Natural Orgasms

Does anyone else have trouble reaching Orgasm naturally?

I've never had any real problem 'cumming' by normal means,from my first penetrative orgasm in my late teens,to clitoral stimulation by finger or oral.

Recently though (last 18 months) I'm finding it harder and harder to climax via penetration,we started playing with toys a llittle while ago,my rabbit was great and then I tried a very powerful 'bullet vibro' and an almost industrial strength are super effective and give me multiple climaxes,however I seem to have lost my ability to orgasm whilst fucking!

Occasional if we fuck 'Cowgirl' and I grind myself forward I can experience an orgasm but it's very hard work and I have to concentrate all the time,even then its only maybe one in ten times that I reach climax!

I feel myself approaching orgasm when I'm in the doggy position but never quite get there,sex is still enjoyable but I'm worried now since I could cum in a whole variety of positions only a year ago and now feel reliant on 'buzzing plastic'.

I've recently decided not to use them anymore and have put away my toys,but its frustrating to have sex and not orgasm.

Would be grateful for any advice or to hear from others in a similar position!

Y x  

Hi, I understand exactly what you are saying. My partner has had the same experience in recent times. We bought a We-Vibe and have to say it is now our most used toy in the box! It is small and comfortable for both of us, but gives a real buzz (literally} to penetrative sex. I realise this is still using 'buzzing plastic' but it is so must more intimate than anything else which gives her a strong orgasm.

Good luck in finding what you are looking for.

Love Simon x

Hi Simon,

Thankyou for the advice, We-Vibe and similar seem quite a popular toy,it looks alot of fun and would maybe be a good way to 're-programme' my mind to associate an orgasm with worth giving it a try.

Thanks Y x