My first munch

13 Feb 2007

My first munch was on Saturday (North West Munch) - I went with my partner Hungrypussy69.
I really enjoyed it and got to put faces to many of the names I've seen in the forums smile

(although my memory is so poor that I wish people had their forum pic on their badge or that I had brought a laptop along! :shock:).
BUT...
* I found myself greeting people coldly (not saying a lot and being stand offish) - that's shyness for you, I guess (but I still felt bad about that). Met, briefy, some very interesting people; would have loved to talked longer and got to know them more.
* Even though I tried hard for us not to hide away in a dark corner - we still found ourselfs on our own for most of the time. confused

I guess a lot of people already knew each other.
I think I tend to think too hard! Like I said, we enjoyed it. :) But as usual I feel the need to share my feelings/thoughts/views on the forums. redface

36
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13 Feb 2007

Did you have a handholder confused

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A handholder is more often than not an established member and is a good route to getting to talk to most if not all of the munchers...
Perhaps if you go to another one it might be worth asking for someone to accompany you both for the first part of the evening dunno

You will no doubt come across someone with who you share interests and then in turn they will know others to talk to and then it just snowballs..

13 Feb 2007

:cry: why didnt you say so when I asked if there was anyone you wanted to meet/ were you OK , etc?
shyness I guess dunno

.. but to be honest it did come across as a bit 'of course we're OK you daft bint now toddle off and bother somebody else '... and from the queen of standoffishness, that's saying something :giggle:
There was a chaperone/ handholder scheme in place and drinkies beforehand to which several 'noobs' came and met quite a few folk before the munch itself - its always a good icebreaker wink

That said, its not just munch newbies who find themselves in corners on their own you know :wink:
If you're tempted to attend another one, and I'm going, I'd be more than happy to hand-hold you til you find your feet.

13 Feb 2007

Aweee 36, Im sorry you felt this way. I know munches can be a bit daunting, I was a nervous wreck going to my first one.
I did have a hand holder tho... made such a difference. Maybe its something you might do at the next one.. please dont let it put you off. Majority of munchers who know its your first are great... but you have to let them know that.
If your ever at one Im at... come on over an say hello lol
Good luck on your next one smile

xanaisx

13 Feb 2007

Quote by 36openminded
... I wish people had their forum pic on their badge or that I had brought a laptop along! :shock.
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actually, thats a good point about avatar pics - my first few Munches & Socials were done entirely on the basis of recognising folk from their avatar rather than name... if I could recall av pics I could recall posts - and that gave me something to talk to them about :idea: worked well til we went through a phase of changing avatars lol

I would think its a nightmare for the badge-makers though ...although I personally would like to see the return of it :thumbup:

13 Feb 2007

:shock: 36 m8 sorry but as you know i was on the door at the time redface

if i had known i would have introdused you to someone who could have shown you round m8 sorry surprised

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13 Feb 2007

Thanks for the replies!
Don't get me wrong we did enjoy it! smile

We are still planning to go to munches/etc (next one being the wigan uniform one). I think we will try going to pre-munch drinks next time so we get to know a few people before hand. :)
36
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13 Feb 2007

dont worry 36 i still get pre munch nerves nearlly all the time......
even well established members still find it hard approaching new people. I was in the same boat, i approached some people that i had spoken to in a chat room and got a kinda well not sure response...
but thats mayby because i was being quite flamboient in what i was wearing and it might have been there first munch as well.....
TBH even with people i knew i was quiter than normal (most people know my behaviour is less than ummmmm always good redface

)
Trust me it does get easiar, in 2 years you will become a muncg tart/whore and end up snigging everyone at munchs.....
MikeyC

13 Feb 2007

hi
the nw munch was also our first munch too, we felt so nervous and shy but we did go to pre munch drinks and that really helped as we got to meet a few people who were a good laugh and invited us to join them at the munch.... we also met a cpl who we went for drinks with after pre munch drinks and before the munch, we would certainly recomend pre munch drinks to break the ice.... once we were at the munch we had arranged to have a chaperone... who were great...we chatted and still felt free to wander and meet people safe in the knowledge that if we had no one to talk to we could make our way back to them... it felt like a great safety net and we would certainly recommend you have a chaperone..oh and vodka red bull helped too lol... hope this helps, see you at the wigan munch
xx

