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Orgasminator
welcome to the nuthouse , we adopt shy folks on our staffs thread and break em in, youd be welcome to come and have a look
Orgasminator
and :welcome: to SH 
Hi , welcome to SH , everyone here is very nice , we all just want to have some harmless fun in a world that is often not as nice as it could or should be. The usual suggestion is to join in the forums , chat in the chat room , PM people where you seem to be on the same wavelength , and then turn up to some of the umpressuried meetings which are posted in"Lets Meet Up" , probably in that order . :!: 
Orgasminator
Hi Sweety!! Nice to see another newbie
Orgasminator
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewpost/102532.html#102532
here we'll look after to you till you venture out into the big forum like givemeahug did, lol
here we'll look after to you till you venture out into the big forum like givemeahug did, lol
Sex God
Hi and welcome from me, Sweetie - I hope you enjoy it here.
Mike.
Mike.
Thank you so much to you all! I have a question! Iam shy about my body as well how will I combine the feelings and dream I got with the shyness of my body! I would like to do so much and not feel shy about it! Maybe it is because I hide my inner fantasies I dont know! Can anybody help me on this?
Orgasminator
Quote by sweety1909
Thank you so much to you all! I have a question! Iam shy about my body as well how will I combine the feelings and dream I got with the shyness of my body! I would like to do so much and not feel shy about it! Maybe it is because I hide my inner fantasies I dont know! Can anybody help me on this?
every girl ive spoke to on here as said they are unattractive, now not that ive ever asked for pics but when ever ive been sent one im yet to see a girl that is, we all harbour feelings about our bodies in one way or another , for about twenty years my circumsision was enough for me to hide my nudity in the showers at the local swimming baths etc, of course that was being silly but it shows how we can be, now im confident and couldnt give a shit what folks think as im bloody perfect, just like you are but you havent realised it yet.
Orgasminator
check your pms sweety
Hi and :welcome:
Although I'm a fairly confident person generally I have real doubts and shynesses over my body. Having had two children and gained 4 dress sizes I feel very different and not as sexy as I did when I last went "man catching". It's taken me a long time to listen to others (and a bit of dieting too) and start feeling sexy again. Nerves are a biggest part of my fear, in fact I've never been topless on a beach I've always felt so self concious.
We talked a lot about swinging, then formed a small group with some online friends we knew were into the same, met them and got more comfy. Then we took the step of going to a club .... everyone was in the boat and actually stripping off and getting to see what others were doing was fantastic and gave me a real boost (so did the gropes I got lmao).
We borrowed a camera and took some photos and whilst most of then were bad ones, a few were excellent and I've adopted my favourite as my avatar.
Lots of people have said how they like it and although i've never said anythng to them ... which I guess I should have done really ..... they really have boosted my confidence by a million. No longer is it just my hubby telling me I'm sexy but others too.
Stick around and honestly once you get to know a few people then your confidence does grow and you can open up honestly .......
Hope you enjoy yourself
Calista x
Although I'm a fairly confident person generally I have real doubts and shynesses over my body. Having had two children and gained 4 dress sizes I feel very different and not as sexy as I did when I last went "man catching". It's taken me a long time to listen to others (and a bit of dieting too) and start feeling sexy again. Nerves are a biggest part of my fear, in fact I've never been topless on a beach I've always felt so self concious.
We talked a lot about swinging, then formed a small group with some online friends we knew were into the same, met them and got more comfy. Then we took the step of going to a club .... everyone was in the boat and actually stripping off and getting to see what others were doing was fantastic and gave me a real boost (so did the gropes I got lmao).
We borrowed a camera and took some photos and whilst most of then were bad ones, a few were excellent and I've adopted my favourite as my avatar.
Lots of people have said how they like it and although i've never said anythng to them ... which I guess I should have done really ..... they really have boosted my confidence by a million. No longer is it just my hubby telling me I'm sexy but others too.
Stick around and honestly once you get to know a few people then your confidence does grow and you can open up honestly .......
Hope you enjoy yourself
Calista x
Quote by sweety1909
Iam shy about my body as well how will I combine the feelings and dream I got with the shyness of my body! I would like to do so much and not feel shy about it!
Hiya Sweety
Welcome to the forums
I know exactly where you're coming from with the shy thing. When I first joined here I kinda felt I was stuck between a rock and a hard place - my body was raring to go and up for it, but my mind was still stuck in 'embarrassed' mode.
What helped me in the end was to say to myself that I did want to give this a shot, just go for it, if it all goes pear shaped then I don't ever have to see or speak to the guy again. Even more frightening was we decided to go to Rios for our first time!!! Was like a rabbit caught in headlights going into that place for the first time :shock: Very weird, meeting someone for the first time and its naked meet ups.
I've mentioned this bit before but it did also help break the ice in a weird way - being the clumsy oaf I am, I tried stepping in the jacuzzi all elegant and ladylike, missed the last step and ended up doing a big belly flop, boobs flying everywhere :lol2: ...... certainly took my mind off the naked issue and onto the mascara now halfway down my face issue! :shock:
Sorry, rambling here, but the mindset I had ( just go for it, I didn't have to see him again and take from it what I wanted) worked for me. Saying that tho - I knew that I was 100% sure I wanted to do it, I was just fighting shyness. If you have any doubts about it, then don't do it. Think about it some more, take your time and only go for it when you are absolutely certain about it. There's no rush, enjoy the journey and the fantasies on the way to the actual event - for some, the fantasy is enough and will stay there. Whatever suits you is right ok
Good luck and in the mean time, enjoy the site :D
Oh that was so nice to be so open to me! I will try to be more like that, just will take time I guess! I have giot a bad scar on my breast and that bothers me...I keeped my inner feelings to myself for so many years been faithfull to my hubby, but now its my turn...Iam still a bit in shock but relived as well as I said now I can let my mind run wild I hope!
Orgasminator
what you forgot to mention was that all of a sudden the empty jaccuzi began filling with men, am i wrong , when ever ive been to rios ive sat and watched the lady chase, you know what i mean girl gets out of sauna heads for pool five guys leave sauna,and head for pool area, girl tries water with toe and then turns , five guys think what the fuck are we gfoing to do know so all try pool with toe and then proceed to follow the girl back to the sauna , im not knocking Rios btw its a fine place and very very friendly, but from my point of view , ive never been there looking for anything more than a chill out and a massage, it really is funny
I would love to do it, but be worried being on my own.....will there be more poeple I can chat to and have a drink and chat some more and just do it when Iam comfy, will poeple respect my taking time joining in? Iam in essex so I have not a clu what so ever, but in my heard Iam ready to go and have fun, just this sill feeling embarassed, will poeple help you to guide you into the situation?
Sorry so many questions! Will the other woman help you with your shyness?
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Sorry so many questions! Will the other woman help you with your shyness?
: Orgasminator
youll get to know folks on here , percent will be totally understanding about your feelings they are a sensible bunch, that of course leaves the other guy who is a complete psycho, hes on here to, so be careful, ask around regular posters to verify peoples honesty, dont be shy about your safety , perhaps meeting a girl and going to rios muight be better for your first time than some feller you dont know, just be sure its waht you want to do, a great place to chill btw and nudity isnt absoulutely required, you have a towel wrapped round you if you want and most folks do when they are out fo the water, good luck
Midsmale 
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
That's exactly what it was like ........ I stayed in the jacuzzi most of the time, was a superb place for people watching, so funny some of the guys :lol2:
Sweety, if you take a look in the 'lets meet up' forum, you will see a Sticky for a London Munch. This would be a great starting point for you - we all meet up in a pub and just have a drink and a good laugh together. Nothing more than that, a purely social evening - it would give you chance to meet us face to face and see that we are exactly the same as you, with the same worries
You can chat to any of us about things, then you can make more decisions from there.
Someone once tried to organise a get together at Rios, but it didn't happen in the end. Would be good if a bunch of girlies could invade the place together, safety in numbers etc. Anyone up for organising it?
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: That's exactly what it was like ........ I stayed in the jacuzzi most of the time, was a superb place for people watching, so funny some of the guys :lol2:
Sweety, if you take a look in the 'lets meet up' forum, you will see a Sticky for a London Munch. This would be a great starting point for you - we all meet up in a pub and just have a drink and a good laugh together. Nothing more than that, a purely social evening - it would give you chance to meet us face to face and see that we are exactly the same as you, with the same worries
You can chat to any of us about things, then you can make more decisions from there.Someone once tried to organise a get together at Rios, but it didn't happen in the end. Would be good if a bunch of girlies could invade the place together, safety in numbers etc. Anyone up for organising it?
Orgasminator
nice av sweety, well done girl, now go get em... ..
.. Orgasminator
youll see on my reply "quote" click it and reply under it , then people know what you are erefering to
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like this
Quote by JudyTV
Hello Sweety and welcome to the forum
You will find all you desire here and your apparent shyness will disappear quite quickly. The people on here will lift you and inspire you and give you all the confidence you will need. They will welcome you with open arms and help and guide you so that you can find whatever it is you are looking for. I know because I am testament to all of this and have been welcomed here like nowhere else I have ever been before in this so called “normal worldâ€.
Have fun and enjoy.
JudyTV
You look beautifull and good on you!
Thank you for the Welcome! I hope people will like me!
