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Hello, I'm in need of some advice!
I'm due to go to an interview on Friday for a new job. I haven't been to one for quite a while as I've been with the same company for 4 years although I've had a few in that time.
I know all about dressing smart to make a good impression etc but I get really really nervous when going to interviews. I'm not very good at praising myself and I stutter and can't seem to get words out. It makes me look so stupid and I'm not but I can't get accross what I want to say.
Does anyone have any tips that will help me to stay calm and not feel so stupid? I've tried deep breathing exercises but that doesn't help.
I really want this job and know I can do it but I need to make a good impression.
Thank you in anticipation!
K biggrin
Make a list of what you want to say or ask. It ensures you don't forget anything and will impress them that you have gone to the trouble of preparing for the interview. cool 8-) 8-) 8-) 8-)
I agree with the Sarge:
Make a list & maybe practise in a mirror about presenting yourself, better still get a friend to sit with you & ask you questions about the job, prospects etc.
The better prepared you are the more confident you will feel & hence look
The WHOOSH Man
Hiya Onlyme....
I've been to a few interviews myself these past few weeks and can only echo the above comments.
One thing i'd definately add is to find out as much information about the place where you want to work as possible.
If they have a website.... find out as much as you can.... All employers value staff that make an effort to know their company etc....
Good luck
Paul
wen you are going to speak and you stutter
try this
before you actualy say anyhting take one instant deep breath then speak
i think you will find that may work
any time u feel a stutter comming on just do it
one instant quick deep breath
harry
Good luck with the interview biggrin I get really nervous as well but find once I've done a few I get back into the routine of it.
There is of course the idea of picturing the interviewers naked to help with nerves, but I've always found that it distracts me and I stop paying attention to the questions ! wink
Whenever I go for an Interview I go out for a nice walk beforehand, collect all my thoughts, put into my head what I want to say, but I don't overanalyse.
I take a number of deep breaths and then just go with it.
I find it works for me, but everyone is different.
Sean
From an employers perspective.................
Explain to the interviewer, that you stutter when nervous and ask them to "bear with you"Any reasonable interviewer will understand. Interviewing is not an easy process and it could be that the other person is just as nervous as you are.
If your are asked a question and your not sure how to answer say, "just give me a second to think about that" and pause till you compose yourself.
This shows you are giving the matter serious thought and arnt hasty.
Before you go to the interview make sure you understand the job description fully and get someone else to help you stage a mock interview, this will help your nerves on the day.
Good luck
I have been to a few interviews myself recently and the best advice is preparation!
(Fail to prepare = prepare to fail)
Remember, you have been in your current job 4 years which is a massive 'tick in the box' for potential employers.
I agree with everyone's comments so far and personally like to make sure I have spent time reading a potential employer's website, or even mystery shop them if appropriate. From a website, consider any recent news they are reporting and look for company history and their Values/Mission Statement. I then like to look at the job description and write down examples of how I have carried out/achieved something in my past. Lastly, using what information regarding comany values or mission statement I note down the qualities that I bring to the business that fit in with how they say they operate.
This is not about reciting preprepared statements whilst in the interview, the objective is to gain the confidence by agreeing with yourself rationally that you can a)do the job and b)fit in with the business.
If you are struggling with pinpointing your own qualities, ask people that know you to tell you their opinion.
P.S. The best advice i got for a job interview was the use of BS, BS and more BS (and it worked!)
onlyme, first of all best of luck! fingers crossed.
now repeat after me, all the way to the interview, and while you're sat waiting to go in . . . .
"i am a confident, articulate woman. i am the best woman for the job!"
"i am a confident, articulate woman. i am the best woman for the job!"
"i am a confident, articulate woman. i am the best woman for the job!"
you need to believe it's true, and convince yourself of it. it works for me ( tho obviously the woman bit doesn't work in my case! :smile: ) ;-)
neil x x x x ;-)
Unless the appt sought is very high profile, most employers will make up thier mind about you in the first 20 seconds. It is there fore imperative that you look confident - i.e. stand tall; look the interviewer in the eye; firm handshake.
The next stage is body language in the interview ..... Do I need to go into those bits?
With regards to a stutter ...... Prepare yourself as well as you can in advance; by and large the interviewer wants to hear about you. It isn't a power game where the other party is trying to intimnidate you...... So, take your time with your answer; speak slowly and clearly and, like scuba diving, remember to keep breathing!
For future reference, there are some very good books on interview techniques and how to avoid and answer what are called "noose questions".
Quote by foxylady 123
From an employers perspective.................
Explain to the interviewer, that you stutter when nervous and ask them to "bear with you"Any reasonable interviewer will understand. Interviewing is not an easy process and it could be that the other person is just as nervous as you are.
If your are asked a question and your not sure how to answer say, "just give me a second to think about that" and pause till you compose yourself.
This shows you are giving the matter serious thought and arnt hasty.
Before you go to the interview make sure you understand the job description fully and get someone else to help you stage a mock interview, this will help your nerves on the day.
Good luck

