Hi everyone. I am a 27 year old woman who is interested in finding out more about swinging. I would love to be with a woman but have never done it. I have a boyfriend but, although he knows about my fantasies, he doesn't know that I have registered here. I don't know whether to involve him in this or not. Any advice would be most welcome!
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Sex God
Firstly welcome to the forum.... 
Secondly involve your partner (Im sure he'll be very accomodating), its never a good idea to hide things from each other in my opinion.
Have Fun
Molly & Chris
Secondly involve your partner (Im sure he'll be very accomodating), its never a good idea to hide things from each other in my opinion.
Have Fun
Molly & Chris
Sex God
Welcome to the forum.
Get him involved. secrets will lead to major problems within the relationship.
This is obviously something that you feel strongly about and will most definitely pursue. It is better that you tell him about it NOW as it will be so difficult to do later and if he finds out he will feel betrayed.
Best thing to do would be chat about it more and get him involved with it and discuss a swinging site, with regards to meeting women only, to get the ball rolling and if he is really disgusted or negative, well you have to decide whether to cheat on him or ditch him! Personally if it something you feel strongly about it is never going to go away and you will end up resenting him if he stops you following your desires.
Above all take care and have fun.
Gill x
P.S Once you do decide to have fun with a woman you might decide that you don't like it but i doubt that very much :twisted:
Get him involved. secrets will lead to major problems within the relationship.
This is obviously something that you feel strongly about and will most definitely pursue. It is better that you tell him about it NOW as it will be so difficult to do later and if he finds out he will feel betrayed.
Best thing to do would be chat about it more and get him involved with it and discuss a swinging site, with regards to meeting women only, to get the ball rolling and if he is really disgusted or negative, well you have to decide whether to cheat on him or ditch him! Personally if it something you feel strongly about it is never going to go away and you will end up resenting him if he stops you following your desires.
Above all take care and have fun.
Gill x
P.S Once you do decide to have fun with a woman you might decide that you don't like it but i doubt that very much :twisted:
Sex God
Quote by BuffSmut
Thank you so much everyone. You're right - this is something I will persue...the problem is, I don't even know where to start!
You have started already by coming in here and joining in.
If you need any help just get your ass up to Dundee and i will gladly help you out
Gill x:
Sex God
Hi. :welcome: to the site.
I can sympathise with you. I was on the site about 2 months before I told my other half I was coming here.
The worst bit was when I told her she said "is that it? I thought you were going to leave me for someone else :shock: ".
The longer you leave it the bigger a problem you make of it (hope that makes sense
).
The best way to approach the subject is when you're both relaxed and calm. I did it while we were out walking the dog, but we talk about a lot of stuff like this in bed. Just a few ideas, but I hope it helps you out.
As for how he'll take to it. Most blokes love the idea of 2 women, but the cold light of reality could prove entirely different. Just listen to him (and your inner voice) and go at a speed that works for both of you.
easy.
I can sympathise with you. I was on the site about 2 months before I told my other half I was coming here.
The worst bit was when I told her she said "is that it? I thought you were going to leave me for someone else :shock: ".
The longer you leave it the bigger a problem you make of it (hope that makes sense
).The best way to approach the subject is when you're both relaxed and calm. I did it while we were out walking the dog, but we talk about a lot of stuff like this in bed. Just a few ideas, but I hope it helps you out.
As for how he'll take to it. Most blokes love the idea of 2 women, but the cold light of reality could prove entirely different. Just listen to him (and your inner voice) and go at a speed that works for both of you.
easy.
Sex God
Errrr.. :uhoh:
Nope, nope and errr nope.
But I can still understand how hard it can be to tell someone about this kinda stuff.
easy (kinda feeling a bit like a fraud now ).
Nope, nope and errr nope.
But I can still understand how hard it can be to tell someone about this kinda stuff.
easy (kinda feeling a bit like a fraud now
). Sex God
buffsmut
hey and :welcome: to the site.
as easy says, i think getting him to take a look in here, after talking about your fantasies, is the only way forward. he might jump at it, he might not, but i know it's a big part of most blokes fantasy life, allegedly? i wouldn't know! but there are lots of people here who are in your shoes, and wondering how to take the next step. some have decided it's not for them, some go for it bigtime, but it takes all sorts! 
neil x x x ;)
hey and :welcome: to the site.
as easy says, i think getting him to take a look in here, after talking about your fantasies, is the only way forward. he might jump at it, he might not, but i know it's a big part of most blokes fantasy life, allegedly? i wouldn't know!
but there are lots of people here who are in your shoes, and wondering how to take the next step. some have decided it's not for them, some go for it bigtime, but it takes all sorts! neil x x x ;)
:wave: :wave: As has already been said,you should in my opinion let your partner in on the fact your registered is always the best policy in my opinion.
Im sure he really wouldnt mind about your fantasy i know my other half certainly would push me in that direction(if it was needed)
Good luck with however it goes and a great big :welcome: to the cafe!!
Having been a seeker of similar advice of late can i say dont be hurt by the answers you recieve. Most are not what you want to hear but most are sensible and in actual fact sound and honest. It does seem a little harsh to be confronted by the truth but you did ask?????
I have recently told my wife about my 'needs', still waiting for her to talk to me again lol.
I have recently told my wife about my 'needs', still waiting for her to talk to me again lol.
Hi
I'm in the same situation. Don't know if I should tell him or not. It's such a dilema,
I I think I'd like to meet people at a munch first and have a good chat then see how I feel. trouble is I think it's something that needs to be explored but there you go what a pain in the bloody arse 
I'm in the same situation. Don't know if I should tell him or not. It's such a dilema,
I I think I'd like to meet people at a munch first and have a good chat then see how I feel. trouble is I think it's something that needs to be explored but there you go what a pain in the bloody arse Sex God
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Hi
I'm in the same situation. Don't know if I should tell him or not. It's such a dilema,
munches i think are fantastic for this. everyone there has been in the same boat at some point, and among all the heavy drinking and dancing and appalling karaoke, there's some very deep conversation to be had, that *does* help you get lots of things sorted in your head on the whole swinging thing. i can't recommend them enough.
neil x x x ;)
Thank you so much to everyone who gave me advice. You have all really sorted my head out on this one! Just wanted to let you all know that I took your advice, took a deeeep breath, (drank a lot of wine) and told my boyfriend on Friday night what I was thinking of The good news is, he is still with me! I don't really know where we go from here - maybe a club or party...I don't want to start off with anything that will terrify us! Anway, all I really wanted to say was thank you - I feel like a hugh weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Everyone here is so friendly and lovely. Hope to see you soon!!
The good news is, he is still with me! I don't really know where we go from here - maybe a club or party...I don't want to start off with anything that will terrify us! Anway, all I really wanted to say was thank you - I feel like a hugh weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Everyone here is so friendly and lovely. Hope to see you soon!! 
Orgasminator
and :welcome: to the site. :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: Get him involved and if he's not interested there are loads of guys n gals on here that would be!
Sex God
Quote by BuffSmut
Thank you so much to everyone who gave me advice. You have all really sorted my head out on this one! Just wanted to let you all know that I took your advice, took a deeeep breath, (drank a lot of wine) and told my boyfriend on Friday night what I was thinking of
well done buffsmut. proud of you!
stick around on the site, get to know us, let us get to know you, and try and get to a munch sometime. i doubt you'll make any of the forthcoming ones, but there are usually lots of social things going on, with no pressure whatsoever as far as the sex side goes. you just might find lots of answers, and a few people to help you find them for real!
best of luck.
neil x x x ;)
