As par for the course I prepared for Christmas this year by getting my Children all that they wanted and treating my wife like a princess and giving her all the presents of her dreams. I bought a couple of cases of champagne. And were all set Christmas morning was lovely. We then went to my brother’s new house for a nosey as he paid well over £1 million for it. Had her parents over for tea and then our best friends came over.
In between was good too but skipping to New Years Eve we went to friends with our best friends and had a great time. We then went back to ours and went into my entertainment den.
As I wondered in there to fix a drink on New Years Day Eve I discovered lots of stick hand prints and went to find my wife’s ball gown she’d had on only to discover cum stains all over.
Have since found out it happened on Christmas Day and they have been shagging (whilst drunk) under my nose – my wife & my best friend for the last 6 months. She sucked and swallowed and he went down on her and has dirty hard sex.
Have now changed my profile.
Happy New Year & I hope that yours was better than mine.
She want's to try and get things back to the way it was & better - but will she ever do it to me again?
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My unhappy New Year - you'll like this one!
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Quote by Jamie2000male
Forgot to mention that I have actually never cheated on her. I wanted us to swing together but she didn't and I respectfully left it there.
I'm not judging you Jamie. I have cheated in my time. However I do firmly believe that what goes around comes around and that every action has a consequence.
You may not have cheated on your wife but that was more likely to do with lack of opportunity than lack of intention by the sounds of it.
I'm not clear on why you posted the thread to be honest?
Quote by Kiss
Forgot to mention that I have actually never cheated on her. I wanted us to swing together but she didn't and I respectfully left it there.
I'm not judging you Jamie. I have cheated in my time. However I do firmly believe that what goes around comes around and that every action has a consequence.
You may not have cheated on your wife but that was more likely to do with lack of opportunity than lack of intention by the sounds of it.
I'm not clear on why you posted the thread to be honest?
:violin:
Sex God
Bit unfair Seasider. Jamie2000male's just discovered his partners cheated on him and he's looking for a little support and sympathy (maybe not quite the right site, but hey), so cut him a little slack.
He says he's joined with the intention of both of them swinging as a couple and we have to accept that. He wouldn't be the first bloke to come here on a fact-finding mission before discussing things with his partner and I'm sure he won't be the last.
I cannot honestly advise you one way or another about your relationship with your wife Jamie2000male, that's something only you can decide.
What I will say is that if you do decide to end the marriage, liquidise all your assets and get it into an off-shore account BEFORE you tell her you want a divorce. :thumbup:
He says he's joined with the intention of both of them swinging as a couple and we have to accept that. He wouldn't be the first bloke to come here on a fact-finding mission before discussing things with his partner and I'm sure he won't be the last.
I cannot honestly advise you one way or another about your relationship with your wife Jamie2000male, that's something only you can decide.
What I will say is that if you do decide to end the marriage, liquidise all your assets and get it into an off-shore account BEFORE you tell her you want a divorce. :thumbup:
Quote by easy
Bit unfair Seasider. Jamie2000male's just discovered his partners cheated on him and he's looking for a little support and sympathy (maybe not quite the right site, but hey), so cut him a little slack.
I would have to disagree Easy - I remember Jamies previous forays into the forum pretty well.
Like I said before - I'm not slagging Jamie off or advocating that anyone else should (he is without sin and all that) however I don't think he will find much sympathy in the Cafe.
Quote by northwest-cpl
I'm the last person to knock married guys being here without their partner's knowledge, having always argued that it's none of my business. However, after a little light reading, I'm with Kiss on the 'what goes round comes round' and also wonder what the purpose of this thread is.
i wondered as well......until i reread this bit
Quote by Jamie2000male
Have since found out it happened on Christmas Day and they have been shagging (whilst drunk) under my nose – my wife & my best friend for the last 6 months. She sucked and swallowed and he went down on her and has dirty hard sex.
why does this not sound right?
I've just read one of your early post and I am rather confused so I've copied and pasted it 
Why do you seem so shocked when you've been looking to do the same thing and even met someone at one point
Why do you seem so shocked when you've been looking to do the same thing and even met someone at one point
Quote by Jamie2000male
I recently met up with someone (from another site). We msn'd & chatted on the phone for a week of so before meeting. The day arrived we met at a pub for a drink and a chat and a flirt so that we could take things further.
She looked great from her picture - just the type of person I was looking for.
