I had a party on Friday Night at home , and my best mates wife came onto me really heavily , dont know what to do about it , she said she knows that i like to meet peoples wives etc, and that she wants to be one of them.. she said she just wants to feel me touch her outside and in. The repo's would be so bad if he ever found out, i haven't and wont touch her but not sure what to do. do i tell someone or ignore it???? i am totally gobsmacked, she is soooo frikin hot too!
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Warming the Bed
Others may have a different opinion, but 'never piss on your own doorstep' comes to mind 
Sex God
Quote by paulaclark
Others may have a different opinion, but 'never piss on your own doorstep' comes to mind
Sound advice.
Quote by Alpinestars
i haven't and wont touch her but not sure what to do. do i tell someone or ignore it?
If you haven't and won't touch her then what's the issue? Just move on with life and forget about it. After all he is your 'best' mate.
However, despite the above, I sense you'd like to take things further. So if she comes on to you again call her bluff and tell her you want to check with your mate that he's okay with it first. That should sort things one way or another. :thumbup:
Sex God
That's not swinging - it's cheating. Your call.
Thanx for the replies, like I said I will never touch her, but I feel like we have got a sordid little secret now from my mate and i've not actually done anything wrong. She has since sent me a txt saying ' you've not answered my question' for which I have not replied.
I feel like i'm being backed into a corner a little as if I don't tell him i'm a sh*t and if I do tell him sh*t will hit the fan ???? If she has turned out to be like this with me while he is on the other side of a door , what's she like when he's not there!
:sad: :doh:
I feel like i'm being backed into a corner a little as if I don't tell him i'm a sh*t and if I do tell him sh*t will hit the fan ???? If she has turned out to be like this with me while he is on the other side of a door , what's she like when he's not there!
:sad: :doh:
You should make it clear to her that, although flattered by her interest, your friendship with her partner means more to you, and you're not prepared to jeopardise this. Then you request that this might be the end to any such notions.
You retain your dignity, and you allow her to retreat intact. I'd advise against sending any text messages,that'll come back to bite someone.
You retain your dignity, and you allow her to retreat intact. I'd advise against sending any text messages,that'll come back to bite someone.
Forum Virgin
Yeah, mates mean more, far more, than a casual nibble.
Good for the ego though. Feel flattered and move on.
If she persists then you will have to be honest with her.
Still, it's always fun to flirt. We just have to know where the line is.
Good for the ego though. Feel flattered and move on.
If she persists then you will have to be honest with her.
Still, it's always fun to flirt. We just have to know where the line is.
Orgasminator
All sound advice ppl have given about not on your own doorstep & that..
Its the quote above that worries me!!!
It implies that you hav'nt told her you are a swinger...
Have you told your friend & his been a little indescrete & told his wife!!?
And if you hav'nt told either of them are they leading a lifestyle you dont know about?
Quote by Alpinestars
she said she knows that i like to meet peoples wives etc, and that she wants to be one of them..
Its the quote above that worries me!!!
It implies that you hav'nt told her you are a swinger...
Have you told your friend & his been a little indescrete & told his wife!!?
And if you hav'nt told either of them are they leading a lifestyle you dont know about?
Whilst I appreciate the hesitance in telling your mate, I would caution you about not doing so. What if she tells him you came on to HER as revenge for rejecting her?
It's a complex web we weave, and all that, unless we are all completely honest with each other. Even if your mate doesn't thank you initially he will eventually, especially if she is cheating on him without his knowledge. I agree, it's not swinging, it's cheating.
It's a complex web we weave, and all that, unless we are all completely honest with each other. Even if your mate doesn't thank you initially he will eventually, especially if she is cheating on him without his knowledge. I agree, it's not swinging, it's cheating.
Quote by paulaclark
Others may have a different opinion, but 'never piss on your own doorstep' comes to mind
This is the best piece of advice my old man has ever given me. Growing up, I've also fallen short of it on a few occasions too. I soon realised why the advice was such good advice.
As others have said, don't shit on your own doorstep.
Do the honourable thing - say no. He is your friend, mates are two a penny but friends before all else. If necessary arrange to say hi to the woman, explain that you would love to do the deed but he is your friend and even if she split up that very second with him you would not consider doing something that could hurt him. Make sure she knows that she is attractive and a good person - and that you are flattered at the suggestion but that you CANNOT go there. Not now, not in the future, no matter what.
If she goes down the blackmail route (shag me or I'll tell him you did anyway) then you may have a problem, god help you!!!
Do the honourable thing - say no. He is your friend, mates are two a penny but friends before all else. If necessary arrange to say hi to the woman, explain that you would love to do the deed but he is your friend and even if she split up that very second with him you would not consider doing something that could hurt him. Make sure she knows that she is attractive and a good person - and that you are flattered at the suggestion but that you CANNOT go there. Not now, not in the future, no matter what.
If she goes down the blackmail route (shag me or I'll tell him you did anyway) then you may have a problem, god help you!!!
Orgasminator
If I were in that situation, I would chat to my mate over some beers and raise the subject of swinging as a joke to see what he thinks. Perhaps both of them are curious about this practice. When the moment is opportune, just ask him 'so would you feel offended or turned on if you knew your wife wanted to do it with someone else? Would you encourage or discourage it?' Then you'll know where you stand.
I do not agree to go to him and rat on his wife's sexual advances towards you but I do agree with the opinions that want you to maintain your distance with a polite thanks, I am flattered but no thanks.
It will be very interesting to hear how you have decided to handle this situation.
I do not agree to go to him and rat on his wife's sexual advances towards you but I do agree with the opinions that want you to maintain your distance with a polite thanks, I am flattered but no thanks.
It will be very interesting to hear how you have decided to handle this situation.
how close is this best mate? Stuff the emotional bit here, I mean 'next door', just down the road' and 'is she steaming?' These are the important bits to this discussion and, if she's bloody miles away, and your mate is just an ugly b'stard that would impede scoring on a good night out in the city, just give her the opportunity of playing 'hide the sausage' adn plead ignorance if the game got out of hand and you got caught.
Do you think that I should open a newspaper column and give 'ask deirde' the elbow?
Do you think that I should open a newspaper column and give 'ask deirde' the elbow?
Warming the Bed
A friend of ours has been texting my other half, he's not aware that I know and She's flattered by the attention. Recently he has been coming on to her with invites for lunch etc,its a bizarre situation because I know she wouldn't, but.....wants to!
