they were posting “how do I get to know people and meet them on a social no pressure basis†– we know this – it is well documented that munches fulfil that function. But what if they (the poster) are not interested in broadening their social circles? Is this then suitable advice to meet the needs of this individual/couple? Does giving this advice imply that attending a munch is a successful route to fulfilling sexual desires? (Personally I feel it does and has the potential to give out a very mixed message.)
The reason the social aspect of a munch was asked to be ignored is not to devalue its social benefits, it was asked to be excluded because:
A – we already know that works
B – it would cloud the results of the actual question
Quote by little gem
I don't like the implication that munches have become incidental to the plethora of afterparties and how many people you shag afterwards.
Unfortunately the generously applied advice, throughout the forum, to attend a munch if you want to be successful in your pursuits makes that implication. I also say this because of the amount of people I have spoken to who have said words to the effect of “I/we haven’t had much luck so far in arranging meets, but we are going to put our name down for a munch and hopefully all that will change soonâ€.
May be (and judging on the responses so far) the results here will actually show that if the expectation is to body-bounce with all and sundry after attending a munch – they are going to be disappointed.
(Hence the reason pre-arranged after-parties were asked to be excluded.)
Quote by little gem
Munches were started to get to know people in the lifestyle not to tick a list of who is next on the shag list.
You may find this strange – but I actually agree with you on this.
Which is why I don’t feel the advice people give as a blanket reply (whether trying to be helpful or not) is in all cases appropriate. The purpose of a munch and the route to success in the pursuit of personal pleasure are not always one and the same. However, that is just my opinion – hence the reason for asking the questions.