Foxy ladies advice is spot on!
As an employer myself, i always think that some nerves is good! You are only nervous because you want to give a good impression - which indicates that you CARE!
As the above advise says - if you want - ask to think - and pause - its shows you are evaluating your response and not just blurting stuff out ( and of course gives you time to steady yourself!
GOOD LUCK!
Wearing the shirt you have in the avatar cant hurt either !!
G cool
Ok, this is quite possibly the longest post I've done so apologies! I wanted to thank you all personally as you've obviously gone to effort to give your advice.
Quote by Sgt Bilko
Make a list of what you want to say or ask. It ensures you don't forget anything and will impress them that you have gone to the trouble of preparing for the interview. cool 8-) 8-) 8-) 8-)

Thank you Sarge, I have now compiled a list of various questions I'd like to ask. I'm sure there will be more added as the interview progresses but I've made a start!
SlydeWHOOSH wrote:
Make a list & maybe practise in a mirror about presenting yourself, better still get a friend to sit with you & ask you questions about the job, prospects etc.
The better prepared you are the more confident you will feel & hence look

Thanks Whoosh, I did the practicein front of the mirror this morning and must say I felt a complete prat but I know how to handle myself now.
PaulnSusie wrote:
One thing i'd definately add is to find out as much information about the place where you want to work as possible.
If they have a website.... find out as much as you can.... All employers value staff that make an effort to know their company etc....

Than you Paul, I've looked on their website and although it's still under contruction I've now found out a bit more about the company. They are part of a bigger group so I looked at their website too so I have a bit more background knowledge!
harry_n_wendy wrote:
wen you are going to speak and you stutter
try this
before you actualy say anyhting take one instant deep breath then speak
i think you will find that may work
any time u feel a stutter comming on just do it
one instant quick deep breath

Thank you Harry, I've tried this technique on several occasions but it doesn't seem to work for me. I don't have a problem with this in everyday life just when I'm nervous so if I ever get to a Munch.... you'll all know who I am!
triptix wrote:
There is of course the idea of picturing the interviewers naked to help with nerves, but I've always found that it distracts me and I stop paying attention to the questions

Thank you for that! I've been told to do that one before and have only managed it on one occasion! Good tip though!
LoverOfOlderLadies wrote:
Whenever I go for an Interview I go out for a nice walk beforehand, collect all my thoughts, put into my head what I want to say, but I don't overanalyse

I'm going to do this one - There is a lovely park near to where the interview is so I'll have a nice short walk, then I'll be ready!
foxylady 123 wrote:
From an employers perspective.................
Explain to the interviewer, that you stutter when nervous and ask them to "bear with you"Any reasonable interviewer will understand. Interviewing is not an easy process and it could be that the other person is just as nervous as you are.
If your are asked a question and your not sure how to answer say, "just give me a second to think about that" and pause till you compose yourself.
This shows you are giving the matter serious thought and arnt hasty.
Before you go to the interview make sure you understand the job description fully and get someone else to help you stage a mock interview, this will help your nerves on the day.

Thank you, I have asked for a bit of time before answering a question in a previous interview but it felt wrong to do so and I got a few funny looks! I've always steered clear of doing it again but maybe it's because they were old battleaxes who didn't know how to interview anyone! I've now read the advertisement with an expert eye and I know exactly what they are looking for and I know I fit the job!
Chris148 wrote:
(Fail to prepare = prepare to fail)
Remember, you have been in your current job 4 years which is a massive 'tick in the box' for potential employers.

Thanks Chris- I'm now taking all this advice very seriously and I'm going to be fully prepared. I suppose being wirth my current company for 4 years shows I have loyalty and I've decided I'm not going to be negative about why I'm leaving as that will show me in a bad light.
neilinleeds wrote:
now repeat after me, all the way to the interview, and while you're sat waiting to go in . . . .
"i am a confident, articulate woman. i am the best woman for the job!"

lol Neil - Thank you. I'll try it but I'm not sure I'll stick to it. I'll probably get it all muddled up and start slating myself! hehehe
Crosspatch - Thank you and I agree with all you said and I'm going to try my hardest to look, think and act confidently!
lincskate - Thanks, In a way I am glad I'm nervous as it's something I really want and hopefully that will show through in the interview!
Silk and Big G - I'll be wearing a proper suit for a change so no chance of me wearing the top I have on in my Avatar! Anyway I wouldn't want to attract attention in that way seeing as though the interviewer is a lady and I'm not into that! If I was though....... lol
Thank you to you all for your great advice - it is very much appreciated. I'm going to follow all the suggestions - I'll let you know how I get on!
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If you dont mind my asking, what type of job are you going for?
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If you dont mind my asking, what type of job are you going for?

It's for a client account administrator - for a Recruitment agency - much better prospects than what I'm doing at the moment!
It may not seem very high profile (people have told me so) but it's what I want to get into and I really want it!
Quote by onlyme1981
If you dont mind my asking, what type of job are you going for?

It's for a client account administrator - for a Recruitment agency - much better prospects than what I'm doing at the moment!
It may not seem very high profile (people have told me so) but it's what I want to get into and I really want it!

Right, your gonna be responsible for managing client accounts that have already been won by a consultant.
What they will be looking for is personality & charm, cos its gonna be your job to keep the clients sweet.
Recruitment can be very high profile and is can be very rewarding both financially and in job satisfaction - not uncommon for an experienced consultant to earn 60 - 100k a year.
Best thing is be yourself - your going to an interview in an industry where ppl really know about interviews
However is they spot a bit of 'blagging' they will probably see it as a good point - your obviously competent at thinking on your feet.
Good Luck
Dx
Quote by onlyme1981
Does anyone have any tips that will help me to stay calm and not feel so stupid?

I have just recently started a new job, but I am so so lucky in as much as that I dont suffer with any nerves. The interview I had for my new job consisted of an hour and a half of my new boss and I taking the piss out of each other.....
There are three bits of advice I can offer...
No 1 - SMILE biggrin It not only helps you to relax but makes you appear friendly and approachable...
No 2 - As crosspatch said
Unless the appt sought is very high profile, most employers will make up thier mind about you in the first 20 seconds. It is there fore imperative that you look confident - i.e. stand tall; look the interviewer in the eye; firm handshake.

No 3 - Keep jewellery and make-up to a minimum, and no loud colours as this tends to distract from what you are saying to your interviewers. Also short skirts are a no no, especially if the interviewer is a woman ;)
Hope this helps and good luck with the interview. kiss
Quote by onlyme1981
I'm due to go to an interview on Friday for a new job.

Good Luck - I hope you beat those nerves and it goes well !!
Yeah... Good Luck
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