why do naturist get uptight when they say they are not swingers met a couple last night socially and that was the first thing they said i mean you wouldnt walk in to a pub and say to a couple were not swingers is it something to do that you are seen naked and are getting looked at ?
Trying to work out the posting but if I have it right the couple in question were only being up-front about their activities. For many people naturism is a way of life. Many children (as were ours) are raised within the safety of the naturist movement. Many naturists would be liberal in terms of no clothes worn but would baulk at the prospect of anything else happening. Swinging does go on at naturist venues but it is done discreetly. Really it is a case of some do, some don't. Many textiles confuse the two and wrongly assume that all naturists are in and out of eachother's beds.
Smooth2
Bell,
You have summed the naturist ideal up perfectly in your last paragraph. The most wonderful naturist experience that we had was at TB in West Wales after being told that I had to undergo major surgery. The out of season visit meant that we were just about the only ones there. The owner had brought in cattle to graze the grass. With our daughter in the pushchair and toddler son we walked around the lagoon area. Cattle are very inquisitive and it wasn't long before we were surrounded and they were walking beside us. Coming from a farming background we had no fears of the cattle and but it was the most amazing 'back to nature' experience and one we'll never forget.
Smooth2
There is always the risk of saying something about yourself which is taken quite differently by other people. So it sounds as if this is what happened. The naturists just need to be more careful who they speak to and under what circumstances. Not that they need to feel its wrong to do so,but to avoid having to deal with a tedious and pointless conversation or reactions from other people.
What is probably more questionable is why they should choose to use swingers as an example of people they don't wish to appear to be. Misdirecting? Pointing the finger elsewhere? Easiest way out?
Also people can feel confronted by other people's activities and they are not really sure how to take it or respond to it. So they often say the controversial thing, knowing its a convenient way to either end or contain a conversation; where it suits them.
which is equally frustrating to the naturists as they now have to follow what is a predetermined conversation; which cuts out any real interaction.
being unfamiliar and embarrassed seems to account for a lot of behaviour.
