One thing I find hard to understand when it comes to ads and profiles on here is the number of people who have N/A next to their location. Often these people ( couples and single fems in particular) can't accom and expect you to arrange an hotel or meet at your place.
Now forgive me if I have missed something here but why? Why put just NA when they could at least put their county? Surely it isn't too much to ask? I no longer reply to such ads or even read them as I am fed up of "sorry you live too far away" responses if I get any at all. At least the general location as in the county is not too much to ask nor is it giving much away (I assume they are either paranoid about getting found out on here or perhaps fakers anyway and we know there are many of them) For their own reasons it might not be NA for them but its surely is for most of us don't you think?
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N/A well yes it is actually
Sorry, I think you have missed my point or I haven't explained it very well.
All I am asking is for a rough location such as the county they are in so I have a rough idea where they are so if they expect me to come to them. I then have a fair idea how far away they are and how far I may have to travel. I can then decide if to send them a PM or not.
This is important to me and if they do travel a lot then they could say so in their ad and or profile. Some of course do state such but very few I have to say. I completely understand about people wanting to keep the their exact location a secret but their county I see no reason for not stating? I thought I had explained this in the above, sorry if I confused you.
All I am asking is for a rough location such as the county they are in so I have a rough idea where they are so if they expect me to come to them. I then have a fair idea how far away they are and how far I may have to travel. I can then decide if to send them a PM or not.
This is important to me and if they do travel a lot then they could say so in their ad and or profile. Some of course do state such but very few I have to say. I completely understand about people wanting to keep the their exact location a secret but their county I see no reason for not stating? I thought I had explained this in the above, sorry if I confused you.
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i suppose lots of people have different reasons for putting NA. there may also be some who do travel alot because they can't accomodate. if they are a couple or single with children then there is one reason straight away for them to not want people at their place. so why not use a hotel? if you all pay towards it and you get laid what's the problem there.
also as a single lady i wouldn't want to be bringing guys back to my house. i think you can get away with different guys going to the house when you are a couple, it's just not that way for a single woman. oh and lets not forget the safety aspect here too.
now if you can have people to yours and you don't care what people think, what's the problem? if you can't then surely you understand why others may not be able to either
as to finding out where people are try asking, as in; how far are you from blah blah? you can give as much detail about where you live as you want.
alturnatively, do what you are already doing and ignore them and move onto the next person/s.
whips
Hi see you are a newbie to the forums!
I agree with you as when we were meeting, it was nice to have some idea in distance how far people were away from us.
You can set on your account to let others know the calculation in miles away from you, that does not give exact location but a fair idea within a distance.
I do not think that is unreasonable to know, as it could be east, west, south or north and still protects you from exactly location.
I really don't know why some put N/A. I personally would wonder if they were keen to meet others or not.
But then I guess some might not be bothered by the distance to have to travel.
I agree with you as when we were meeting, it was nice to have some idea in distance how far people were away from us.
You can set on your account to let others know the calculation in miles away from you, that does not give exact location but a fair idea within a distance.
I do not think that is unreasonable to know, as it could be east, west, south or north and still protects you from exactly location.
I really don't know why some put N/A. I personally would wonder if they were keen to meet others or not.
But then I guess some might not be bothered by the distance to have to travel.
Thank you I'm glad you agree, that's exactly what I was thinking of when I put my post up. Not rocket science really and at the end of the day it's a bit of consideration to others something often sadly lacking at times.
This is also true with some peoples ads, profiles and responses (or lack of them when they say all PMs with full profile and pic's replied to for example). I have no desire to waste peoples time when I reply to an ad and a bit of thought and putting your rough location will help reduce wasting both our time IMO.
I take my time writing a reply to an ad (or a PM to me) and NEVER reply to one unless I believe I meet the criteria required. My profile is full with pic's and my ad spells out what I am looking for. I do this for consideration to others and I have to say it does bring it's rewards.
This is also true with some peoples ads, profiles and responses (or lack of them when they say all PMs with full profile and pic's replied to for example). I have no desire to waste peoples time when I reply to an ad and a bit of thought and putting your rough location will help reduce wasting both our time IMO.