We met up and she disclosed to me that:-
Despite asking her on a couple of occasions 'Is that really you in the pic?' - Her opening line was 'I guess you can tell it's not really me in the picture'
She wasn't married but divorced.
She also went on to say that she wasn't 35 but 42 (and looked more like 52)
and she wasn't a size 10-12 but a size 18-20.
Also the two names she gave were both false (I accept that many people including myself use a different screen name than their actual name until personal contact is made and then you tell them!)
and didn't like giving oral - something she was supposed to love!
And lied about where she lives
Bascially lied about just about everything.
Consequently I have had no further contact with her and it was a complete waste of my time and hers.
The thing is I didn't lie about a single thing & felt betrayed - How could I trust her at all?
It does seem to be different here and I do feel safe that poeple are generally truthfull as I am.
Has anyone else had a similar experience or is it me being too naive?
Sex God
I bow to everyone else's experience of Jamie. I posted without checking on his history and took his post at face value. You'd think after 6 or 7 years on forums I'd know better. :doh:
I agree that his post is phrased very strangely, but I'd put this down to him posting while drunk.
Oh and apologies to Seasider
I agree that his post is phrased very strangely, but I'd put this down to him posting while drunk.
Oh and apologies to Seasider
This is a tough one, I guess looking on the face of it (and No I haven't checked his posts or profile) he Feels Betrayed Hurt and Angry. Something I'm sure most of us can relate to. And that the post was probably a request for sympathy and compasion from people he feels comfortable talking with due to the annonimity(Spell Check)!
Unfortunately, due to the content of the post and the way it was written it didn't come across that well, IMO!
However, I do feel sorry for him, as it as a horrible thing to have to discover having been there myself.
But, as the following posts have revealed he is someone who it would appear is prepared to meet someone else behind his wife's back, and It doesn't matter what for. Is that betrayal ?
I am not going to judge nor condem what he and his wife have done, but what I will say is that it would appear that both of them have Serious Issues within their Marriage.
These if possible can be resolved, but only with Love,honesty and commitment.
If you're marriage and you're wife mean that much to you then try hard to work it out!
Good Luck
Unfortunately, due to the content of the post and the way it was written it didn't come across that well, IMO!
However, I do feel sorry for him, as it as a horrible thing to have to discover having been there myself.
But, as the following posts have revealed he is someone who it would appear is prepared to meet someone else behind his wife's back, and It doesn't matter what for. Is that betrayal ?
I am not going to judge nor condem what he and his wife have done, but what I will say is that it would appear that both of them have Serious Issues within their Marriage.
These if possible can be resolved, but only with Love,honesty and commitment.
If you're marriage and you're wife mean that much to you then try hard to work it out!
Good Luck
Quote by Jamie2000male
As par for the course I prepared for Christmas this year by getting my Children all that they wanted and treating my wife like a princess and giving her all the presents of her dreams. I bought a couple of cases of champagne. And were all set Christmas morning was lovely. We then went to my brother’s new house for a nosey as he paid well over £1 million for it. Had her parents over for tea and then our best friends came over.
In between was good too but skipping to New Years Eve we went to friends with our best friends and had a great time. We then went back to ours and went into my entertainment den.
As I wondered in there to fix a drink on New Years Day Eve I discovered lots of stick hand prints and went to find my wife’s ball gown she’d had on only to discover cum stains all over.
Have since found out it happened on Christmas Day and they have been shagging (whilst drunk) under my nose – my wife & my best friend for the last 6 months. She sucked and swallowed and he went down on her and has dirty hard sex.
Have now changed my profile.
Happy New Year & I hope that yours was better than mine.
She want's to try and get things back to the way it was & better - but will she ever do it to me again?
No one really knows that for sure, not even your wife.
You both have to decide whether it is worth all the effort, if you believe it is, then stand up, admit your wrongs also, and fight for each other.
I do have to say that you give the impression of it being a monetary relationship ie; "presents of her dreams" and in previous threads "allowing her to be a lady of leisure" - since when has "allowing" come in to a marriage? I do not want an answer nor to judge your standards, I just want you to think about things. Most women think differently and money, gifts etc, yes they can bring some happiness and security, but they do not prove or show love. Also did she feel smothered? Think, and above all listen to her, she will have her reasons, it is whether you understand her or try to that counts.
We both wish you luck in whatever you both decide. D&G xxx
Sex God
May be she read this.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewpost/896254.html#896254
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http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewpost/896254.html#896254
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Sex God
I was going to post that link earlier :shock:
