Hi there My name is Tasha and im 29....myself and my partner have been thinking about the swinging scene for a while now,and decided that it would be fun to try it out....im bi curious,and my partner is straight, not sure wha to expect really,can anyone tell me about their 1st experiences/feelings??? Or is that pushing my luck lol
I'm not into hardcore stuff,and Ive told my other half i don't want us to have full sex with other people,does it sound like im being a fussy cow? I would like there to be something special left for us to enjoy...Do you have any rules...did u break them or you still sticking with them? Do people think your a prude or respect you for them..im really interested to know. And also the size question...does it matter to you?? Im slim,with no tits lol...and wish i had more,does any of this matter?
Sorry for so many questions
Tasha
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Sex God
HiyaWelcome to the forum take your time and settle in and all will become clear. Get yourself a mentor see the sticky near the top of the cafe and they will help you fit in with the minimum amount of fuss. If not use your search button for previous post as there's just about a thread for every question.
Enjoy!!!!!
Love Fire and Storm xx
Hi Tasha
we've been on the site for about a month now and everyone is dead friendly and welcoming! We haven't met anyone off the site yet, but we've been to Chams - i was totally new to the scene too until my first visit there!
For me the two things that stands out about the scene are:
There's someone for eveyone! Doesn't matter what you look like, someone out there will like it.
There's no pressure - do what you want to do and just go with it!
Loving it, glad I got involved.
we've been on the site for about a month now and everyone is dead friendly and welcoming! We haven't met anyone off the site yet, but we've been to Chams - i was totally new to the scene too until my first visit there!
For me the two things that stands out about the scene are:
There's someone for eveyone! Doesn't matter what you look like, someone out there will like it.
There's no pressure - do what you want to do and just go with it!
Loving it, glad I got involved.
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Hi there My name is Tasha and im 29....myself and my partner have been thinking about the swinging scene for a while now,and decided that it would be fun to try it out....im bi curious,and my partner is straight, not sure wha to expect really,can anyone tell me about their 1st experiences/feelings??? Or is that pushing my luck lol
I'm not into hardcore stuff,and Ive told my other half i don't want us to have full sex with other people,does it sound like im being a fussy cow? I would like there to be something special left for us to enjoy...Do you have any rules...did u break them or you still sticking with them? Do people think your a prude or respect you for them..im really interested to know. And also the size question...does it matter to you?? Im slim,with no tits lol...and wish i had more,does any of this matter?
Sorry for so many questions
Tasha
xx
What your looking for youngangel77 is how quite a few start with when they first start swinging, its called softswing. basically meens touching, kissing and maybe licking, anything really but without penetrative sex.
Your not being a prude at all, in this game, if someone can't respect your wishes then there not worth meeting anyway, talk about your ground rules between you and your partner then stick to them, only ever brake them if its something you both really want.
I am slightly more filled than slim but i also hardly have any tits and its never been a problem for me so don't worry at all, on a site this large, there is all kinds of likes and dislikes so it don't matter what little things that may worry you, to someone else there wonderful
And your not being fussy no, we all have our ground rules just at various levels.
Don't worry, sit back, relax and take everything at your own speed and you will be sure to have fun :D
Shaz x
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Hi there My name is Tasha and im 29....myself and my partner have been thinking about the swinging scene for a while now,and decided that it would be fun to try it out....im bi curious,and my partner is straight, not sure wha to expect really,can anyone tell me about their 1st experiences/feelings??? Or is that pushing my luck lol
I'm not into hardcore stuff,and Ive told my other half i don't want us to have full sex with other people,does it sound like im being a fussy cow? I would like there to be something special left for us to enjoy...Do you have any rules...did u break them or you still sticking with them? Do people think your a prude or respect you for them..im really interested to know. And also the size question...does it matter to you?? Im slim,with no tits lol...and wish i had more,does any of this matter?
Sorry for so many questions
Tasha
xx
What your looking for youngangel77 is how quite a few start with when they first start swinging, its called softswing. basically meens touching, kissing and maybe licking, anything really but without not penetrative sex.
Your not being a prude at all, in this game, if someone can't respect your wishes then there not worth meeting anyway, talk about your ground rules between you and your partner then stick to them, only ever brake them if its something you both really want.
I am slightly more filled than slim but i also hardly have any tits and its never been a problem for me so don't worry at all, on a site this large, there is all kinds of likes and dislikes so it don't matter what little things that may worry you, to someone else there wonderful
And your not being fussy no, we all have our ground rules just at various levels.
Don't worry, sit back, relax and take everything at your own speed and you will be sure to have fun :D
Shaz x
Thanks shaz,you have put my mind at rest abit....im really excited aswell, can't wait to meet a few people,and have a fantastic time!!
I think we will always stick to the rules we have made,i feel happy with them,he does,but know he would like to have full sex with people we meet,but he is respecting my wishes....so thanks guys xx
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Thanks shaz,you have put my mind at rest abit....im really excited aswell, can't wait to meet a few people,and have a fantastic time!!
I think we will always stick to the rules we have made,i feel happy with them,he does,but know he would like to have full sex with people we meet,but he is respecting my wishes....so thanks guys xx
Well to start with, we was very nervous and when we first joined the site was only after a female for me to play with but now we have progressed to quite a bit more :twisted:
You start what you both are comfortable with, you can always try other things at a later date if you wished to, there is no rush at all
Shaz x
Hi Tasha and welcome to Swinging Heaven :welcome: I too am new here, like me I am sure you will find that this is a great communtiy to be a part of and I am sure you wont look back!
I think choosing to soft swing is a good one and genuine swingers wont mind at all. I would say that respect goes hand in hand in the scene so you shouldn't worry
As firelizard said get yourself a mentor, I have and am really grateful for the help and advice I have been given so far
Don't worry about what you look like, the beautiful thing about people is they have a particular type or long as they have a great personallity and you get on, then that's all that matters!
Good luck and have lots of fun
I think choosing to soft swing is a good one and genuine swingers wont mind at all. I would say that respect goes hand in hand in the scene so you shouldn't worry
As firelizard said get yourself a mentor, I have and am really grateful for the help and advice I have been given so far
Don't worry about what you look like, the beautiful thing about people is they have a particular type or long as they have a great personallity and you get on, then that's all that matters!
Good luck and have lots of fun
Master of Sex
welcome sure u will really enjoy the site we found it so friendly and have made some amazing friends now so all the best and dont worry about been scared every1 is first time (and us still now lol) but ull have a great time xxxx
Orgasminator
and :welcome: to :swingingchair: heaven, there are no hard and fast rules from us they come completely from yourself and what your boundaries are. Whatever they maybe im sure you will have lots of fun within them :twisted: and when you are more settled YOU may wish to expand them.Have fun Mids n newt xx
Hi Angel
We are fairly new to site. Although been in the scene for a while it still takes a while to get to know how it all runs. Be as fussy as you like. I was bi curious fem and my first time was with a brilliant couple. Looks are not really important so long as you can have a laugh and have a bit of chemistry.
Could I suggest you try a no pressure party for your first actual meets. That way you can just watch and join in as and when you like. Most people on SH are pretty cool and i've never met anyone who didnt respect boundaries.
Anyway good luck and have fun. I'm sure it wont be long before you drop the curious and become bi
jublit
We are fairly new to site. Although been in the scene for a while it still takes a while to get to know how it all runs. Be as fussy as you like. I was bi curious fem and my first time was with a brilliant couple. Looks are not really important so long as you can have a laugh and have a bit of chemistry.
Could I suggest you try a no pressure party for your first actual meets. That way you can just watch and join in as and when you like. Most people on SH are pretty cool and i've never met anyone who didnt respect boundaries.
Anyway good luck and have fun. I'm sure it wont be long before you drop the curious and become bi
jublit
Hi Angel
We are fairly new to site. Although been in the scene for a while it still takes a while to get to know how it all runs. Be as fussy as you like. I was bi curious fem and my first time was with a brilliant couple. Looks are not really important so long as you can have a laugh and have a bit of chemistry.
Could I suggest you try a no pressure party for your first actual meets. That way you can just watch and join in as and when you like. Most people on SH are pretty cool and i've never met anyone who didnt respect boundaries.
Anyway good luck and have fun. I'm sure it wont be long before you drop the curious and become bi
jublit
We are fairly new to site. Although been in the scene for a while it still takes a while to get to know how it all runs. Be as fussy as you like. I was bi curious fem and my first time was with a brilliant couple. Looks are not really important so long as you can have a laugh and have a bit of chemistry.
Could I suggest you try a no pressure party for your first actual meets. That way you can just watch and join in as and when you like. Most people on SH are pretty cool and i've never met anyone who didnt respect boundaries.
Anyway good luck and have fun. I'm sure it wont be long before you drop the curious and become bi
jublit
have to compleatly agree we joined the site for the bi experiance for mrs ninja and she /we have changed our rules accordingly.......our rules and chats evolve and happen constantly as a result,
and to youngangel77.....welcome and chill, you dont have to be nervouse these lot wont bite........much he he :twisted:
Well to start with, we was very nervous and when we first joined the site was only after a female for me to play with but now we have progressed to quite a bit more :twisted:
You start what you both are comfortable with, you can always try other things at a later date if you wished to, there is no rush at all
Shaz x
and to youngangel77.....welcome and chill, you dont have to be nervouse these lot wont bite........much he he :twisted:
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Thanks shaz,you have put my mind at rest abit....im really excited aswell, can't wait to meet a few people,and have a fantastic time!!
I think we will always stick to the rules we have made,i feel happy with them,he does,but know he would like to have full sex with people we meet,but he is respecting my wishes....so thanks guys xx
Well to start with, we was very nervous and when we first joined the site was only after a female for me to play with but now we have progressed to quite a bit more :twisted:
You start what you both are comfortable with, you can always try other things at a later date if you wished to, there is no rush at all
Shaz x