I take my time writing a reply to an ad (or a PM to me) and NEVER reply to one unless I believe I meet the criteria required. My profile is full with pic's and my ad spells out what I am looking for. I do this for consideration to others and I have to say it does bring it's rewards.
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Hi see you are a newbie to the forums!
I agree with you as when we were meeting, it was nice to have some idea in distance how far people were away from us.
You can set on your account to let others know the calculation in miles away from you, that does not give exact location but a fair idea within a distance.
I do not think that is unreasonable to know, as it could be east, west, south or north and still protects you from exactly location.
I really don't know why some put N/A. I personally would wonder if they were keen to meet others or not.
But then I guess some might not be bothered by the distance to have to travel.
Quote by GnV
I suppose location matters a lot if all you are after is a quick shag
How profound :roll: So you would be willing to travel say 200 miles for say friendship or to strike up a regular relationship would you? I can assure you that's last thing I am looking for or indeed have found. But hey have you ever thought that that's exactly what some people want on this site and not just single guys I may add? I guess not then. :roll:
Quote by Ms_Whips
Thank you I'm glad you agree, that's exactly what I was thinking of when I put my post up. Not rocket science really and at the end of the day it's a bit of consideration to others something often sadly lacking at times.
This is also true with some peoples ads, profiles and responses (or lack of them when they say all PMs with full profile and pic's replied to for example). I have no desire to waste peoples time when I reply to an ad and a bit of thought and putting your rough location will help reduce wasting both our time IMO.
I take my time writing a reply to an ad (or a PM to me) and NEVER reply to one unless I believe I meet the criteria required. My profile is full with pic's and my ad spells out what I am looking for. I do this for consideration to others and I have to say it does bring it's rewards.
Hi see you are a newbie to the forums!
I agree with you as when we were meeting, it was nice to have some idea in distance how far people were away from us.
You can set on your account to let others know the calculation in miles away from you, that does not give exact location but a fair idea within a distance.
I do not think that is unreasonable to know, as it could be east, west, south or north and still protects you from exactly location.
I really don't know why some put N/A. I personally would wonder if they were keen to meet others or not.
But then I guess some might not be bothered by the distance to have to travel.
i'm sorry john, and maybe i am misunderstanding here, but why is it inconsiderate to want to keep your location private? is it then inconsiderate to have no pictures or to put them in a private gallery so people have to ask or be invited to see them?
while i do get the point you and minx have made. however you are the one thinking it's inconsiderate because you find it inconvenient. the people who want their privacy don't think the same way as you for whatever reason. sorry but you have to respect that whether you like it or not. why is it such a big deal to just ask? it's not about wasting time to take a minute to ask a question if someone looks like they are worth looking at. i see it as a little slack not to if you are that interested.
whips
Whips it's not about privacy or inconvenience at all. What's so private about saying in you profile NW etc? I am happy to travel up to 50miles and have done so and further ( you cant trust the milage thing i'm afraid). People know the area I am as I state so on my profile. I may spend 30mins composing a reply to an ad only to be told you live too far away.
I wouldn't have replied if I had known they only wanted LOCAL guys and saved us BOTH the bother.Quote "is it then inconsiderate to have no pictures or to put them in a private gallery so people have to ask or be invited to see them?" UnQuote.
In a word no it isn't but we aren't talking about such at all we are talking about a rough location. With a PVT gallery request its a simple quick PM and that's it while a well written and considerate reply will often take sometime to write. BTW when I reply to an add I often send an invite to my PVT gallery not that its required but I feel it helps reinforce my genuineness.
Unfortuanetly there appears to be a lack of that with many on this site. Now being a single guy you have to try that bit harder to appeal to couples and single ladies, after all you just have to set your ad up and the offers just rolling. The truth of the pudding and all that comes to mind but I digress.
Whip you have your opinion as a single lady whip and I have mine. I wonder do you send PMs to single guys or couples or whatever you are looking for without knowing their location?
Warming the Bed
I must admit I am confused by the folk who have profiles that give no indication of location.....but only want to meet people local to them. Mind you, I find it more amusing than frustrating.