14 Feb 2007

Our first one too and also being a bit shy we stuck with the small number of people that we knew already …. except for one couple who we didn’t know before but hope to get to know a lot better in the future! I think in any social gathering there are more people who feel this way than you would imagine.
Hope we didn’t come across as arrogant or ignorant.
Searcher …. If that was you I was speaking to at the urinal I didn’t mean that I preferred a s**t to sex .... it’s just that the feeling is good in its own right
redface

…. maybe I’m not shy? smile

14 Feb 2007

Quote by Darkfire
... I wish people had their forum pic on their badge or that I had brought a laptop along! :shock.
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actually, thats a good point about avatar pics - my first few Munches & Socials were done entirely on the basis of recognising folk from their avatar rather than name... if I could recall av pics I could recall posts - and that gave me something to talk to them about :idea: worked well til we went through a phase of changing avatars lol

I would think its a nightmare for the badge-makers though ...although I personally would like to see the return of it :thumbup:
mmmmm to give a serious answer to that Dark and anyone else who wondered why it stopped, here goes
1. Too many cock type avatars.
2. Too many generic avatars.
3. Size of names - when you have something like Tracey Mrs Ilikegivingmenblowjobs, its hard to fit just the name on the badge never mind an avatar picture.
4. Most badges now are specific to the event therefore have a 'theme' to them, therefore once again not enough room to put avatar pictures on them.
5. Only a handful wanted them, it was getting to the stage where it was taking hours to find out what people wanted on badges.
6. It takes time to find out what people want on their badges and thats just the names, I personally contact everyone that has never had a badge from me before and have a badge database of over 1,500 name, tracing these people takes time especially if they are newbies or dont post on the forums.
7. What do you put on the badge if they dont have an avatar or are too rude to reply to the pm asking.
8. Time - every avatar has to saved to my computer with their name and each one needs to be loaded onto the badge.
9. A lot of people change their avatars regualarly, therefore I would have to check each person individually.
Saying all that, if people come to me with special requests or I see an opportunity arise such as Dambuster's and HuxleyPigs badges, then I am always willing to try. :)
36, in response to your situation, sometimes nerves do get the better of us, hopefully it will be easier next time kiss

Also take people up on their offer of hand holding, few do and sometimes don't get out of the events what they could do.

14 Feb 2007

Quote by 36openminded
BUT...
* I found myself greeting people coldly (not saying a lot and being stand offish) - that's shyness for you, I guess (but I still felt bad about that). Met, briefy, some very interesting people; would have loved to talked longer and got to know them more.

All I saw was a very handsome, young man with a lovely smile, and when he said hello, I just noticed how polite he was biggrin

Lovely to finally say hello to you both kiss

14 Feb 2007

Quote by cukman
Searcher …. If that was you I was speaking to at the urinal I didn’t mean that I preferred a s**t to sex .... it’s just that the feeling is good in its own right

…. maybe I’m not shy?

:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: Munch conversations never cease to amaze me :giggle:

14 Feb 2007

Quote by 36openminded
BUT...
* I found myself greeting people coldly (not saying a lot and being stand offish) - that's shyness for you, I guess (but I still felt bad about that). Met, briefy, some very interesting people; would have loved to talked longer and got to know them more.
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36
It was nice to meet both you and Hungry pussy on Saturday.
For what it's worth,I didn't think you were stand offish at all - you were just experiencing something for the first time that can be quite overwhelming.
I'm sure we've all been in a situation at 1 time or another when we're surrounded by people we don't know e.g. Starting a new job.
And I'm sure most people are a bit quieter than usual in this position.
kiss

I'm glad you both enjoyed it and I'll make sure I come over and say hi at Wigan :thumbup:

14 Feb 2007

It was good to meet you and HP on Saturday
I didnt find you too shy and we had a bit of a chat the four of us for 10 15 minuites.
You can feel a bit like the rabbit in the head lights, i have been to thre munches now and still feel that way at some point in the evening.
The other thing is you either try and meet and say hi to evry one and thus dont really chat and end up not remembering much
or
You just spend time chatting with a few of the folks you most want to meet and end up missing some you would have liked to meet.
Might be good to go to some smaller socials now you jumped in at the deep end and see how that goes toward helping with the bigger events

14 Feb 2007

I guess a few more Smirnoff Ices may help next time. I was still full of a cold on Saturday so not really in a partying mood. But it was still nice to meet everybody that we did. smile

14 Feb 2007

="Naughty Wigan Couple
All I saw was a very handsome, young man with a lovely smile, and when he said hello, I just noticed how polite he was
Lovely to finally say hello to you both

Ditto to this. It was lovely to meet you and your lovely lady, and if it seemed at one point that my mate and I were ignoring you, it wasn't on purpose - it was just that we aren't togeter very often and were making the most of it.
Look forward to seeing you at the next one xxx

14 Feb 2007

Munches can certainly be nerve wracking. Or, at least the first munch can be lol

But they get easier after that.
It's either a case of being outgoing, and actually going up to people and starting the conversation. Not easy.
Or waiting for people to come up to you and chat. But, until that happens, maybe a mixture of the two!
What is most unusual is, in this community, you can go up to anyone at a munch and start a conversation and people will continue and encourage the conversation. Unlike what would happen in a 'vanilla' pub or nightclub.
Definitely, a hand holder can be a good plan for any future munch virgins.
See you both in Wigan.
biggrin

14 Feb 2007

Munches can certainly be nerve wracking. Or, at least the first munch can be lol

But they get easier after that.
It's either a case of being outgoing, and actually going up to people and starting the conversation. Not easy.
Or waiting for people to come up to you and chat. But, until that happens, maybe a mixture of the two!
What is most unusual is, in this community, you can go up to anyone at a munch and start a conversation and people will continue and encourage the conversation. Unlike what would happen in a 'vanilla' pub or nightclub.
Definitely, a hand holder can be a good plan for any future munch virgins.
See you both in Wigan.
biggrin

15 Feb 2007

These forums and the people on them are so great. Rather than me forming a rigid view of events - I've always been able to be honest by sharing those views (which might be shared by others too) and then gain from the responses.
Thanks for everyones input. biggrin

I know I will enjoy the next munch too - although it's clear that I need to rethink my uniform as HP is trying to jazz it up with fishnet stockings! :shock:

15 Feb 2007

Quote by 36openminded
I know I will enjoy the next munch too - although it's clear that I need to rethink my uniform as HP is trying to jazz it up with fishnet stockings! :shock:

:shock: dont you dare re-think your uniform, that is one sight I really cant wait to see wink

(HP, dont let him change his mind, Im sure peopl will pay good money to see him in fishnets) lol

15 Feb 2007

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
I know I will enjoy the next munch too - although it's clear that I need to rethink my uniform as HP is trying to jazz it up with fishnet stockings! :shock:

:shock: dont you dare re-think your uniform, that is one sight I really cant wait to see wink

(HP, dont let him change his mind, Im sure peopl will pay good money to see him in fishnets) lol

I`ll hide his trousers....he`ll have no choice but to wear the fishnets!! :grin:

15 Feb 2007

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
(HP, dont let him change his mind, Im sure peopl will pay good money to see him in fishnets)

I'll second that, and I have and 2 euros on me - where do I pay? :lol:

15 Feb 2007

i ahve some swiss francs and and about 20 eur on me computer desk
Mike

15 Feb 2007

Crikey, if we carry on like this, 36 will be one very rich man wink

here along with a One Euro coin (dont know where that one came from) :shock:

15 Feb 2007

Forgot to say, I also have about a thousand Green Shield Stamps - I was saving for a toaster in 1977 - but I am willing to make the sacrifice biggrin

15 Feb 2007

I got 50P in coppers lol

and
A shiny new £1 coin
:lol:

15 Feb 2007

I have..
1) Half a mars bar, still with wrapper...
2) 1 vegan comdom, out of date
2) 1 Maltese coin
xanaisx

15 Feb 2007

I have
1) 1 Goldfish
2) 3 used t-bags
3) My Boots card with about £6 on
4) A few chocolate Hobnobs
:giggle:

15 Feb 2007

Quote by varca
3. 2 used AA batteries (don't ask what they came out of!!)

What did the batteries come out of varca dunno