What the hell is going on with this site and people in it at minute?
Lilac, I haven't met you in person, but I've seen you posting and have possibly chatted via posting - me personally, I wouldn't like to see you go..not that it matters much what I say, but please reconsider xxx :therethere:
Hey Lilac,
I enjoy readin yr posts not met u yet lol but don 't let this pathetic person upset you, theyd b made up knowin u thinkin like this dont let em win hun!!!!!
Anyway take care and dont go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
Lilac, there's room enough for everyone. Don't you dare give up on munches just because one person says you should.
In a room of 200 people you can easily avoid the one person who doesn't want you there and to be honest it's them and not you that's going to look like the pathetic fool if they kick up a fuss about being in the same room as you.
Be strong, stand tall and proud, ignore the fool and do what you want to do, not what someone else tries to dictate you should.
Lilac,
I'm the only person here more popular than you, and I've not said a word against you, so it's all bollox!
Seriously though- what kind of behaviour is that? If this person is saying to organisers "I won't go if she goes" then they are showing themselves up as attention seeking twats. If they were "more popular" than you, with that kind of behaviour they soon won't be.
Do that thing Pete said about illegitimate cardboard babies :thumbup:
Oh dear. :cry:
This situation really saddens me but i so know where you are coming from.
i recently dropped out of a social event because someone had signed up to it and I knew it would be awkward.
I've also been hurt and/or angered by other site members and deliberately stayed away from the site.
If someone has a problem with you then that's their problem, not yours. If they are not willing to sort it out in a mature and adult manner, then you be the grown up - hold your head up high and carry on as usual - leave them to their sulking and petty bitching.
If you believe yourself to be the vitcim of bullying - and I rather think this might be the case, then please speak to one of the mods.
There will always be bitching abd backbiting - we just need to learn to rise above it.
Good luck x
If this person cant say whatever it is to you personally and justify it then they aint worth bothering about and to be honest if I only went to munches where evryone liked me I would never go anywhere...
Bollox to em is what I say......
You continue to do what you have always done and let them avoid you if its that much of an issue for em....
Dearest Lilacgem, I think the show of support that you have recieved here shows that you shouldnt give up Munches or posting in the forum.
Ive felt like giving it up to a few times because of the feeling that I wasnt liked by one or two members ( which was probably unfounded anyway)but came to the conclusion that you just cannot get on with everyone, so best just to avoid those people, while still being here and carry on regardless with the people that you do get on with.
Louise xx
I have read all this and I am shocked. Not just about Lilac but that in pm people tell others that other people dont like that person or personally tell them about whats wrong with their personality! What the *uck is going on????? If it was me mum or sister or best friend, yes happy for them to tell me about my personality and honesty is fine but why in here.
Now in the past I have said things about one male member in pm and in the open forum I was pissed off and I know how stupid I have been doing that (I have apologised and been forgiven and removed any posts). So I know how the writing of something can take over in the heat of the moment.
Here however, this is gossip which is not good for all involved.
We surely dont have to all agree to love everybody????? People will not like how someone looks, laughs etc etc. Thats life. What is silly is when that gossip leads to people feeling excluded.
As has been said, its not about who is liked best on a site - who cares?????? Stop, think about it and you get back to the feeling of playground in fighting. In adults though it goes one and on and on and on ......
Lilac, sure you will think about it and get back on site soon.
Corrie
I don't see much point in analyzing what is essentially playground politics. Bitching, back stabbing, gossip and the rest - it happens in all types of community setting - as this website is!
It's how we learn to deal with it that matters.
I hope Lilac finds a way that suits her without compromising herself.
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lilac, I forbid you to go & insist you go to a munch that we go to as you are on my list to say 
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if thats the case why are they swinging?