I guess there's no confusion about where I am
I guess there's no confusion about where I am
Sex God
Hi Johnnelson, I can see what you are saying and what you are getting at with this post. If a person puts an advert on saying they want to meet, then surely it is not asking too much to provide an approximate location (at least people know where they have to travel too). However, if people are not advertising, then in most cases, there is no reason why they should put their location on.
I can see both sides, people often want to protect their identity etc, but as you say, if they want to meet, then surely they can give an approximate location.
Bet you cant guess where we are from
I can see both sides, people often want to protect their identity etc, but as you say, if they want to meet, then surely they can give an approximate location.
Bet you cant guess where we are from
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I`m afraid it`s all down to personal choice John ....
Hmm and you thought I didn't know that for some reason?
Of course it's personal choice 
Well !! I ain`t the one making a big fuss about it !!
I don`t happen to like profiles that have N/A next to location ...that`s my choice but it`s also their choice to put what they bloody well like and I`m sure they can do without people calling them "paranoid" or "fakers" ...
I`m sure that anybody that could be bothered to read your profile would be able to pick holes that too !!!
No big fuss mate just an opinion and answering peoples questions honestly. This is a posting forum after all and you will find a lot more moaning on here if you care to look. Try time wasters for instance there's a good one.
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Hi Johnnelson, I can see what you are saying and what you are getting at with this post. If a person puts an advert on saying they want to meet, then surely it is not asking too much to provide an approximate location (at least people know where they have to travel too). However, if people are not advertising, then in most cases, there is no reason why they should put their location on.
Completely agree but I am talking about those who are seeking to meet a single guy.
I can see both sides, people often want to protect their identity etc, but as you say, if they want to meet, then surely they can give an approximate location.
Just what I am saying, glad you agree and IMO its sensible
Bet you cant guess where we are from
Ermmmm errrr hmmmmm let me see BOLTON
Sex God
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Bet you cant guess where we are from
The land of gorgeous?
Sex God
Liking what your saying John I concur BTW
John,
If someone puts N/A on their location then be ruthless and rule them out of your search - their loss! ;-)
BTW, I just did a profile search for people looking for single males within 10 miles of your location and I got back 1,816 matches, so you shouldn't have too much trouble finding someone to meet with. :thumbup:
If someone puts N/A on their location then be ruthless and rule them out of your search - their loss! ;-)
BTW, I just did a profile search for people looking for single males within 10 miles of your location and I got back 1,816 matches, so you shouldn't have too much trouble finding someone to meet with. :thumbup:
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well actually john i don't pm anyone asking for meets. however, when i was looking i posted an advert and asked for local people in my area. but i also looked at other people's profiles and if they didn't state where they lived i asked. no big deal.
yes i have my opinion, it's what you asked for. i had thought actually that i had put a case for both sides. but hey ho choose to read it as you like.
whips
You don't PM people whips as your single lady and get lots of offers no doubt. Now if you where a single guy well..... You put a case for both sides but a stronger one (in your opinion) for those who chose to hide their rough area. I think I put a stronger case for my side of the issue after all it is my topic so I would do wouldn't I.
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John,
If someone puts N/A on their location then be ruthless and rule them out of your search - their loss! ;-)
BTW, I just did a profile search for people looking for single males within 10 miles of your location and I got back 1,816 matches, so you shouldn't have too much trouble finding someone to meet with. :thumbup:
Thanks, I do rule them out mate as I have said. I didn't suggest I had trouble finding meets however
Anyway 1,816 is rather a lot of ads to wade through but at least they have no problem putting up a location. Quote by johnnelson
Thanks, I do rule them out mate as I have said. I didn't suggest I had trouble finding meets however
Start at the top and work your way through. When you're finished with them, move out to 20 miles! :lol2:
Quote by Cubes
Thanks, I do rule them out mate as I have said. I didn't suggest I had trouble finding meets however
Start at the top and work your way through. When you're finished with them, move out to 20 miles! :lol2:
What a great idea :) ........... now why didn't I think of that :lol: well I have actually but I still manage to find the time wasters, fakers and arse holes by doing that.
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Where is N/A anyway?
Multimap isn't helping at all.
There appear to be lots of people there.
Is it anywhere near Jeopardy?... where there are plenty of jobs?
lp
I think N/A must be North America (hence Multimap is of no use to you) given some of the replies I get suggesting I live to far away
Quote by johnnelson
I suppose location matters a lot if all you are after is a quick shag
How profound :roll: So you would be willing to travel say 200 miles for say friendship or to strike up a regular relationship would you? I can assure you that's last thing I am looking for or indeed have found. But hey have you ever thought that that's exactly what some people want on this site and not just single guys I may add? I guess not then. :roll:
Yup, done that and continue to do so.
Worth every mile (kilometre now) for the privilege of meeting some really great, genuine people
The fact is, since we live in France, there is no way of stating your exact location and France is 3 times the size of the UK
So, you can't tar everyone with the same brush just because there is no "distance from you" facility available
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I suppose location matters a lot if all you are after is a quick shag
How profound :roll: So you would be willing to travel say 200 miles for say friendship or to strike up a regular relationship would you? I can assure you that's last thing I am looking for or indeed have found. But hey have you ever thought that that's exactly what some people want on this site and not just single guys I may add? I guess not then. :roll:
since we live in France, there is no way of stating your exact location and France is 3 times the size of the UK
So, you can't tar everyone with the same brush just because there is no "distance from you" facility available
So just who was it who mentioned "EXACT location" then as it certainly wasn't me?
I think you will find I used words like "county and a rough area". France on your profile will do and without looking at your profile maybe you do put France which is fair enough of course. Your not the only ones on here (as I am sure you know) who live in France as I have seen France (along with other countries) stated on profiles. So no problem there at all. 
Sex God
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One thing I find hard to understand when it comes to ads and profiles on here is the number of people who have N/A next to their location. Often these people ( couples and single fems in particular) can't accom and expect you to arrange an hotel or meet at your place.
Now forgive me if I have missed something here but why? Why put just NA when they could at least put their county? Surely it isn't too much to ask? I no longer reply to such ads or even read them as I am fed up of "sorry you live too far away" responses if I get any at all. At least the general location as in the county is not too much to ask nor is it giving much away (I assume they are either paranoid about getting found out on here or perhaps fakers anyway and we know there are many of them) For their own reasons it might not be NA for them but its surely is for most of us don't you think?
*****i wasn't confused at all, i tried to answer your questions. now i'm not saying that it's too much to have your county in your profile but can you not just understand that not everyone wants to? it doesn't matter really. you are either interested in them or not and vice versa. it doesn't cost you to send a pm and it may not matter whether they are local or not if they just don't want to meet you. you could always just stick to an advert of your own and state exactly what you want and that should anyone get intouch with you you want to know where abouts they live.
on the other hand.....
***** you already have your solution.
simple really
whips
What she said.
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So you would be willing to travel say 200 miles for say friendship or to strike up a regular relationship would you?
Yes, and have done.
Sex God
Quote by Freckledbird
So you would be willing to travel say 200 miles for say friendship or to strike up a regular relationship would you?
Yes, and have done.
so have I.. and I think that people who have been here for years and years, will remember that people use to travel all over the country for the 4-5 munches a year, so maybe distance didn't mean as much then as it apparently does now....
maybe I am now in the minority where distance doesn't matter and I will try to support events all over the country where I can.... if i meet people for the "other" stuff, then that is a bonus
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I suppose location matters a lot if all you are after is a quick shag
How profound :roll: So you would be willing to travel say 200 miles for say friendship or to strike up a regular relationship would you? I can assure you that's last thing I am looking for or indeed have found. But hey have you ever thought that that's exactly what some people want on this site and not just single guys I may add? I guess not then. :roll:
since we live in France, there is no way of stating your exact location and France is 3 times the size of the UK
So, you can't tar everyone with the same brush just because there is no "distance from you" facility available
So just who was it who mentioned "EXACT location" then as it certainly wasn't me?
I think you will find I used words like "county and a rough area". France on your profile will do and without looking at your profile maybe you do put France which is fair enough of course. Your not the only ones on here (as I am sure you know) who live in France as I have seen France (along with other countries) stated on profiles. So no problem there at all.You're worse than me at being pedantic :shock:
OK, OK for "exact" read "more specific, like a County" as opposed to N/A which you mentioned in your op :roll:
